Ex gf being poisoned by friends and age

[vnn]

First posting here folks. Im 21 yrs old, got a question for ya. Im

from Brazil so sry for any english mistakes.

So, i will try to make it short.

 

I met a girl who didnt like do go out, didnt drink, u know, a

"perfect" kind. She was really a hard girl to get, she resisted a lot,

but u know, after some time, we started to go out, and then dating.

So, she did what every girl in love would do, introduce me to parents,

write letters and everything.

 

She just turned 18 with 3 months of relationship.

The fact is, SHE DIDNT LIKE to go out even with friends

or me. Always the casual type, on saturdays she used to want to watch

movies, no clubs or travels, she didnt like that.

 

Guess what. with 6 months of relationship, everything perfect yet, in

matter of 15 days, she became another person. Rude. All of a sudden.

To make it short, she broke up, told it was my fault, for my mistakes.

the fact is, i didnt make any. ok, a few, im human, but nothing

SEVERE, like betraying, lies, and arguing. of course, was just an

excuse.

 

so i asked several times the REAL reason for the breakup, and

then she added "just turned 18 recently, i met some old friends, and i

never been to clubs and bars, so i would like to go, but its unfair to

go out and stay with u at same time" of course i offered myself to go

with her, but of course she doesnt want to go with me, u can all think

of why. so ok, i got depressed, hurt, and everything, and im still am,

that happened 1 month ago, but the thing is: SHE JUST DOESNT STOP

TALKING WITH ME. u know, once in a week, calls me just to ask how

things are going.

 

she even come to MY HOUSE, for visiting my mother,

the fact is, ok, they are friends, but nothing special. she went there

just to see how i was doing, OF COURSE. I was in sadness, nothing unusual, so when she came, i asked how things were, u know, she was in my house, i had some hope. she said was everything ok, all happy, going out a lot with her friends and everything.

 

then she said "But about us, in some months we can talk about it" WHAAAATHE****KKK, i said i wouldnt talk about it never more. So, here in brazil, girls usually when turn 18, they can go to clubs, drink and everything else, i would like to know if u guys had a girl in life that just broke up to party with friends. She texts me in alternate days, looks like she wants me to wait.

 

some facts

 

1 - she will come back, at least in brazil when girls break up to go out with friends, its a FACT they ll regret, even cuz for a girl who never liked of going out, its kinda obvious.

 

2 - i dont know if im going to accept, of course, now, in deep pain, i would, in some months? i cant assure anything.

 

3 - For me, those "old" friends just poisoned her mind. When we had a discussion, of course these incredible ladies (feel the irony) would advice her to breakup and going out, u can add that, to the 18's age, and ok, the **** is done.

 

 

Anyone ever passed something like this?

 

obs: i dont even need to say that im f*** sad for being swaped by a ilusion of life in clubs.

Edited July 25, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[Allen101]

She's the one thats fked up. Why couldn't she stay in the relationship with you, while going to clubs? It seems like a pretty stupid reason to initiate a breakup over. But I feel you bro, my ex also left me because she met some online friends and decided that she would rather go out and have fun with them rather than stay with me. She said I was unnecessary stress in her life. Now guess what, I find out she left me for one of those online friends.. If she ever texts or contacts me again I'll say "**** off bitch go play with someone else's feelings."

[NiceFails]

Grass is greener syndrome, she's keeping you in her purse just in case grass wasn't greener. Grass will not turn out to be greener. She will/is abusing you, what's the solution? You know it.

 

NO CONTACT.

[vnn]

thanks for the answers guys. Nicefails,the thing is that i thought she wanted to keep contact cuz she could care about me, but u've opened my eyes, ill start to ignore her now to do the NC, i just hope it works well, cuz i will be honest with you: of course i want her back. i hope the NC helps her to see that the grass isnt greener at clubs, as she never liked to go out... did this happened to you too?

[jesse93]

thanks for the answers guys. Nicefails,the thing is that i thought she wanted to keep contact cuz she could care about me, but u've opened my eyes, ill start to ignore her now to do the NC, i just hope it works well, cuz i will be honest with you: of course i want her back. i hope the NC helps her to see that the grass isnt greener at clubs, as she never liked to go out... did this happened to you too?

to be honest i think she is just at a point where she wants to go have fun with her friends when a girl goes to the club what does she usually do? she ends up grinding and dancing with some random dude or something along the lines i think she just honestly wanted to have the experience to know what it was like, but at the same time she wants to keep you in her life incase she wants you back. i would let her go bro just stop contacting her it seems like shes not mature enough to have a legitimate relationship with you. she's not worth your time.

[vnn]

thx for the comment jesse93! well, it hurts a lot but i will not contact her, lets see if that works. have you ever been in a situation like this before?

[NiceFails]

thx for the comment jesse93! well, it hurts a lot but i will not contact her, lets see if that works. have you ever been in a situation like this before?

 

My current break up. I dumped her cuz she wanted to get drunk with some gals and guys. You won't take any logical response from such women. I advice you befor tempting to call her that you think of the outcome. Cold replies and disrespect.