Montana 1968 Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 My ex broke up with me 3 weeks ago, I loved him so much and I know that he loved me too. He has recently seperated from his wife. I know that we might have only been together for 3 months but our relationship was very intense. We would constantly text each other morning, noon and night. He said that he had never experienced such a strong love for anyone before. The thing that is confusing me most is how can a boyfriend go from saying that they "Loved and Adored You" one minute then the next day say "Sorry, I can't do this anymore, it's too hard? ". I am not a naive teenager, I'm 45 for goodness sake !!!. He wanted to do the whole "let's try and be friends" thing, but I found it too hard, I couldn't turn off my love at the flick of a switch like he seems to have managed to do. I said "I can't do this anymore" to him and he replied "I understand, Goodbye Honey, I'm sorry... I will always love you" !!! Arghhhhhhhh. I decided the the best option for me would be to do the whole 'No Contact' thing but it's so hard especially if I'm feeling a bit low, I feel like I have an overwhelming urge to send him a facebook message. I have managed 1 week so far and I'm feeling very proud of myself. Is anyone else struggling like I am ???.
forgetmenot75 Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 I'm really so sorry. It looks like he's lost interest in you, probably because he found someone else he liked more. He seems immature for sure. No contact is hard, but is your only choice right now. Stay strong 1
Madhavok Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 NC is hard to start, but once you get rolling you'll begin to wonder why you even worried about texting/fb messaging this person. Trust the process. 1
Newbie37 Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 Yep been there for sure and similar story, together 3 months the whole texting speaking morning noon night, I love you etc, want to b with you always and marry you even!!! then all of a sudden he ends it but still confirms he loves me and wants to stay friends, I did try that for a while until I found out 4 weeks ago he is seeing someone else and kept it from me to avoid hurting me!!! it hurts like hell and im 38 so thought my days of games were well and truly over, I go through the emotions from feeling hurt to anger that I fell for it all, then being ok to feeling no better than I did when it ended, he is a lot younger so I think it was just a big game to him, im just waiting for karma to show up and bite him on the bum!!!! Stay strong, you are not alone!!!! 1
steveT95 Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 I came from a very similar story. Very intense. She loved me more than anyone and wanted to marry me and have kids and always be with me. Then completely lost interest and stopped bothering. After we broke up she continued to tell me she loved/missed me and even text saying how hard the break up was for her. I text her at first and I haven't been strict with NC. You are doing much better than I did. Keep going, you'll regret breaking it. Remember that, you will regret breaking NC. 1
TaraMaiden Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 ...... im just waiting for karma to show up and bite him on the bum!!!! You're going to have a long wait. That's not what Karma does. If you MUST discuss 'karma' at least get it right. (See my Signature, item #3). And you can call me as picky and pedantic as you want. Your notion isn't any the less incorrect. 1
xilver Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 I came from a very similar story. Very intense. She loved me more than anyone and wanted to marry me and have kids and always be with me. Then completely lost interest and stopped bothering. After we broke up she continued to tell me she loved/missed me and even text saying how hard the break up was for her. I text her at first and I haven't been strict with NC. You are doing much better than I did. Keep going, you'll regret breaking it. Remember that, you will regret breaking NC. I broke nc with my last two ex's. I didn't regret it with either one. At first I tried to do NC with one of them but it still hurt. No matter what I did it hurt. I tried to move on date and all that. Then about 6 months in as I was thinking about contacting her she ends up contacting me. I felt like she was stronger than me for doing that and I respected her for it. Be who you are. Focus on loving yourself and being happy. 1
Talulah Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 It sounds like he was rebounding with you from his divorce/separation. Theae 3 month relationships are the worst. He is scum. Think of him as that. 1
Misfortune Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 Aren't those 1st few months the Lo...infatuation stages? Where everyone is an angel and life is perfect? Not doubting any1s feelings, just curious. 2
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