xilver Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 Holy hell I can't believe this. I have been off and on with this girl for a while now. Each time we are off we have ended up going NC and each time we do she ends up breaking it but the strange part is her timing. Every time I start talking to a new girl to the point where I'm thinking about asking her on a date my ex contacts me. There has been no exception to this. Whether it is 3 weeks NC or 2 months NC the timing is absolutely freaking me out. Does she have psychic abilities, is she able to see my text messages, work for NSA or something?
AllTooWell Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 It's just the way the world works. Each time my ex broke NC I was ON A DATE . I would have my phone in my purse and when I went home or whatever, I'd check it and surprise surprise. "Hey". There are many many stories like this. Sadly she is probably not physic. Ignore her. Block the number. 2
Author xilver Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 I can't ignore her. She knows where I live, she will just call one of my friends and have him pass along the message if anything. All I need to do is tell her to leave me alone and she will. I want to get to the point where I am strong enough to tell her that but first I have to decide if that's the best thing to do. I just find it amusing that every single time I talk to a new girl I hear from her. I guess you are right and this is how the world works since you experienced it too. Anyone else experience this?
jesse93 Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 can't say i've experienced this but, i think its just a coincidence is she close to any of your friends, maybe they tip her off because she asks? "hey is he talking to any new girls lately?" or maybe it is just a coincidence, i'm not sure but you should give it a try with one of these new girls think about it. if you were honestly happy with this girl why have you been on and off so much? to me thats a big sign that this girl isn't worth your time. Idk about you but personally i wouldn't wanna be in a relationship with constant breakups 1
Author xilver Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 can't say i've experienced this but, i think its just a coincidence is she close to any of your friends, maybe they tip her off because she asks? "hey is he talking to any new girls lately?" or maybe it is just a coincidence, i'm not sure but you should give it a try with one of these new girls think about it. if you were honestly happy with this girl why have you been on and off so much? to me thats a big sign that this girl isn't worth your time. Idk about you but personally i wouldn't wanna be in a relationship with constant breakups She does know some of my friends but every time this happens these girls are so new that I haven't told anyone I started talking to them. You are right I don't want a relationship like that. The problem I have is that it takes me forever before I really start to like a girl. Even if I think she is beautiful at first I go through a stage where lose interest. Usually a couple months in is when I start to develop feeling for them.
thompkevin Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 I can't ignore her. She knows where I live, she will just call one of my friends and have him pass along the message if anything. All I need to do is tell her to leave me alone and she will. I want to get to the point where I am strong enough to tell her that but first I have to decide if that's the best thing to do. I just find it amusing that every single time I talk to a new girl I hear from her. I guess you are right and this is how the world works since you experienced it too. Anyone else experience this? You don't have to wait till you are strong enough to tell her that. You can just tell her that you need her to stop contacting you. That doesn't mean you are being rude to her. Neither does it mean that you don't want anything to do with her. If it makes you feel better, tell her you don't want her to contact you for a certain period of time, like 3 months. After that you'll decide whether or not you want to stay in touch.
j'adore Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 I have thought I was psychic with my guy.. Even in LC and having left my phone at home, i get home to find he has just called me, even happening over a period several times recently. I drove to a place miles away we have never been and was thinking about him and there he was coming up the hill. I have had several instances like this and I am not sure what to call it but I know him very well and can sense him quite a bit. I feel like he is my soulmate and he calls me his witch. I do not read palms or give readings lol Maybe she has a spell on you:D 1
theonlyjuan Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 Weird stuff happens. Every time I used to get close to this girl, I always ended up meeting a future girlfriend
Chi townD Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 Really? She's not psychic but you did answer your own question with one of your posts. You stated that all she has to do is pass a note or a message to one of your friends. Apparently, it sounds like she's still on talking terms with them. Easy enough to ask about you and friends are always dumb, " Xliver? Yeah, he's doing great! As a matter of fact, he's been talking to this girl at work a lot!" BAM! She knows what's up with you. Time for her to pull on the leash to get the dog back in line. Try an experiment. The next time you're interested in a girl. Keep it to yourself. Keep it a secret. Betcha everything goes off without a hitch.
lop98 Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 My ex did the same... I'd get his 'hellos' just as I was coming back or getting reading to go out with my bf. They don't have psychic abilities, it's very simple, they just sense distance and a true attempt to detach, so they try to make sure they can still pull you back to them. They get bored after being ignored a handful of times... that's how far their intention to maintain contact goes, it either stays at more hellos or vanishes if you don't reciprocate... it's never meant to turn into anything meaningful.
iouaname Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 No. It's coincidence and nothing more. Don't trick yourself into seeing signs when there are none.
jesse93 Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 She does know some of my friends but every time this happens these girls are so new that I haven't told anyone I started talking to them. You are right I don't want a relationship like that. The problem I have is that it takes me forever before I really start to like a girl. Even if I think she is beautiful at first I go through a stage where lose interest. Usually a couple months in is when I start to develop feeling for them. so give it a couple months man, don't let her come back in your life and ruin a possible better relationship take the time and effort to talk to a new girl to see if she could make you truly happy. 1
j'adore Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 No, she is not psychic and your knowledge is what exactly? None, thought so, 1
bluegreen Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 She could have put something on your phone while you were couple ?
Simon Phoenix Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 No, but it seems like they do have a sixth sense. I was in pretty limited contact with my ex a couple months ago when I happened to hook up with another girl (one well out of my league) one night. There was no way she could have known this happened (I was hanging out with my cousin from out of town who she never met, I didn't advertise what I was doing on Facebook at all and the girl I hooked up with wasn't a Facebook friend of mine), but literally the next day my ex texts me more friendly and excited than she had been in months. It was bizarre. That being said, you seem to think that NC is a two-person thing. It's not, your NC is for you and for you alone. She's not breaking your NC by texting or calling you, you are breaking your NC by responding every time.
Author xilver Posted July 25, 2013 Author Posted July 25, 2013 She could have put something on your phone while you were couple ? LOL I hope not. She did ask to see my phone one time when we were arguing. She went inside for like 2 minutes then gave it back to me. She never did tell me what she did. Whatever it was she was quick.
Woggle Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 I really do think women have psychic abilities to be able to tell when we have truly moved on and boy does it turn them on.
Author xilver Posted July 25, 2013 Author Posted July 25, 2013 No, but it seems like they do have a sixth sense. I was in pretty limited contact with my ex a couple months ago when I happened to hook up with another girl (one well out of my league) one night. There was no way she could have known this happened (I was hanging out with my cousin from out of town who she never met, I didn't advertise what I was doing on Facebook at all and the girl I hooked up with wasn't a Facebook friend of mine), but literally the next day my ex texts me more friendly and excited than she had been in months. It was bizarre. That being said, you seem to think that NC is a two-person thing. It's not, your NC is for you and for you alone. She's not breaking your NC by texting or calling you, you are breaking your NC by responding every time. I'm not so worried about NC. It doesn't do much for me. I'm not a miserable wreck and I'm comfortable enough in my own skin to go either route. I tend to find the good in most people and I understand that sometimes relationships don't work out. She didn't do anything intentionally to hurt me she was just a bit too insecure and it caused us to fight.
Simon Phoenix Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 I'm not so worried about NC. It doesn't do much for me. I'm not a miserable wreck and I'm comfortable enough in my own skin to go either route. I tend to find the good in most people and I understand that sometimes relationships don't work out. She didn't do anything intentionally to hurt me she was just a bit too insecure and it caused us to fight. NC has nothing to do with the other person. It's more for me. I'm not in NC with my ex anymore because I worked past all that in NC and now I'm cool either way. But yeah, when I did NC on my ex, it wasn't out of any hatred for her or any need to "punish" her at all.
Author xilver Posted July 25, 2013 Author Posted July 25, 2013 NC has nothing to do with the other person. It's more for me. I'm not in NC with my ex anymore because I worked past all that in NC and now I'm cool either way. But yeah, when I did NC on my ex, it wasn't out of any hatred for her or any need to "punish" her at all. I know it doesn't have anything to do with the other person. I was explaining a situation where I would go nc. If I was angry at that person or they did something intentionally to hurt me I wouldn't want to talk to them regardless. And, that would still be nc for me because I respect myself enough to push people out of my life that aren't good for me.
Lovelikecrazy Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 Im guessing she is keeping tabs on you via a social site such as twitter or fb. If you have these i would suggest making your pages ad posts private. Also change your passwords, even email passwords. Also make sure she has no access to your phone account online. That password may also need changed. She could be see your calling or texting a new number. Check your phone for hidden apps, maybe even reset it. I once heard there are apps that someone can put on your phone when they have access to it, that they can log on a pc and see what you are up to. I dont know if these apps really exsist but check your phone in case. She may be drawing her own conclusions if you are posting on someones page or liking someones pics. Even a mutual friend may be drawing these conclusions for her. Beware of mutual friends. Good luck!
happydate Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 (edited) Holy hell I can't believe this. I have been off and on with this girl for a while now. Each time we are off we have ended up going NC and each time we do she ends up breaking it but the strange part is her timing. Every time I start talking to a new girl to the point where I'm thinking about asking her on a date my ex contacts me. There has been no exception to this. Whether it is 3 weeks NC or 2 months NC the timing is absolutely freaking me out. Does she have psychic abilities, is she able to see my text messages, work for NSA or something? Men and women are naturally intuitive -- it's called the inner voice. Women are good at it because they are child bearers -- they need to be able to sense their babies needs cause babies can't speak when they are born. When your girlfriend are attached to you through bonding pair (sex), the spiritual community calls it forming an etheric cord of attachment between 2 individuals. You and her can't see this bond as it is situated in the higher planes; some say it's in the Astral plane and some on the etherical plane. This is the spiritual plane; we reside on the physical plane. Once this bond is established, your separation between you and her is only physical, but the spiritual bond will continue to exist. So whatever you do relationship wise is shared with her. You can CUT this cord only by forgiving her and doing complete NC by yourself. When you think about her or longing for her, the cord keeps its connection. Now, there are mediums out there that claim they can help cut this cord. I'm not sure how it works, but it seemed to work on those more than 7 years or 10 years relationship that split. The theory behind the etheric cord of attachment has a lot to do with soul reincarnation and karma; IF YOU BELIEVE IN THIS. The sole basis of Universal Karmic balance is that, all relationships are destined to be healed. Which means eventually when you reincarnate back in another physical body (either a man or woman) in another period and time line, you will again meet her (could be a him or a kid on another life time) and then go at it again. Hopefully this time, you'll be able to establish a stable relationship and heal. The etheric cord of attachment reminds both of you and you are destined to meet again cause the Karmic energy still isn't balanced. That's all. The reason she has a deep connection with you is because, she's been going at it with you for multiple of life times. When you cut this cord, then when you reincarnate, you will no longer have to go at it again. It's finish and it's done. You can cut this cord easily. Just go complete NC and forgive her. You, yourself have to do this. Once you sever this connection, I assure you that she won't have a clue what you're doing with new girlfriend or soon to be wife. Otherwise if you don't do complete NC, you'll end up being attached to her spiritually and physically like so many screwed up exes. The definition of a psychic or a medium is that, they are a communication conduit to the afterlife or the universe. In fact, all of us has this ability and the main reason we don't have access to it is our ego. Despite what some people believe, psychics DO NOT and CAN NOT read your mind. Those that do are just dangling a carrot in front of you just to make a buck. Just do a complete NC. Edited July 25, 2013 by happydate
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