Msmickey Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 Hey hi, I just started a relationship with my boyfriend who is 26, and I'm 20. We meet up 2 twice a week due to his work. We do text everyday, but not very actively. He says he love me and things but I don't feel it when I'm not with him. Is it because age gap? As in when you age, you become mature and take things very slowly?
pcplod Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 To me, your question simply doesn't make sense. You are the one who says you don't feel head over heels in loony love when you are not in one another's presence, yet your refer to his age as if that is the significant factor in respect of maturity. Do you think if he was younger and more impulsive towards you that you would have that feeling? How do you think you can be sure of that? How do you generally feel while in a relationship with a man? Do you usually feel infatuated? Or do you not actually have any previous experience to draw upon? Frankly, I have never done that sort of infatuation from the cradle and definitely won't do it before the grave. Whether it be nature or nurture, it simply isn't in me and although I may have been curious about the point from time to time, it has never bothered me. Behaviourists sometimes use the term "emotional maturity" to distinguish it from "chronological age" or "physical maturity" if you like. The inference behind that can be that an individual can be "mature beyond their years" as the old adage goes. So maybe your feelings are governed by being emotionally mature beyond your age? Or maybe you aren't that much in love with him? Or maybe he doesn't trigger that sort of feeling in you? Or who knows what, really? The bottom line is that you have to understand yourself first before you can understand how you feel about relationships with other people. Simply concentrate on working on that.
mtber75 Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 Its a maturity issues. If he is that quick in saying that he loves you than he just may be needy or immature? Its up to you if you want this to continue. You are still pretty young so you may not want a committed long term relationship yet as this guy clearly does!
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