Kelebek Posted October 27, 2004 Posted October 27, 2004 Hi everyone, I've spent the last six months of my life with a wonderful guy and I'm really happy with him. So happy that lately I've been really wanting to tell him I'm in love with him But the old fashioned girly bit in me wants to wait until HE tells ME first!!! Partly because I think it would be the most romantic moment...and partly because I'm terrified of rejection and at least if he says it first I don't have to be afraid! I'm sensing those kind of feelings from him - at the very least I know he cares about me a lot. Should I just be patient? We're having so much fun - I don't want to weight things down by making them really serious...but then again it might not actually change anything except for the better? But then I don't even know if he loves me, so...lol. I'm not going to ask how you know if someone loves you, because it'll be different for everyone and I can't expect those kind of answers from other people! But how far into your relationship did you tell your partner you loved them? Or were told by your partner? How did it happen? I bet some people have really lovely stories. Hopefully I'll be adding my story one day, if he ever feels that way!! Maybe he does but he's scared of rejection too? Who knows...but it's bubbling up in me, lol, I don't want to end up telling him at a really stupid moment!!! Sigh...
Jilly10340 Posted October 27, 2004 Posted October 27, 2004 The guy I'm with now, I had known him for about 6 months before we actually started dating. We worked together. The first night we hung out together (6 months after we started working together) I knew I loved him. It was that fast. It didn't take more then two weeks for me to tell him that I was in love with him. He said that he was in love with me too. Now, a year and a half later, there's been good time and bad times but we always find out way back to each other. He's the first person I've ever loved and I'm the first person he's ever loved.
faux Posted October 27, 2004 Posted October 27, 2004 I dreaded saying "I love you" to my girlfriend. After a time, I noticed that more and more moments went by where I wanted to tell her that I loved her. Eventually, I decided that the next time I really, really wanted to say it I would, and I did. She was overjoyed, but was uncertain as to her feelings. She realized that there were moments when she, too, wanted to blurt it out, and finally did one day. I think that if you truly believe you want to say those words, you should say them. If, one day, an uncontrollable urge comes over you and you let your tongue slip, I do not see anything wrong with it; that is how you feel.
HokeyReligions Posted October 27, 2004 Posted October 27, 2004 It's been so long, I don't remember! I think we just started talking about the future like "when we are in our own place..." "after we are married" stuff like that, and then we finally said "Oh yeah, I love you, by the way!" or something mundane like that. I was dating someone a long time ago and he was acting really nervous around me and he finally just said "I think I'm falling in love with you" and I stammered "uh, uh, uh, oh, ok, well, thank-you" and then when I saw the look in his face I said that I 'could' fall for him and we talked about our relationship. I think we dated for quite a while and ended up engaged only because it seemed like the thing to do at the time. We broke up shortly after the engagement -- to our mutual relief! OH! I remember this one guy I dated for several months and he actually said to me "If I tell you that I love you, will you go to bed with me" and he thought he was sincere! He said he was "sincerely falling for me" as he kept trying to grab my breasts! I forgot all about him until I was writing this post! LOLOL!!! I never saw him again after that night!
Author Kelebek Posted November 1, 2004 Author Posted November 1, 2004 Haven't been on in a while, just wanted to thank Jilly, Faux and Hokey for sharing your stories!! They were all really different and made me see that love happens in different ways - I was starting to worry that as I DIDN'T know from the very beginning that I loved him (as with my ex, therefore it was all I knew) that it made me feel less for him somehow. I know that's not so now. But Jilly (that's my real name too hehe!) you're really lucky to have had that feeling, I know what it's like and it's wonderful. Faux - everything you said describes how I feel, I'm noticing more and more things happening that make me want to tell him I love him too. And I think the next time I'm definitely, REALLY sure I want to say it then I will And Hokey your post really made me laugh - I can't believe that last guy!! *Shudder* some men, lol. Thanks you guys!!
teck21 Posted November 2, 2004 Posted November 2, 2004 My GF said 'I love you' eaxctly 2 days short of 3 months. She finger-wrote it on my palm while she thought I was sleeping and wouldn't tell me what she wrote. I already knew but wanted to tease her a little and kept on pretending I got it wrong for a little while! Get rid of the old fashioned girlie in you for this, say it if it feels right. Good luck!
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