Kizza Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 "hey... I did get your texts and please don't apologise...You do nothing wrong. The spare times now when I am not training, working or eating is spent sleeping. I am sorry. The only free time I have is on weekends and my intentions is to see you most of the time but I fall asleep...." Fall asleep wtf!! I need something short, clever and to the point. Because I deserve more!!!! Please help and thank-you!!
MidwestUSA Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 You want a clever text from someone who isn't interested in you? Because he's not, sorry. 1
sdraw108 Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 How about: "It is completely unreasonable for you to train, work, eat and sleep, and to only see me when you have free time. It's over." Then go NC. 1
Eddie Edirol Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 More is less. Dont say anything. If he has to say "I did get your texts" than that means you already looked needy sending too many. Leave this one alone, let him chase you. He probably wont, then you know where you stand. Well... you already know where you stand, this one doesnt look that interested. Keep it moving, dont answer with anything. Silence speaks volumes! 4
Author Kizza Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 I mean I need something short and clever and to the point for me to write to this guy who wrote this message. or should I really just say nothing, block him from all my social networks and move on ?? So far I have sent a bubble with no words.... bleh! ...
Treasa Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 Yeah, don't reply. Just move on to someone who has/makes more time for you. 3
Bito Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 Not sure how long this has been going on for but your best bet would be to just respond with ok or its alright. Just have him be the one to contact you next. If he's interested he will. 2
Author Kizza Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 I only sent 3 texts (that's my rule 3 texts then no more) ... he said text me tomorrow so I did. I asked how his cricket game went. no reply. I have had trouble with iMessage lately not sending texts so my second message was "did you get my text this morning" then nothing and so I said "I am sorry, you said text. I did. No reply. I wish you weren't so ambiguous. If you want me to leave you alone then I will" then I got the text I originally posted!
pcplod Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 "hey... I did get your texts and please don't apologise...You do nothing wrong. The spare times now when I am not training, working or eating is spent sleeping. I am sorry. The only free time I have is on weekends and my intentions is to see you most of the time but I fall asleep...." Fall asleep wtf!! I need something short, clever and to the point. Because I deserve more!!!! Please help and thank-you!! Awe! That's awful that is! Forget the short text, just meet up with him in public, one last time, shriek at him and poke him in the eye. In fact, poke him in both eyes. Go on! You know you really want to. A snide text message isn't going to cut it and you know it. Honour will only be satisfied once there is blood in the sawdust. Oh, btw, that's not supposed to be your blood, natch. Take extra care. 2
Author Kizza Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 I think maybe I should just leave it at the bubble with no words in it... He is not worthy of any words right now We have been seeing each other almost 1 year. It did start out as a very casual relationship but got complicated. I suppose he just is not that in to me because if he were then he would either A) Incorporate me in to his life somehow or B) Make time for me ...
jphcbpa Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 how about zzzzzzzzzzzzzz or mail him a night night blanket 4
Zahara Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 You believe you deserve more? Then cut him loose and move on. Short and clever come backs won't change his interest. "I did get your texts"...is a slap in the face. It takes seconds to send a text. I'm sure he has time to eat, shytt and piss...why not a text? Stop investing in someone that prefers to sleep rather than see you. 5
Arabella Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 You know, it could be that his text back to you was completely honest. But it also means that you're nowhere near the top of the priority list to him. He couldn't even text you back quickly and not keep you wondering? If you want a committed relationship with somebody who is truly interested in you, he's not it. Time to move on. 4
Author Kizza Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 ok, I have blocked from Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat...deleted phone number, texts and photo's .... I deserve to be somewhat important at the very least. I don't expect to take up someones whole life but to be a second rate option is not good enough! Falling asleep on weekends is the lamest excuse I ever heard!! I know he spent Sunday tanning... what? he couldn't invite me to lay about by the pool.... He spent the night in on Thursday night.... did I get a phone call .? of course not. I deserve better. I thought he was a good guy, amazing even but hey we all come across a player who isn't ready to stop playing the field. Shame we have chemistry with these *******s and it takes us ladies so long to get it together but such is life I suppose... 2
Author Kizza Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 Thank-you everyone to take time to reply.... I feel sad right now but I am making the right move for myself. I just wish I made it sooner. 3
Author Kizza Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 Dammit I am trying to be strong on silence but i desperately want to text. I hate this I hate the lame message.... I would have preferred sorry I have no time for you, at least straight up honesty. Not a bunch of crap. I feel like silence means that I except the crap. Like he can just churn out excuses and bull**** and get off scott free with out reprimand of his actions!!!!!
Author Kizza Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 what if I say " I suppose then, your free time isn't worth any of my time" is that ok without sounding like a crazy person and then I make no contact or should I keep it silent???
Arabella Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 what if I say " I suppose then, your free time isn't worth any of my time" is that ok without sounding like a crazy person and then I make no contact or should I keep it silent??? NO. No texts! Let the silence speak for you. 3
white Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 This guy. Training? Tanning? Disrespecting his girlfriend? I think we've got his number. Get better taste in men ASAP.
Author Kizza Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 o.k Arabella .... I will stay silent... I am turning my phone off now so I am not tempted. all I have sent is an empty bubble, before I posted here. I have deleted him and blocked him from everything :/ is that too much? or is that the right thing do you think?
desperategirl Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 Hey there, Sorry you're ging through a tough time. I agree with everyone here though, do not send another text. What would you be hoping to achieve by sending a message? You don't want to give him ammunition to say you hassled him. He's being a jerk - sleeping and training? Keep us updated on how you feel, and best of luck.
Arabella Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 o.k Arabella .... I will stay silent... I am turning my phone off now so I am not tempted. all I have sent is an empty bubble, before I posted here. I have deleted him and blocked him from everything :/ is that too much? or is that the right thing do you think? That's exactly the right thing to do. And if he tries to reach out to you... ignore him unless he shows up at your door with some flowers and a HUGE apology. Then you can talk. 1
MidwestUSA Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 o.k Arabella .... I will stay silent... I am turning my phone off now so I am not tempted. all I have sent is an empty bubble, before I posted here. I have deleted him and blocked him from everything :/ is that too much? or is that the right thing do you think? It's right. Leave the house. Go shopping, get a manicure, volunteer at a local animal shelter, anything! Good luck! 1
Author Kizza Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 omg thank you all so much! I think that if I hadn't posted here and received your replies I would have done my head in and sent some stupid **** over the text. I felt strong through your correspondence and you have really helped me. You are right. No more communication. With guys like this it has to end at some point and ideally it should end when there is some dignity and heart left in tact. Like I said I wish I got out earlier. It has only been 6 weeks since he really started "emotionally manipulating me" 6 weeks too long! There is someone out there for me who will Want to see me and be with me! even more than sleep. He will want to eat with me and maybe even train with me! ... 3
Chief Wiggum Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 omg thank you all so much! I think that if I hadn't posted here and received your replies I would have done my head in and sent some stupid **** over the text. I felt strong through your correspondence and you have really helped me. You are right. No more communication. With guys like this it has to end at some point and ideally it should end when there is some dignity and heart left in tact. Like I said I wish I got out earlier. It has only been 6 weeks since he really started "emotionally manipulating me" 6 weeks too long! There is someone out there for me who will Want to see me and be with me! even more than sleep. He will want to eat with me and maybe even train with me! ... Good for you, babygurl. You needs you a real man. Someone who ca'take care you real good. Send me a private message if you want to talk about this. I'll try and reply after I've finished this sandwhich and had a nap.
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