SadFellow2004 Posted October 27, 2004 Posted October 27, 2004 I suffer from GAD and I have a hard time getting my mind off of things, my girlfriend broke up with me about a month ago and I know it was because of my feelings toward pro abortion after I got her pregnant. She was dating a marine a week before she met me and he got shipped off to Iraq, he came back about a month ago and that is around the time she said she did not have feelings for me anymore, she said she was scared to tell me after all the abortion problems happened because I have had depression problems due to GAD earlier. Does anyone else have GAD or OCD and have some sort of method with dealing with it. I feel so insecure and feel like she never loved me and that I wasted 8 months of my life with her and that she was cheating on me the whole time but she assures me that it was never like that. She is dating this marine now and it makes me feel so ****ty. I can't sleep at night because I constantly wonder why she stopped liking me even after I know the prime reason. Can anyone help me?
BigJ100 Posted October 27, 2004 Posted October 27, 2004 If you suffer from GAD, then here is a fact to hang on to "95% of then things you worry about are not really that bad". This is a fact. No matter what you feel or want to believe, this is the facts and you can't change it. I know it doesn't feel that way, but that is the truth! What I did was find a good psychologist and a doctor and get some good medication and some good methods to help reduce the anxiety peaks. A process called EFT (check it out with google) - tapping - it worked well. A lot of times it is chemical, emotional and sometimes spiritual. To tackle it you need to attack it on all fronts. Mate, she's gone. For 8 months you helped each other through life. Now its your turn to get yourself patched up and move on. You obviously have a lot to offer (though I don't hold with your view on abortion) - so go for it.
DESI Posted October 27, 2004 Posted October 27, 2004 SadFellow, I also read your other post about your girlfriend leaving you for this marine, and I am really sorry about that. You think its because you wanted her to get an abortion, but then she miscarried anyway. Since I am only 21 my ex and I always agreed that if I got pregnant I would get an abortion, for many reasons. We are young and I can't afford children. I don't want to have children til I am financially stable so my children do not have to live like I had to live. I do not think this was the reason because she didn't have an abortion she miscarried so that doesnt make sense to me. Also you were asking about GAD, I also have GAD. I have had it since high school, I used to be on meds because of it, but currently I am not. My ex knew about my disorder, but he really used it against me after the break up. It was like he was purposely trying to be mean to me for whatever reason he had in mind. It is hard, after the break up out of no where I would have anxiety attacks, I would hyperventulate, and get light headed, sometimes I would puke. It was definately for sure the worst time in my whole entire life. If I were you I would go see a psychologists and get on medication, I am actually going to go see one next week. It really does help. Do therapy too, then you can talk about your relationship, and they can help you get through it.
Author SadFellow2004 Posted October 28, 2004 Author Posted October 28, 2004 I think it was the way that I treated her doing her pregnancy, I was snapped one night and yelled out stuff I didnt mean too, I think it scarred her. =(
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