napy666 Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 Tonight I am going on a date and IF it does all go well for me. What should I do when it is over with. Should I wait for him to text or call me later on that night or the next day to say how it went or should I be the one to make the first move?
Phantom888 Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 do whatever feels natural to you. I hate dating rules. If you like him, tell him over text or phone that night. Guys love woman who takes the initiative, especially if he likes you the same. Dont play any waiting game or stuff like that. Hate mind games. Just be honest and straight forward, and let things progress naturally. If there is no chemistry, no waiting game is gonna change it. 1
sdraw108 Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 do whatever feels natural to you. I hate dating rules. If you like him, tell him over text or phone that night. Guys love woman who takes the initiative, especially if he likes you the same. Dont play any waiting game or stuff like that. Hate mind games. Just be honest and straight forward, and let things progress naturally. If there is no chemistry, no waiting game is gonna change it. Agreed. Do what feels natural. I don't want to be dating someone who is put off because I didn't adhere to some silly dating rule, anyway.
Author napy666 Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 Well he said he was going to be at the GYM at 9PM and its now 10PM he said he'd text me later, so should I wait or text him late tonight?
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 The problem already is that you're thinking of what to do after the date without actually having went on the date. In general, let the man pursue if he's interested...especially if you're one to be easily manipulated or gullible.
Author napy666 Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 I did go on the date, I got home after 9PM. Since he had to be at the GYM at 9PM. So its now 10PM and no word from him yet.
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 I did go on the date, I got home after 9PM. Since he had to be at the GYM at 9PM. So its now 10PM and no word from him yet. Do you have any opinion or feeling on the date or is this merely a matter of whether the guy is interested in you and whether you can gain a guys interest?
Author napy666 Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 I thought the date went well, we just hung out at Starbucks drinking coffee and talking. I do like this guy.
SantistaUSA Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 I thought the date went well, we just hung out at Starbucks drinking coffee and talking. I do like this guy. People say dating rule sucks etc and I agree it sucks, but you have to be careful not to scare the other person off, there must be a challenge, it is NATURE, if it too easy and seems like he already won you, then he will lose interest. He said he will contact you later then let him do that, and don't reply at the same sec, if it is late then just reply the following day, you can say you had a great time as well, no need to say sorry for not replying the night b4. I could go on and on..... 1
Author napy666 Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 Alright what if I don't hear from him at all tonight and tomorrow?
Star Gazer Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 Alright what if I don't hear from him at all tonight and tomorrow? It's only been a couple hours and you're already concerned? If you don't hear from him, you do nothing. 2
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 Alright what if I don't hear from him at all tonight and tomorrow? Then don't do anything, if the guy is interested in you he's going to ask you out again...if after the "three day rule" he doesn't contact you, then take it as he is not interested and buy your own latte. Remember, it was just a date...don't get all invested into it, you can't drag men by the ankle to be with you anyway. 2
Author napy666 Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 But here's the thing, he told me tomorrow he is running errands, then Thursday through the weekend he is going out of town, then Monday he's busy. So he may not talk to me due to him being busy, and me I don't wanna bother people if they're busy.
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 But here's the thing, he told me tomorrow he is running errands, then Thursday through the weekend he is going out of town, then Monday he's busy. So he may not talk to me due to him being busy, and me I don't wanna bother people if they're busy. You're not getting it, if the guy is interested in you he's going to make time for you...regardless of being "busy", there will still be some effort especially after a successful date...do you understand that? It's not about bugging him, If he wants to contact you he will or instead he'll make excuses...you wouldn't be bugging him if he was interested but he would be making an effort regardless so you wouldn't feeling that way. I get your insecure and clueless but you've really got be patient and let things happen on their own without trying to control, or you're going to get played by a lot of guys using your interest level and attitude to their benefit because you don't know what you want or need you're just like hoping the guy is satisfied with you and you're doing the right thing....that's retarded, you need a standard and expectation for yourself or any guy making the rules will give you the least amount of effort as possible unless he himself is insecure, there's not a lot of guys out there that are respectful and treat women right because of their own criteria...they just do what they gotta do and you set the bar.
Author napy666 Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 Then I will wait and see if he hits me back at all tonight or tomorrow then.
clia Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 Oh my God, be patient. The date happened last night. Just accept that you may not hear from him again. It happens all the time and is no big deal -- just move on to the next guy. If you don't hear from him by end of day tomorrow, you likely won't hear from him. Did you tell him at the end of the date that you had a nice time? Did he mention going out again? Did he try to kiss you? Did he give you a hug goodbye? Did he say he would be in touch? Did he give you any sign that he plans to see you again?
Author napy666 Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 He said he liked hanging out. He quickly got up and walked away fast and out the door and took off. He did say he would text me but has yet to do so. I just figured him and I both had high standards and we both met each other's standards so why wouldn't we work?
Author napy666 Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 I did text him last night, no reply and no reply today or word from him today.
Author napy666 Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 We went on 1 date we did meet and we shared a lot of things in common. He did tell me last night he was going to be busy with some events these new few days.
dasein Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 Please try to occupy your thoughts in some other way, focusing on this will stress you out otherwise. Will give similar advice that I give to guys. Keep your dating binary, simple. There are two things to consider, 1. whether he is continuing to ask you out on dates, and 2. whether he is continuing to show you respectful physical attention. The rest is noise, when he's going to the gym, where he will be next, why he doesn't text back, what he thinks, noise. Go by those two things, and until one or the other happens, put it all out of your mind. Have some engaging, mentally difficult thing to do between dates until you get more experience, keep busy. Those who want another date will ask again, those who don't won't. Try not to invest emotionally at this stage going forward. Good luck.
snowflakes88 Posted July 25, 2013 Posted July 25, 2013 If you texted last night and he hasn't responded, likely answer is "not interested." It was only one date -- don't sweat it. How did you know he's busy through Monday? Did you ask him about seeing each other again and he told you all of that, or did he volunteer it?
Author napy666 Posted July 25, 2013 Author Posted July 25, 2013 He had wanted to meet me Monday night but I couldn't make it so when we spoke yesturday he asked again so I said alright and we met up. Then he told me about his other business with being busy the rest of this week.
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