Biscuit80 Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 I'm going to make this as simple as possible. I met my current girlfriend in February through work. We quickly hit it off and entered into a relationship in late March. She is 31 and has a 13 y/o daughter. She lives at home with her parents because she has debts to pay off from a previous marriage which ended in 2007. Since then she has dated a few men, but none have worked out. Her last relationship before me ended in September 2013. We live about 50 miles apart, but this hadn't been an issue. Since we first met we'd always got along incredibly well. It literally was perfect. That was up until we went away together in mid-June. The first day couldn't have been better. However, the second day changed everything. She missed her daughter incredibly (this was the first time she'd been on holiday without her) and felt that the relationship was moving too fast, even though I'd told her this before and had always allowed her to dictate the pace. Since the holiday we have become distant and I have no idea why. I've only ever been a gentleman and treated her with respect and love. She told me before the holiday that I'd made her the happiest she'd ever been and that she'd fallen for me. Now, when I ask her about the relationship, she says "What will be will be." There is a marked difference between the texts we send/receive before and since the holiday. She's no longer affectionate or gushing in her praise, we only meet up about once a week and we've not had sex in nearly a month (although this is made difficult by the fact that she lives with her parents in a small house and hasn't been to my flat for a while). I've asked her what the problem is. She tells me she is unsure of where this is heading and has so a lot on her plate right now. We still kiss and exchange texts everyday. I've given her plenty of opportunity to end the relationship. In fact, yesterday I asked her outright if she wanted to take a break. She said "No, I'm not going to give up on this relationship that easily." She doesn't seem to see that the reason the relationship has turned sour is because of her. I feel exactly the same way as I did before we went away. I've been hurting ever since the holiday and don't think I can take it any longer. It's driving me crazy and I'm feeling utterly depressed. We are meant to be meeting tomorrow to go to the cinema or for a BBQ. Before the holiday she'd been VERY excited about me meeting her daughter. Now she's not sure. I just don't get it. I'm the same person and I can assure you I've never done anything to upset or harm her. Her daughter will be starting her GCSEs this year and so my girlfriend has decided to stay living where she does until at least these have been completed. Before she'd reached this conclusion she'd considered moving closer to where I'm located. Can someone please help me decide what to do? I want to be with her more than anything, but I can't go on feeling like this. It's breaking my heart and effecting my health badly. Thanks in advance.
CptSaveAho Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 I really believe LS should have a facepalm button next to the like button... ACTIONS....words (With the above in mind... look at her actions alone and dont listen to the words and you tell us what is going on) 1
Patrickd12 Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 oops last comment meant to be somewhere else. Here is my opinion. Hmmm.... Maybe she's scared of commitment or she's trying to figure out her life and putting the pieces together. I believe that she still wants you in her, why she told you she doesn't want to give up however, you may want to dig in and find out if something is bothering her that you can maybe help with.
Author Biscuit80 Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 I really believe LS should have a facepalm button next to the like button... ACTIONS....words (With the above in mind... look at her actions alone and dont listen to the words and you tell us what is going on) Well, obviously to me I can only see this going one way... ending. Is that what you're getting at?
SantistaUSA Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 You should give her space, it is hard to tell what's going on as she won't tell you, but it is not right what she is doing to you, if I were you I would start to move on and I don't mean go out on dates, but stay busy, go to the gym, hang out with friends, maybe she met someone and is doubting her feelings for you, I believe she knows exactly what's going on but is afraid of telling you.
Author Biscuit80 Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 You should give her space, it is hard to tell what's going on as she won't tell you, but it is not right what she is doing to you, if I were you I would start to move on and I don't mean go out on dates, but stay busy, go to the gym, hang out with friends, maybe she met someone and is doubting her feelings for you, I believe she knows exactly what's going on but is afraid of telling you. She's definitely not met anyone else, but I believe you're right. I believe there's something she is afraid of telling me. She said just a few weeks ago that she didn't date people from work because she doesn't like people knowing her business. She also told me on holiday that she'd been through a lot and that I "didn't know the half of it"...
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