catgirl Posted October 27, 2004 Posted October 27, 2004 hi,this happen 2 weeks ago HELP need a guys view on this..going great then this....need advice Post: 1 | Quote: ok heres my problem need a guys point of view here...went out with this guy who is seperated like me for the last 6 months.....we went out twice and spent like 10 hours together e ach time had a great time just talking and getting to know each other..last night we talked for 2 hours and his life is a little messy atm so he wanted to have a face to face talk about his past(nothing bad he said)just remember he said "i have a sofe heart and you will understand all this.....then i get home to an email Hi well busy day not over yet, I am going to the school this evening for paul ,have to attend a parent teacher meeting concerning pauls trip to toronto , I f I do not go to meeting he will not be able to take the trip. I am also very sorry tosay I will not be going for coffee. I want to be straight up with you , on my situtation, but well my life is a litle messy right now, this has nothing to do with you, you are a wonderful lady. you will probably hate me for this but well I cannt play games so I am saying straight up that I can be a friend but nothing more for now. I Do not want to play games never did before so honesty is my best policy, I am sure you will want to kick my ass, I probably ****ed up a good thing with this mail to you, I am sorry I think you are a great person , and hope I do not end up in your ignore list.... Sorry for this , but untill I see where my present life is going , I'm not going to take this further... I think you are a great person, and If I do not see you on msn I have lost a good friend and who hows what else , but I need to say what I have said , so you see straight up that this is where I am so heres my question guys.....how should i take this.......maybe hes afraid? should i be his friend and see what happens he doesnt want to start a relationship with me till he has everything meaning him freed up.. his words....we really hit it off so im not sure what happened in the last 24 hours....im stumped on this one..help!!! now he calls today tells me hes seeing his lawyer tomorrow getting things all straightened out with everything..then he asks to be my new client(I cut hair)if he may ask if I will cut his hair and asking me hows everyhting going and just being sweet as usuall... my question is guys do you think he trying to start where we left off...hes really shy and im wondering if this is his way of getting back into my life to start dating,mind you he has his own hairdresser.....but he says a man has a right to choose where he gets his hair cut.....I said sure can always use new clients......but i remember on our first date thats how he asked his first wife out 20 years ago..So what do you guys think......If he didnt want to see me he would keep going to the one thats been cutting his hair for the last 3 years..right? hes 43 and im 39 btw....and I know theres something there we both felt it on the second date...
bluechocolate Posted October 28, 2004 Posted October 28, 2004 how should i take this.......? Same advice as wrote in your other post: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?postid=331437#post331437 ------------------------------------------ Just how he put it. He wants to sort some sh*t out before getting seriously involved with someone. Fair enough. If more people did that the LS people wouldn't need bigger servers! You went out twice, so whilst you may be disappointed, it shouldn't be a big deal, right? His email sounded sincere enough. My guess would be that if he was trying to let you down softly he wouldn't have been so open about how things are for him right now. If you like the guy then try being friends for now & see how things develop in the future. ---------------------------------------- you've added an bit - so yes - I would say it's a fair interpretation that he is interested in you & interested in getting back into your life (but that could depend on how often he needs, or gets, his hair cut! )
Author catgirl Posted October 28, 2004 Author Posted October 28, 2004 Like I said before he already has someone thats been cutting his hair ...this Guy is such a true gentlemen and real I mean real SHY.....So he wouldnt need to me to cut his hair hes using it for an excuse to come see me my shop is in a different town then he lives,its like 20 miles out of the way for him...he had some personal issues he had to clear up first in said email.....so from a guys point a view just making sure.....tkx for the advice.....guess when he shows up for the haircut i should just treat him as a client and friend? and see what happens?
bluechocolate Posted October 28, 2004 Posted October 28, 2004 .....guess when he shows up for the haircut i should just treat him as a client and friend? and see what happens? What else can you treat him as? Yep - client & friend. Has he made an appointment with you yet? Perhaps you could make it for the end of the day or just before lunch so that you're available for a meal or a coffee after you give him the most fantastic haircut of his life! Good Luck.
Author catgirl Posted October 28, 2004 Author Posted October 28, 2004 No he hasnt booked it yet he called last night to ask if I would take him on as a new client then told me he has alot straightened out in the last 2 weeks...hes the type he will just show up not make an appointment....and im planning on making it the best damn haircut he ever got!!!! this is what he left on msn for me "the time is at hand to explore this new life........" so im asuming and I hate asuming anything but its the only reason for him to come over to my shop cause like i said before he has someone thats been cutting his hair for 2-3 years now.......he doesnt need me to cut it he wants me to cut it so if he wasnt intrested he wouldnt even bother to call and ask all that..right?
bluechocolate Posted October 28, 2004 Posted October 28, 2004 he doesnt need me to cut it he wants me to cut it so if he wasnt intrested he wouldnt even bother to call and ask all that..right? Right !! I don't know any guy who would drive 20 miles for haircut unless there were interested. "the time is at hand to explore this new life........" That does indeed sound promising.
Author catgirl Posted October 29, 2004 Author Posted October 29, 2004 Hi ok he called last night and we were on the phone for 6 freakin hours talked about everything and hes calling tonight again....were making plans to go away for next weekend.I think many he was scared of what we both were feeling in a short time,our dates and talk we have been on have lated like 10 hours each and mostly all we do is talk and laugh we get along so well!!! Its uncanny....I guess were a little gun shy ,him more then me.he even said that but when he just wanted to be "friends for now" 2 weeks ago till he figured things out in his head and finish unfinish was a little scared..Do you guys think hes ready now? when we talk for hours and hours he says hes getting to know me....we both know what kind of person we want in our lives and wont settle and my gut and heart tells me he may be the one.......and I think it may be the same for him our values are the same...and what we both want in a partner is the same...... tkx for listening guys. and any more advice bring it on...
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