Enna Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 (edited) I have worn myself out so much trying to figure out what my ex is trying to do with his breadcrumbs (and still angry from replying once before only to find that he wanted to be friends) that I can't reply to him anymore. This after two months of NC (or rather two blocks of a month, punctuated by me replying to him once) - he's sent me about one email a week telling me he loves me and misses me and I'm the most fabulous and beautiful person but also other stuff like 'I sometimes don't think I can have a relationship at all' and 'I need my space': I really love you and miss you and wish we were back in each other's life. Not just as "friends". Just the way we always were! Or any way you want it to be. I just really want you in my life, Enna! My life without you doesn't make any sense. Let's end this stupid silence, please! What am I meant to say to that? He says that he split with me because I was 'passive' and he didn't know how I felt and a split is a two-way thing and the implication is that I agreed to it by not arguing with him and telling him what I really felt. :-( I think this is rubbish, he even said he 'needed space' before the actual split. I'm too angry to reply without making things worse. Which I think is why people say to follow NC until you are healed. Edited July 23, 2013 by Enna
Philosoraptor Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 He feels guilty, and that's on him. You need to concentrate on your own healing, not his guilt. Good on you for not responding, keep it that way.
Author Enna Posted July 23, 2013 Author Posted July 23, 2013 Thank you. It's hard though - it's a long email. :-( He has persistently said he loves me and misses me and hopes I can forgive him...though he hasn't apologised for anything other than not being very nice to me in the last few months of the relationship.
Author Enna Posted July 23, 2013 Author Posted July 23, 2013 But haha brilliant and very appropriate signature you've got!
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