Less & less time for communication.

[mtod]

Hi all.

 

Quick question really.

 

Does it seem unusual for my fiance, who is overseas and looking after our young daughter to be giving me less and less of her time?

 

Previously, we would chat, phone etc continuously throughout the day and night. But over the last couple of weeks she has replied to my messages from 3 to 6 hours after i have sent them.

 

I understand people can be busy when they have a child to look after but am i being unreasonable to think that it takes 1 minutes to send a quick message or reply.

 

I work full time and even in busy periods i reply as soon as i can. It's starting to feel like I'm being ignored on purpose. The annoying thing is, if I raise the topic, as I have tried previously, she gets very angry and gives me a long list of things she's been doing.

 

Well, let me know what you make of it. I'd appreciate any opinions because I'm at a loss now as to what I'm supposed to think about the situation.

 

Cheers

[CA2TN4Love]

How long has it been since you've seen her? Are you closing the distance soon? How old is your child?

 

There could be many reasons that the communication has dipped. She's basically a single mother, and that's not easy. Perhaps your child has entered a phase that requires more attention than previously. Maybe she's growing resentful for having to do it on her own. Maybe she's bored with the relationship. It could be a number of things.

 

I agree that it only takes a minute to respond, but with your history of chatting all day, maybe she's putting off her response until she has more time to spare to talk for awhile? She's probably just tired. Raising a child alone is so much more exhausting than working a full time job.

[Chris516]

Hi all.

 

Quick question really.

 

Does it seem unusual for my fiance, who is overseas and looking after our young daughter to be giving me less and less of her time?

 

Previously, we would chat, phone etc continuously throughout the day and night. But over the last couple of weeks she has replied to my messages from 3 to 6 hours after i have sent them.

 

I understand people can be busy when they have a child to look after but am i being unreasonable to think that it takes 1 minutes to send a quick message or reply.

 

I work full time and even in busy periods i reply as soon as i can. It's starting to feel like I'm being ignored on purpose. The annoying thing is, if I raise the topic, as I have tried previously, she gets very angry and gives me a long list of things she's been doing.

 

Well, let me know what you make of it. I'd appreciate any opinions because I'm at a loss now as to what I'm supposed to think about the situation.

 

Cheers

 

That sounds very suspicious. Because her getting angry at you, when you bring up a topic, by saying she has done a load of things she is doing. Also, doing that every time you bring up a concern. Says to me, she is cheating/planning on doing something that could determine the state of the relationship, or is already cheating/doing something about the relationship.

[FitChick]

Raising a child alone is so much more exhausting than working a full time job.

 

Some people have full time jobs raising other people's children.