Pretty JMai Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 Why is it that when you've finally had enough with a guy and tell him you're moving on, all of a sudden he's trying to get you back. I don't understand men at all but I am 100% certain I no longer want to pursue anything with this guy due to his 'hot and cold' behavior towards me, among other unacceptable things, and started practicing NC with him by ignoring the slew of texts he sent me...and, to be honest, it feels great to give him a taste of his own medicine--quite liberating, really! Why are men so confusing?
Emilia Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 I don't understand men at all but I am 100% certain I no longer want to pursue anything with this guy due to his 'hot and cold' behavior towards me, It's not all men, it's a certain type of man. The 'hot and cold' or 'push pull' dynamic is the hallmark of those that enjoy playing games/relate to others in a negative manner/are emotionally unaivalable, etc. 6
Chief Wiggum Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 Why are men so confusing? You should try dating women. 3
therhythm Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 It's not all men, it's a certain type of man. The 'hot and cold' or 'push pull' dynamic is the hallmark of those that enjoy playing games/relate to others in a negative manner/are emotionally unaivalable, etc. This ^^^^ And some women do that too ... it is not really a gender thing... 1
Author Pretty JMai Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 I know it's not all men because I've met and dated some great men...guess I just wanted to vent about this particular guy. I just hate when guys toy with your emotions because I am open from the get go whether I am interested or not...just don't waste my time! Ok. Enough about that!
jphcbpa Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 I know it's not all men because I've met and dated some great men...guess I just wanted to vent about this particular guy. I just hate when guys toy with your emotions because I am open from the get go whether I am interested or not...just don't waste my time! Ok. Enough about that! hey be thankful he showed you who he is and you deserve better. NEXT!!!
pcplod Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 Why is it that when you've finally had enough with a guy and tell him you're moving on, all of a sudden he's trying to get you back. I don't understand men at all but I am 100% certain I no longer want to pursue anything with this guy due to his 'hot and cold' behavior towards me, among other unacceptable things, and started practicing NC with him by ignoring the slew of texts he sent me...and, to be honest, it feels great to give him a taste of his own medicine--quite liberating, really! Why are men so confusing? You don't understand men? I don't and I'm not even interested in pursuing them in any way. What hope do you think you have? It's like playing roulette, poker or the lottery, you will be the one who the mystery voice says "It won't be you" to. I'd give up, if I were you. Preserve energy and sanity. We men are all $h1t, In fact, $h1t wih bells on. Complete lunatics. There you are ladies, cleared a bit of the 'competition' out of the way for you. I know you like your lunatics, preferably toasted on both sides.
Emilia Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 I know it's not all men because I've met and dated some great men...guess I just wanted to vent about this particular guy. I just hate when guys toy with your emotions because I am open from the get go whether I am interested or not...just don't waste my time! Ok. Enough about that! People do that if you let them. You wisely kicked him to the curb.
RedRobin Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 Why is it that when you've finally had enough with a guy and tell him you're moving on, all of a sudden he's trying to get you back. I don't understand men at all but I am 100% certain I no longer want to pursue anything with this guy due to his 'hot and cold' behavior towards me, among other unacceptable things, and started practicing NC with him by ignoring the slew of texts he sent me...and, to be honest, it feels great to give him a taste of his own medicine--quite liberating, really! Why are men so confusing? It's not confusing at all.... Little kids do it all the time. It's called selective reinforcement. Somewhere along the line, with you or other people, they learned that it works. What you need to do is stop 'rewarding' men who do this and cut your losses with that type a lot earlier. Make it very clear you aren't interested, then stick to it. Sounds like you are. Good job! Just make sure you don't delete their numbers so you don't accidentally pick up when they call. That starts the chain of texts/calls all over again.
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