What do I say to this text?!?

[kassy]

I think if you want to be treated like a grown up and with respect then that is how you treat people. That doesn't mean be a walk-over or send bitchy messages. Just communicate what you want in a reasonable manner and then act appropriately. If someone is treating you badly, then rather than acting like them, you should act like yourself while at the same time removing them from your life.

 

So if it was me I would send a message saying something like. 'Seems like this relationship has run it's course. I think now is a good time to end it, please dont contact me again. Good luck with everything in the future I'm sure xyz that you have been training for will go well. Ciao, kizza'

 

You state what you want, your boundaries and end it. Then stick to it.

[LaFemmeBrille]

I think if you want to be treated like a grown up and with respect then that is how you treat people. That doesn't mean be a walk-over or send bitchy messages. Just communicate what you want in a reasonable manner and then act appropriately. If someone is treating you badly, then rather than acting like them, you should act like yourself while at the same time removing them from your life.

 

So if it was me I would send a message saying something like. 'Seems like this relationship has run it's course. I think now is a good time to end it, please dont contact me again. Good luck with everything in the future I'm sure xyz that you have been training for will go well. Ciao, kizza'

 

You state what you want, your boundaries and end it. Then stick to it.

 

I strongly agree with this. With all the hurt that relationships can bring already, why hurt yourself more by not acting with the utmost integrity possible? For the record, I HATE taking the honorable route sometimes, but at least at the end of the day, I know I tried to behave with dignity and respect--even if that bleeping, bleepin' jerk deserved a diatribe and/or a taste of his own medicine...

 

A short explanation, even in cut-and-run style is better than dropping him out of the blue, imo.

[The Way I Am]

I think if you want to be treated like a grown up and with respect then that is how you treat people.

 

I fully believe in treating people with respect up until they prove by their actions that don't return the respect. It's a lot more fun to treat people who are a-holes to a taste of their own medicine to a reasonable extent.

 

That doesn't mean be a walk-over or send bitchy messages.

 

I don't think anybody suggested sending bitchy messages. I did suggest replying in brief messages, but they should be friendly but aloof and never take the bait. Example: in response to "I'm at Mongoose's" I'd just say "Sounds fun. Have a great time." Then ignore an invitation to join.

 

I want to emphasize that I'm talking about only when you've been strung along for a decent period. They've been dating for a year, and he's blowing her off like she's some girl her just met and isn't very into. Also, not an approach for everyone. After having dealt with enough dbags, it amuses me to treat them in kind when they reveal themselves.

 

So if it was me I would send a message saying something like. 'Seems like this relationship has run it's course. I think now is a good time to end it, please dont contact me again. Good luck with everything in the future I'm sure xyz that you have been training for will go well. Ciao, kizza'

 

You state what you want, your boundaries and end it. Then stick to it.

 

I hope you don't take this personally. I'm not saying it be mean or because I'm angry, because I'm not. IMO, your message above comes off as over dramatic and a bit bitchy given the circumstances and in text form.

 

Eta: If this were a real relationship that were ending for some other reason instead of one where the guy is acting like be is, something like the above would be appropriate in-person conversation.

Edited July 26, 2013 by The Way I Am

[kassy]

When you state boundaries like please don't contact me again. Don't expect acknowledgment. If you get it, or any response then you can ignore that. Which will reinforce your boundaries.

[kariina]

You should text him not to contact you again & that it's over. I mean how about if you end up seeing him somewhere unexpectedly!! He will go up to you and ask you where you've been or something. And most likely you'll cave in if you see him. So if you tell him that it's over through text, you can avoid all this if you see him in person

[The Way I Am]

When you state boundaries like please don't contact me again. Don't expect acknowledgment. If you get it, or any response then you can ignore that. Which will reinforce your boundaries.

 

Kind of weird that you seem to keep replying to things I've said but not replying directly to me... Is that on purpose or is this not a response to what I said 4-5 posts back and is just a general statement that has nothing to do with me? Either way, I ain't mad.

 

I can't speak for everyone, but the only times in the past where I sent the message "don't contact me again" was when I was actually deep down holding out hope that the person would come back with a grand gesture. Since I stopped putting up with crap, I rarely feel the need to be that dramatic.

Edited July 26, 2013 by The Way I Am

[LaFemmeBrille]

 

I can't speak for everyone, but the only times in the past where I sent the message "don't contact me again" was when I was actually deep down holding out hope that the person would come back with a grand gesture. Since I stopped putting up with crap, I rarely feel the need to be that dramatic.

 

I think what makes it dramatic or not is the intent behind the action. So, yes, agree with this if it's meant to elicit a response. But a short, to-the-point explanation will a true determination to end it will possibly help assuage OP's conscience. The letting him know what's going on is for both their benefits.

[The Way I Am]

Point taken, LaFemmeBrille. Intent does matter for the sender's sake. But for the recipient, no matter what the intent, that type of message comes off as dramatic and attention-seeking. Any good feelings from officially breaking it off for me would be outweighed by the feeling of acting like a drama queen by saying "don't contact me again" even if I really with 100% of my being never wanted to talk to them again.

 

Maybe I'm just too old-fashioned, but I also don't think text is a good medium for breaking up with someone. To me, a break-up text is worse etiquette than just politely returning the brush-off that person's been giving and letting things fizzle.

 

If OP needs to feel like she's being fair to him, then I'd suggest telling him they need to talk and having the conversation in person or over the phone. Then just explain that it's not working out and not use the words "don't contact me again" at all during the conversation.

Edited July 26, 2013 by The Way I Am

[Kizza]

oh I just don't know

 

I have sent him a text before saying that I think we should stop seeing each-other. I did try to organize to see him but he refused and wanted to know why I wanted to meet him and he wanted me to tell him immediately what was so important so I text. I agree also that over text is a poor medium. He seemed a bit cut but said ok. I deleted him and didn't speak to him again. This was in April. He contacted me 4 days later with a text saying how annoyed and upset he was that i ended it. I thought **** maybe this guy really likes me more than I thought (stupid me) we got back to seeing each-other again.

 

I don't want the end to be at all horrible.

 

I have not heard from him yet today. I must say the silence has given me more clear answers than when I have spoken up. Every time I have had a talk with him or tried to clarify what this is so I can make a decision I have ended up more confused.

 

Last weekend when he was drunk he told me he was falling for me and that he thought about me all the time. He said please don't run away I won't hurt you. He said "I love you" about 15 times and when I said **** Your'e drunk he said the truth comes out when drunk I put him to bed, nothing happened. We spent the morning together just in each others arms holding hands and it was very affectionate and warm. He said to me in the morning "don't run away just yet, stay for a whilst" I said to him that he had said something like that to me the night before and he said he didn't remember getting home and so yes now he doesn't remember all the things he said (apparently).

 

Then of course Tuesday/Wednesday comes and he is acting like what I have described from the start of this thread.

 

I don't know what is best. I just want this to be as easy as possible and right now the easy thing is not saying anything

 

He has just been so ambiguous with all his communication. Sometimes I am left thinking I am being left on a hook and he is feeding me little bird5hits of hope to keep me there and sometimes I think he is genuine and just wants to take things slow and casual.

 

He is always saying I have been his one constant throughout the last yr or so and he is saying lately how we have known each other so long blah blah ...

 

I don't know urghhhh

Edited July 26, 2013 by Kizza

[LaFemmeBrille]

It's not a fun situation, and I feel for you. I relate to the pain of feeling neglected but not wanting to end it just yet.

 

You know what is best for you and there is a strong voice somewhere telling you what you need to do.

 

Keep in mind, if the only thing stopping you from breaking up is not wanting to be the bad guy, then that is of no benefit to you. You WILL be seen as the bad guy when you stand up for what you want/need regardless!

 

Worse yet, the more he sees how torn up you are, the more he gets power.

 

It hurts so terribly much to be stuck between a rock and a hard place. I think that after a year, you deserve more. Ultimately, though, you decide what you are willing to accept.

 

I vote that if you cannot bear to break up with him permanently just yet, you at least downgrade his boyfriend status to casual dating. Tell him that you are not willing to commit any more than he is. Then, find yourself some boy toys to keep you occupied. Give him NO MORE--or even less at this point--than he is willing to do. Fair is fair is fair!

Edited July 26, 2013 by LaFemmeBrille
ETA

[The Way I Am]

Been there, Kizza. I know it sucks.

 

Every time I have had a talk with him or tried to clarify what this is so I can make a decision I have ended up more confused.

 

That sounds familiar. When I would try to address my concern with on of my exes that it seemed to me like he didn't have feelings for me, he would say confusing things like, "I don't think you're reading the situation right." Uh.. what?

 

Does he even acknowledge that you're in an official relationship or is he one of those "I really like you but I'm just not sure" guys?

 

Since you've tried the break up approach and that failed, I think that's ruled out. Wouldn't want to be repeating the same thing expecting different results and such.

 

If you're feeling better then stick to NC. Maybe it would work for you to aim to maintain no contact for a week and then evaluate how you feel about the situation at that time. And/or set a rule that no matter what, you won't reply to him without waiting 24 hours to give yourself time to react logically instead of replying on an emotional impulse.

[Simon Phoenix]

oh I just don't know

 

I have sent him a text before saying that I think we should stop seeing each-other. I did try to organize to see him but he refused and wanted to know why I wanted to meet him and he wanted me to tell him immediately what was so important so I text. I agree also that over text is a poor medium. He seemed a bit cut but said ok. I deleted him and didn't speak to him again. This was in April. He contacted me 4 days later with a text saying how annoyed and upset he was that i ended it. I thought **** maybe this guy really likes me more than I thought (stupid me) we got back to seeing each-other again.

 

I don't want the end to be at all horrible.

 

I have not heard from him yet today. I must say the silence has given me more clear answers than when I have spoken up. Every time I have had a talk with him or tried to clarify what this is so I can make a decision I have ended up more confused.

 

Last weekend when he was drunk he told me he was falling for me and that he thought about me all the time. He said please don't run away I won't hurt you. He said "I love you" about 15 times and when I said **** Your'e drunk he said the truth comes out when drunk I put him to bed, nothing happened. We spent the morning together just in each others arms holding hands and it was very affectionate and warm. He said to me in the morning "don't run away just yet, stay for a whilst" I said to him that he had said something like that to me the night before and he said he didn't remember getting home and so yes now he doesn't remember all the things he said (apparently).

 

Then of course Tuesday/Wednesday comes and he is acting like what I have described from the start of this thread.

 

I don't know what is best. I just want this to be as easy as possible and right now the easy thing is not saying anything

 

He has just been so ambiguous with all his communication. Sometimes I am left thinking I am being left on a hook and he is feeding me little bird5hits of hope to keep me there and sometimes I think he is genuine and just wants to take things slow and casual.

 

He is always saying I have been his one constant throughout the last yr or so and he is saying lately how we have known each other so long blah blah ...

 

I don't know urghhhh

 

This post is exactly why you need to stay away from all contact. I mean, in an ideal situation I'd agree with kassy 100 percent about communicating her desire to break it off, but it's just not a wise thing right now. Unfortunately this woman doesn't have the strength and the moxie to stand firm to this guy. She is easily duped by him.

 

As for the OP, actions speak louder than words. You keep believing what he's saying. You need to stop being dumb and doing that. What he does means a lot more than all the stuff he says to keep you on a string (and you are on a string right now). He'd rather sleep and go to ladies' night over hanging out with you. He's demonstrated that in his actions.

[ExpatInItaly]

oh I just don't know

 

I have sent him a text before saying that I think we should stop seeing each-other. I did try to organize to see him but he refused and wanted to know why I wanted to meet him and he wanted me to tell him immediately what was so important so I text. I agree also that over text is a poor medium. He seemed a bit cut but said ok. I deleted him and didn't speak to him again. This was in April. He contacted me 4 days later with a text saying how annoyed and upset he was that i ended it. I thought **** maybe this guy really likes me more than I thought (stupid me) we got back to seeing each-other again.

 

I don't want the end to be at all horrible.

 

I have not heard from him yet today. I must say the silence has given me more clear answers than when I have spoken up. Every time I have had a talk with him or tried to clarify what this is so I can make a decision I have ended up more confused.

 

Last weekend when he was drunk he told me he was falling for me and that he thought about me all the time. He said please don't run away I won't hurt you. He said "I love you" about 15 times and when I said **** Your'e drunk he said the truth comes out when drunk I put him to bed, nothing happened. We spent the morning together just in each others arms holding hands and it was very affectionate and warm. He said to me in the morning "don't run away just yet, stay for a whilst" I said to him that he had said something like that to me the night before and he said he didn't remember getting home and so yes now he doesn't remember all the things he said (apparently).

 

Then of course Tuesday/Wednesday comes and he is acting like what I have described from the start of this thread.

 

I don't know what is best. I just want this to be as easy as possible and right now the easy thing is not saying anything

 

He has just been so ambiguous with all his communication. Sometimes I am left thinking I am being left on a hook and he is feeding me little bird5hits of hope to keep me there and sometimes I think he is genuine and just wants to take things slow and casual.

 

He is always saying I have been his one constant throughout the last yr or so and he is saying lately how we have known each other so long blah blah ...

 

I don't know urghhhh

 

Stick to your plan and move on. He's been playing with your mind and your heart for some time now. If he really loved you as much as he drunkenly claims he does, he wouldn't keep you guessing about his feelings.

 

And he has the cajones to tell you not to run away because he won't hurt you? B*tch, please. (that's to him, not you) What the hell does he think he's doing when he can't find time to text you? His actions do NOT match his words. He's not sincere. Do not settle for a half-assed, one-sided "relationship" that only happens on his terms. He's a selfish douche.

[Eddie Edirol]

Kizza, youve been dealing with his ambiguity for a YEAR. Even after a few months, it means he's not serious about you.

 

Make sure you dont contact him, keep him blocked, start looking elsewhere for genuine affection, because youre not going to get it with him.

[Kizza]

I know I just need to refrain myself from contacting him.

 

As much as I want to tell him what a jerk he has been to me, I need to cut and run. It is so hard though. Facing up to the fact that I was being used and I let it happen is the hardest.

 

It feels awful that I ended this before it got to this point in April, I foresaw this happening, I am kicking myself for not standing firm then I caved because this is when the sugary words started....I told him I wanted more and that if we were not on the same page then best stop seeing each other and now I figure he kept me around by telling me things I wanted to hear

 

I suppose I just have to put up with this awful feeling that I am a complete idiot and live with it.

 

Sorry to go on, it is just really really hard right now. The days are going so unbelievably slow. This pain and realization is incredibly heavy on my soul.

 

I have been keeping myself busy. I went to see a Brazilian band last night and did some salsa dancing... went to a house party with the band and met lots of interesting people and today I went to the water park ... discovered my inner child in the water slides thing is, it is still there....all of it in the back of my mind niggling at me.

 

Tomorrow I go sailing and then to an event held for Hepatitis Awareness Day... I guess it is moments like these when I slow down and all the thoughts and feelings come flooding back in to the forefront of my mind. Then I start thinking about texting.

[The Way I Am]

I guess it is moments like these when I slow down and all the thoughts and feelings come flooding back in to the forefront of my mind. Then I start thinking about texting.

 

So far so good though. Posting on LS is a much healthier option than texting him. Have you tried writing down a list of all the sh*tty ways he's behaved that you can read and remind yourself every time you get the urge to text?

[Kizza]

So far so good though. Posting on LS is a much healthier option than texting him. Have you tried writing down a list of all the sh*tty ways he's behaved that you can read and remind yourself every time you get the urge to text?

 

Well I should write that list

 

He called at 2am on Sunday morning, I was sleeping and I was silly enough to pick up the phone without thinking. He started yelling at me for avoiding him and his texts. He told me it was all Horse5hit. He said he sent a text Thursday asking how I was but I never got a text like that. I only got the text at 5pm asking if I was busy and replied and said I was and then that text about Monsoons and then the texts and calls after 2am.

 

He had a right go at me! then said he had to go, a friend was calling him over. He was out at a nightclub. He said I have to go, text me text me! I said no if you want to discuss anything then you can talk to me or see me. He hung up and I called back. He just picks up and yells I can't hear you, I can't hear you I love you!!

 

I got caught out I text him and said -->

 

ME: 'come and talk to me'

 

'Ok. Zzz'

 

ME: ??

 

I miss you!!! Honestly I've got nothing on you!

 

ME: 'ok I think your messing me around and it's not right. If you weren't then you would make it a priority to hear me, to talk to me. Feel free to prove otherwise'

 

'I will...'

 

then an hour later!

 

Kizza???

Come Over?

 

basically he calls and texts... says he wants to see me, to talk to me, for me to sleep over. Even offers to come to me, It was 4 am by this time...I said I couldn't I had visitors for the weekend and I was taking them out early in the morning. I also said I had wine that night and was unsure if I could drive. He kept texting and begging me to come around. It was so inappropriate. I left the house so i could talk freely and I told him I was standing firm, I was not coming around...I didn't want him to be upset with me anymore but I was staying home. He apologized for waking me up and promised that he was not annoyed and asked if I could come around or talk to him in the morning. I said I couldn't I was sailing from very early in the morning (in 3 hours) I would not have my phone. He said to text the next day.

 

So (grrrrrr) I text the next day:

 

"Hey how's it going? I have been feeling confused by your recent mixed words/actions. It's not your fault and I would appreciate a call during daytime instead of late at night. I care for you. x

 

This was at 5pm on the Sunday and first thing this morning at 6am he said 'I'll call you tonight Kizza, if that is ok?

 

I said 'yes, that is ok...

 

He did not call....

 

Yes I am an idiot I just thought that maybe perhaps I was taking him in the wrong way and what he was saying to me there was some truth, that maybe there is some other reason than being an outright ********* that he has been acting like this since last weekend.

 

He said the same things last weekend. I guess I am not willing to believe he is this hollow hearted. I find it hard to believe anyone would just outright mess with someone like this! I told him I thought he was messing with me and he said he would prove otherwise.

 

It's not like he would have any trouble picking up anyone, he is a confident good looking guy. I don't understand why he is mucking with me!

 

Could he really have been that dramatic and done all of that just to get some? It seems pretty low to stoop to emotionally manipulate someone by saying they love them over and over just to get them in to bed :/ I haven't experienced a person like this ever.

 

Is he saying how he really feels and then pulling away? I don't know what is going on.

 

Yanking the chain again maybe... :/

 

Anyway my last text was saying Yes, ok he can call tonight. I suppose the right thing to do now is nothing

 

and I will be turning my phone to silent when I go to bed on weekends from now on.

 

I feel silly and I understand if I get totally blasted. I feel like I deserve it right now. I am drained... I should have stood firm and told him then and there that he has been a jerk but he had been drinking and it was late, he said he wanted to talk but I thought it was just not the right time...

 

I almost went over there, I am so glad I didn't but ashamed that I got dragged back in. I really need a good scolding...

[Zahara]

You actually believe he wanted you over at 4AM to talk? Sex, Kizza...sex.

 

You didn't want to go over and sex him up, and after being rejected, he gave up the chase. He has no need for you, at this time. No need to call or text you because he's got you waiting on him again (and he knows it) for when he needs his next sex call, then he'll get in touch with you.

[Kizza]

You actually believe he wanted you over at 4AM to talk? Sex, Kizza...sex.

 

You didn't want to go over and sex him up, and after being rejected, he gave up the chase. He has no need for you, at this time. No need to call or text you because he's got you waiting on him again (and he knows it) for when he needs his next sex call, then he'll get in touch with you.

 

I am annoyed I picked up that phone call...

I am annoyed that I still care about such a jerk...

I am annoyed that I am so honest and he is telling lies...

 

I just have so much trouble believing someone would tell such lies that would mess with someones emotions that much. All just for sex. He could easily pick up... no problem, I don't understand any of it

 

It almost feels like he is deliberately trying to hurt me, like he is pushing me to see how far he can take it. He is pushing it to see when and if I break and go crazy. He has talked before about girls who fell for him and then they went crazy as he says, that they all end up hurt and he never means it, it just happens...

 

I just can't believe a person can sleep at night after treating someone this way.

[Zahara]

I am annoyed I picked up that phone call...

I am annoyed that I still care about such a jerk...

I am annoyed that I am so honest and he is telling lies...

 

I just have so much trouble believing someone would tell such lies that would mess with someones emotions that much. All just for sex. He could easily pick up... no problem, I don't understand any of it

 

It almost feels like he is deliberately trying to hurt me, like he is pushing me to see how far he can take it. He is pushing it to see when and if I break and go crazy. He has talked before about girls who fell for him and then they went crazy as he says, that they all end up hurt and he never means it, it just happens...

 

I just can't believe a person can sleep at night after treating someone this way.

 

After a year of this, how much more does it take for you to finally believe?

 

The thing with you is that you are trying to force this to work out, trying to force him to be who you want him to be. So you keep telling yourself, maybe this time he'll be different. And everytime you are disappointed, it doesn't make you run the other way but instead, it makes you try harder. That's why after all this time, you still cannot believe because you choose not to. You want to keep trying to force that square peg in a round hole.

 

He knows what he's doing. He's just a jerk. He treats women poorly and he knows it but just doesn't care. There is no such thing as, "it just happens."

 

He could get sex elsewhere, but why, when he has you available. It's easy, available and free. Why put in the effort of dealing with another woman and her drama when he has you there? And you're always willing.

 

And stop comparing your honesty against his lies. You are two different people. Just as we can't understand your mentality to keep doing this to yourself, you can't understand his. So, best for you to get rid of this idiot and move on.

[Kizza]

After a year of this, how much more does it take for you to finally believe?

 

The thing with you is that you are trying to force this to work out, trying to force him to be who you want him to be. So you keep telling yourself, maybe this time he'll be different. And everytime you are disappointed, it doesn't make you run the other way but instead, it makes you try harder. That's why after all this time, you still cannot believe because you choose not to. You want to keep trying to force that square peg in a round hole.

 

He knows what he's doing. He's just a jerk. He treats women poorly and he knows it but just doesn't care. There is no such thing as, "it just happens."

 

He could get sex elsewhere, but why, when he has you available. It's easy, available and free. Why put in the effort of dealing with another woman and her drama when he has you there? And you're always willing.

 

And stop comparing your honesty against his lies. You are two different people. Just as we can't understand your mentality to keep doing this to yourself, you can't understand his. So, best for you to get rid of this idiot and move on.

 

Thanks Zahara, I need cold hard truth right now :/ it is staring me in the face and yet I am being idiotic because of this person

 

ETA: it has not been like this a year, we have been seeing each other a year and it was casual, nothing serious but it is only recent that he has started acting this was toward me. Perhaps I have done or said something recently to cause this shift in attitude toward me. I don't know, it really does feel liek I am being punished for something..

 

I am going to read this thread every day as someone suggested. I have to get out!!

Edited July 29, 2013 by Kizza

[Zahara]

Thanks Zahara, I need cold hard truth right now :/ it is staring me in the face and yet I am being idiotic because of this person

 

ETA: it has not been like this a year, we have been seeing each other a year and it was casual, nothing serious but it is only recent that he has started acting this was toward me. Perhaps I have done or said something recently to cause this shift in attitude toward me. I don't know, it really does feel liek I am being punished for something..

 

I am going to read this thread every day as someone suggested. I have to get out!!

 

Whatever his problem is, it's not helping or working for you. Yes, get out.

[ExpatInItaly]

At this point, he ain't interested in talking. He wants to bang. Why else do you think he's contacting you late at night and trying to lure you to come over? Seriously. It hurts his ego that you're ignoring him because he wants you to sleep with him. It doesn't hurt his feelings that he might have lost a relationship with you. He's using you for sex and an ego boost and you need to stop letting him do it.

[The Way I Am]

So (grrrrrr) I text the next day:

 

"Hey how's it going? I have been feeling confused by your recent mixed words/actions. It's not your fault and I would appreciate a call during daytime instead of late at night. I care for you. x

 

This was at 5pm on the Sunday and first thing this morning at 6am he said 'I'll call you tonight Kizza, if that is ok?

 

I said 'yes, that is ok...

 

He did not call....

 

F*cking douche bag. He was just saying what he thought he needed to say to get you to come over for sex. But zero follow through.

 

If he'd have been able to hook up with some other girl at the club, you wouldn't have gotten a call. Why did he wait until 4am to call you? Why not call you before the club and ask you to come out? He wanted to try to pick up other girls first. You're the fallback when he strikes out for the night.

 

It almost feels like he is deliberately trying to hurt me, like he is pushing me to see how far he can take it. He is pushing it to see when and if I break and go crazy. He has talked before about girls who fell for him and then they went crazy as he says, that they all end up hurt and he never means it, it just happens...

 

I just can't believe a person can sleep at night after treating someone this way.

 

He's probably not doing it deliberately to make you crazy. He's just completely self centered. He doesn't care what he's doing to you. He only cares about getting laid.

 

You're a good person. He's an *sshole who doesn't deserve you.

[Kizza]

I am thinking of sending this text

 

I can't have someone like you in my life anymore. I don't want to waste myself on disingenuous people. Please leave me alone, I would appreciate that.

 

Is that ok or should I just go NC?