Author Kizza Posted July 25, 2013 Author Posted July 25, 2013 He text again an hour ago. Says "I am at Monsoons" Monsoons is a bar/club It is ladies night at monsoons... Yanking my chain again I am thinking :/ Highlighting to me he is out at ladies night Letting me know where he is because ... Ummm I dunno. I don't see the point in texting me his location and that's it. I haven't text back, nor will I... Grrr
Pierre Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 Training, working, eating and sleeping takes precedence over OP. I say he is not interested.
Arabella Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 He text again an hour ago. Says "I am at Monsoons" Monsoons is a bar/club It is ladies night at monsoons... Yanking my chain again I am thinking :/ Highlighting to me he is out at ladies night Letting me know where he is because ... Ummm I dunno. I don't see the point in texting me his location and that's it. I haven't text back, nor will I... Grrr This sounds like a bait. He's waiting for you to say "Can I join you?" so he can reject you. And HE WILL. Ignore it. You're probably having lots of fun doing something of your own, for all he knows, so you're just too busy to care about what he's up to.
kassy Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 I think it is probably best to text him and say its over and not to contact you again. Then call your phone company and get his number blocked (if that is possible where you are). While I think you should not contact him I also think you should end it officially. Clearly I'm in the minority but that's what I would do. But after that... No response to anything. And then move on. He is a knob by the way. Clearly isn't all that concerned you deleted him and don't seem to be talking to him... Hardly the loving boyfriend. You can do so much better. 1
mercuryshadow Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 He text again an hour ago. Says "I am at Monsoons" Monsoons is a bar/club It is ladies night at monsoons... Yanking my chain again I am thinking :/ Highlighting to me he is out at ladies night Letting me know where he is because ... Ummm I dunno. I don't see the point in texting me his location and that's it. I haven't text back, nor will I... Grrr So, he doesn't have time for you because he's been eating, sleeping and training... but he has time for ladies' night? Good for you, don't take the bait. Reading this made my own blood boil. 1
Maleficent Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 I mean I need something short and clever and to the point for me to write to this guy who wrote this message. or should I really just say nothing, block him from all my social networks and move on ?? So far I have sent a bubble with no words.... bleh! ... How about "Go **** yourself"?
mercuryshadow Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 I think it is probably best to text him and say its over and not to contact you again. Then call your phone company and get his number blocked (if that is possible where you are). While I think you should not contact him I also think you should end it officially. Clearly I'm in the minority but that's what I would do. But after that... No response to anything. And then move on. He is a knob by the way. Clearly isn't all that concerned you deleted him and don't seem to be talking to him... Hardly the loving boyfriend. You can do so much better. I can agree with this, as long as OP promises not to follow up with any texts or calls. The final nail, so to speak. "I once cared, but now I'm moving on" should be the general message. And then, indeed get on with your life and hold out for someone who is devoted to you. Valuable lesson learned here. 1
BeholdtheMan Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 Fall asleep wtf!! I need something short, clever and to the point. Because I deserve more!!!!This doesn't warrant a reply Just go NC without replying
Arabella Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 I can agree with this, as long as OP promises not to follow up with any texts or calls. The final nail, so to speak. "I once cared, but now I'm moving on" should be the general message. And then, indeed get on with your life and hold out for someone who is devoted to you. Valuable lesson learned here. I think this is the only circumstance in which the OP should respond. Even then, keep it brief!! "I am unhappy with the way you've been treating me, and I have lost faith in our relationship. It is over, so please do not contact me again." At that point he will probably have questions, or might plead for her to reconsider. No response is the best response!! 1
MidwestUSA Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 He text again an hour ago. Says "I am at Monsoons" Monsoons is a bar/club It is ladies night at monsoons... Yanking my chain again I am thinking :/ Highlighting to me he is out at ladies night Letting me know where he is because ... Ummm I dunno. I don't see the point in texting me his location and that's it. I haven't text back, nor will I... Grrr Girl, get a grip! DO NOT so much as much as ponder texting him. You know you are. You caved once. Get out, get out, get out and DO something, anything else. Reread these replies until you can recite them by memory! You owed him no explanation for your "late reply". Get going NOW!
Arabella Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 $20 says OP went to Monsoon's to find him. I hate to say it, but that sounds likely. UGH.... I hope we're wrong.
mercuryshadow Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 She's in Australia, so it's quite late there. I have faith in her. Perhaps she just went to bed.
MidwestUSA Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 I hate to say it, but that sounds likely. UGH.... I hope we're wrong. I don't usually like being wrong, but......
Author Kizza Posted July 25, 2013 Author Posted July 25, 2013 (edited) He has called 4 times... left two texts.. The 1st: "I miss you" The 2nd: Kizza? I have answered nothing... Clearly he did not pick up anyone tonight? this communication is at around 2am in the morning. after telling me where he was at 10:30pm and asking me what I am doing at 5:45pm earlier in the day. I think the worst of course but my heart doesn't want to... Am I being broken? Should I be broken? ETA: I did not go to Monsoons. I did not answer any of his communication all night. I spent my evening with friends and it was a very good night. Just checked my phone then and found a bunch of missed calls and texts. hmmmmmm Edited July 25, 2013 by Kizza 7
Arabella Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 He has called 4 times... left two texts.. The 1st: "I miss you" The 2nd: Kizza? I have answered nothing... Clearly he did not pick up anyone tonight? this communication is at around 2am in the morning. after telling me where he was at 10:30pm and asking me what I am doing at 5:45pm earlier in the day. I think the worst of course but my heart doesn't want to... Am I being broken? Should I be broken? ETA: I did not go to Monsoons. I did not answer any of his communication all night. I spent my evening with friends and it was a very good night. Just checked my phone then and found a bunch of missed calls and texts. hmmmmmm Again, he's yanking your chain to see if you're still at the end of it. DO NOT CONTACT HIM... unless it's to tell him it's over for good. Do you realize what will happen if you engage him? He may seem interested in talking to you now, but the second he "has" you back on the hook, he will become the uncaring boyfriend he's always been. Don't give into that dynamic again. Break yourself free!
Author Kizza Posted July 25, 2013 Author Posted July 25, 2013 She's in Australia, so it's quite late there. I have faith in her. Perhaps she just went to bed. Thank-you for the faith x it is late here, I am not in bed...there are people at my house having a good time. I ducked away to check my phone and it's been blasted by him. I have not answered any calls or texts, I will not answer his calls and texts. He should be blasting my phone like that when he is sober! and hasn't heard from me! I think he is just drunk and wants in someones pants 2
Author Kizza Posted July 25, 2013 Author Posted July 25, 2013 Girl, get a grip! DO NOT so much as much as ponder texting him. You know you are. You caved once. Get out, get out, get out and DO something, anything else. Reread these replies until you can recite them by memory! You owed him no explanation for your "late reply". Get going NOW! right! I did not owe an apology, that was silly of me! my friend told me the same thing xx 1
Zahara Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 Dog is sniffing because you're not paying attention. The moment you engage, he will revert to his old ways. He just needs to know he has you in the palm of his hands and he's trying to get you there. Do not respond! 2
ExpatInItaly Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 Dog is sniffing because you're not paying attention. The moment you engage, he will revert to his old ways. He just needs to know he has you in the palm of his hands and he's trying to get you there. Do not respond! This. He's looking for a booty call. Let him go. He's clearly not interested in having a relationship with you; don't allow him to hurt you again.
kassy Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 I still have issues with not telling him its over. I mean if you tell him that is common courtesy and them you are done. But to just leave him wondering wtf is happening... Well I think you are being a bitch quite frankly. I don't think it's a very grown up approach. Yes he has been useless and uninterested, but it is not like he was out murdering puppies! I try to act in a way that I would like to be treated regardless of the other person. Why stoop to his level of disrespect? I would like to know when the person I'm dating no longer considers us dating... I can't read minds... Just tell him it's over and be done with it already.
The Way I Am Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 No response is better than any "it's over" message. Personally, I would just give him a taste of his own medicine. The last 2 guys that wanted to string me along got treated to terse responses to all messages several hours or days later. Amusing myself with turning the tables on them actually helped me move on. Not sure that's the solution for everyone though.
The Way I Am Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 I mean if you tell him that is common courtesy and them you are done. But to just leave him wondering wtf is happening... Well I think you are being a bitch quite frankly. I don't think it's a very grown up approach. Maybe I'm a bitch, but I only treat people like grown ups who behave like one. Every time I sent a message that it's over to a guy who strung me along, I've ended up either feeling worse because I got no acknowledgment/a response about how immature and irrational I am, or ended up caving to a half-assed apology and being drawn back to be strung along even longer.
Simon Phoenix Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 Yeah, she's not in the position to send an "it's over" message. He would just use that to manipulate her.
forgetmenot75 Posted July 26, 2013 Posted July 26, 2013 Who are you lying to? You'll cave sooner or later and you know it. You acted impulsively, and you're not sure about what to do. He is a jerk, but I think you'll reply to him. One year and it seems like you met him last month. Your communication really sucks. He seems to have a life you're not part of it. Yet, I don't thnk you'll stick no contact. After 1 year relationship you should give him a clue why you're blocking him. Text him: it's over, don't contact anymore. If you don't do this, the guy will look for you because he has no clue at all. You seem immature and impulsive. You need to think with clarity. What do you want? Are you going to dump him? Do you want him out if your life definitely? He is a jerk for sure, but I think he treated you like that because you let him.
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