just needing some advice or to just get this out of my system...

[confused5284]

Hi! I’m a 20 yr old girl from NC just needing advice or just needing to tell someone to get this out of my system…

 

I met this guy online back in August. I met him through a website, almost like a dating service. (I always said I would NEVER do something like that but I said “what the heck, why not? u only live once why not step out of the box“) Everything was going pretty good. We talked just about every night and had a lot in common. I considered him a good friend who I could talk to about anything. After I felt I was comfortable w/ the whole thing I even gave him my phone #. We had even talked about meeting sometime. Ok, the other day I got this IM from this girl saying I had “great taste in men” and then I noticed that she had talked to him. (I should be a detective the way I find this kind of stuff out! =) ) Maybe I read too much into it, but I felt like she was rubbing it in my face or trying to be a smart-aleck. Well, like I said before, me and that guy talked almost every night and I guess now he has her, he is just going to forget me because he didn’t even try to talk to me for a couple days. He would ALWAYS say hey to me if he knew I was online. I mean he was talking to her during the usual time that we talk--OUR time. That really kinda hurt to know that. But a couple days later he finally talked to me and so I pretended like I didn’t know anything and tried to be my normal self but I so wanted to say “So, your girlfriend is going to let you talk to me now?” but I didn’t.

 

Now I just feel like yesterday’s garbage or like I’m second rate. I mean how can somebody change so fast in just a matter of time?! Going from talking every night to not even a simple “hey”. I understand that he might feel he has more in comon w/ her or something like that, and by no means and I saying he has to talk to me 24/7, but to just stop talking all together w/ me just for some other girl?!? WHY???? Oh and on that site u have to post a picture before u can join so her picture is on there. So, my therapy now is to make fun of "demon girl" as i call her and the way she looks. It may not be healthy to do that , but it’s not hurting anyone, I just think about it to myself and it just makes me feel better. I guess this whole situation meant more to me than him, and I guess he doesn’t consider me as good a friend as I thought or he wouldn’t let some girl he just met stop him from at least saying “hey”. He doesn’t have to talk to me but he doesn’t have to be a big meanie and ignore me either. I don’t know why I let it bother me so bad, but I don’t even think of him in the same way anymore. It has just turned me off to him so bad. So now I’m gonna make myself not so available to him and just forget it for a while. Let him wonder what I’m doing. I mean, ok, I’m gonna be really immature right now but I knew him first and I‘ve known him longer than demon girl has!! LOL

 

That’s it. I’m done. Just needed to get that out before I scream…

[Barby]

Okay so just so I'm clear....you've only talked to him online (not met him in person right)?? If this is the case I can imagine talking to him all the time feeling like you're getting to know him then for him to start blowing you off to talk to another girl would probably hurt.

 

I'm sorry he is being that way but honestly you shouldn't be suprised. Not to sound mean but he didn't just meet you on that site, I don't know what site you're talking about but I'm sure it's frequented by several people both male and female and I'm sure you weren't the first nor will you be the last girl he has daily chats with. Same with you, I'm sure you'll meet several people (to chat with) online if you're into talking to people online.

 

I'm sure you felt as if you just "clicked" like "wow what's the likely hood I'll find someone I "click" with so well again. But it could happen....don't feel bad and don't let him know that it hurts you this much.

 

"demon girl" was probably just as jealous of you as you were her.