Lafs32 Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 Here's my experience. Keep in mind, I was one of those who never believed in the love at first sight theory. Over 10 years ago, I had an experience that changed everything. One day, I approached someone I had never met before. Let me point out this was not an attempt to pick her up and was in a public place where I had to approach her to ask a question. As I began to speak to her, it was like I was suddenly in some sort of state of shock. It is very hard to describe in words, but I will equate it to being in complete awe and entranced. My eyes opened larger, my mouth probably opened giving off that look of my lower lip dropping, and there was an incredibly long pause until I could say what I was supposed to say next. Now, maybe I am just imagining or wanting it to have been mutual, but I do believe I saw her eyes enlarge, too, and she also took a longer than normal pause between getting her words out. Our eyes stayed looking at each other much longer than normal for two people who had never met, and we were probably conversing about something very trivial. In fact, I have no recollection of what that initial conversation was about. I know the context and the exact spot we were in, but cannot recall the words. I felt like I could not walk away at the moment I should have from the conversation. I felt as if my body did not want to turn and walk in the other direction from this girl. But there's more. At the first moment our eyes met, and for maybe one or two seconds, I felt this sensation inside my chest. I can only describe it as being like that feeling in your stomach when you are in a car and suddenly drive down a steep incline. That somewhat pleasurable sensation in your abdomen, however it was high in my chest. I had not experienced this feeling before this moment, and have only felt it again a few more times and I was always in her presence. During one of those times, I actually felt dizzy like I would fall over. For years since this experience, I've tried to ponder what this really all means. Was it just a feeling inside to someone I really felt attracted to? That myth has evaporated as I've gone years meeting, seeing, and speaking to many other women, but have yet to feel this way again. I even try to pick out women I feel are more attractive than her, and go and look into there eyes and try to recreate or duplicate that feeling and nothing ever happens. I guess what I'm getting at is will I be doomed for life in that this is the one time I will have ever experienced this? Is this someone I should make an attempt to try and contact again, to see if these feelings still exist? I am pretty positive she is married right now, but not 100%. We had become friends and I tried to tell her once, but it never quite came out. She is reserved and a rather quiet person so if she even remotely felt the same, I doubt she would be the type of that would come forward and reveal it to me, especially since she was engaged at the time. Has anyone else ever experienced this? Does it only happen once, with one person? Many years on and I don't know what to make of it. I think of her a few times a year and try to make sense of it all. It seems to become more confusing as time passes and why that feeling has never appeared again. Is there a such thing as love at first sight?
Philosoraptor Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 Sounds like you had the hots for her. You may have loved the way she looked and spoke, but you knew nothing about her at that moment so it wasn't real love. For all you knew she was a very pretty man abuser who would demoralize you and chop off your willy.
Author Lafs32 Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 (edited) That's similar to what I thought, except for the "hots" part. As I said, I've seen countless women since her that I found even more attractive, yet the feeling has never been duplicated. Once I got to know her, I found her to be an incredible person with a lot of similarities to myself. I began to think of her constantly, which I did not after the first meeting. It was only after I got to know her. So, how did I know this at first glance? I also did not form this biased opinion of her due to these initial feelings. Again, I've met many other women I've been both attracted to and felt they were a great match, yet no repeat of those feelings I experienced. If someone had told me this story before this happened, I would have chalked it up to the same thing and not really believed it or understood. My answer may have to come from someone who's had a similar experience. Edited July 24, 2013 by Lafs32
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