MoonSiren Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 Hi! I had a great date on Sunday night with a guy I met on Match. We had sushi then saw a movie together. He seemed really into me and wanted to hold hands the whole movie. I sent him a text Monday morning saying "happy monday!" and then a picture of myself smiling for him. Now it is Tuesday and still nothing. Is he no longer interested or trying to play it cool??
Treasa Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 There's no way to know. However, he isn't your boyfriend and you shouldn't pursue him. Don't text him or contact him, and continue to date others. 2
syw0806 Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 Most likely he didn't feel the same way you did. the fact he didn't contact you first and ignore your text, seems like he's not that excited about seeing you again. But maybe he's up to something.. You never know. Don't contact him for now, wait and date other people. If he doesn't contact you, his loss.
KatZee Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 When a guy is into you they typically send a follow up text saying they had a great time, and will schedule another date. If he did neither of these things it's safe to assume he didn't think the date was as great as you thought it was. It happens though, especially with online dating. 3
Adele0908 Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 Don't send anymore texts and just go on with your life. He may or may not contact you. He most likely will contact you if you give him space and a chance to miss you.
kaydubz Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 Well if you meant Sunday you went out and then it's just been two days Tuesday, I guess you should wait and see if he does reply you within that week. If he doesn't then you know he isn't interested. But what bugs me the most is the whole ignoring texts situation. Why can't people just be straight up and say whatever it is they want to say, whether it's a yes or a no, just give the other party an answer!
BluEyeL Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 You have to wait and see, but my bet is that he won't contact you again. You felt it was great, he had whatever reasons not to continue to pursue you. That happens often, 90% of first dates don't work out. First, don't put any stock in first dates. Assume that however you felt it went, it won't work out. It saves you a lot of unnecessary worry. When I was doing OLD, first I got to the point when I did what I said above, didn't put any stock on first dates, but to make the whole thing a bit more exciting (first dates are usually kinda boring), I made like a goal to see if I can find a system to always get a second date (doesn't mean I'd accept all of them), just for fun. Mind you, I usually didn't go beyond the second when I accepted a second, but I perfected the first to second system Basically you shouldn't talk too much. You should find out what interests the guy by asking probing questions and then let him talk and get excited. He'll feel excited about his own talk and he'll like you as a result:laugh: Also, you shouldn't let him see you are very eager/excited about him. Stay cool and relaxed. Observe what he's doing and you do the same, in terms of body language. And make eye contact, direct eye contact. That's pretty much it. Try it
twilight35 Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 Hi! I had a great date on Sunday night with a guy I met on Match. We had sushi then saw a movie together. He seemed really into me and wanted to hold hands the whole movie. I sent him a text Monday morning saying "happy monday!" and then a picture of myself smiling for him. Now it is Tuesday and still nothing. Is he no longer interested or trying to play it cool?? Not good he's not interested start looking for someone else who will appreciate you. Also not cool of him to hold your hand and stuff. Mixed signals-- he's a bunghole
BluEyeL Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 Also not cool of him to hold your hand and stuff. Yeah, my guess with the handholding (and the movie, if it was a romantic one) was that he was probing to see if she'd warm up towards the physical fast. She probably gave the vibe that she'd be a bit of work and he said "meh, not worth it". Just a speculation, but it's from experience.
petall Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 The handholding would have made me a bit wary to be honest. It's only the first date, you are practically strangers and it's a bit quick, no? Makes me think he's just someone with all the moves. 1
mtber75 Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 You should wait several more days. You never know, he probably busy with work and all. Sometimes people don't like to text or contact before they get their other priorities carried out. But don't contact him again, let him contact you!
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