gd1039 Posted October 27, 2004 Posted October 27, 2004 I recently started talking to this girl that I had known years and years ago (at least 8 ). Our families are still aquaintences of sorts as well. I have realized from talking that we have quite a bit in common and there is a possibility I would be interested in dating her. Ahh yes, now you see my micro dilema. I think this would be one of those situations where you just kind of hang out and see if anything unfolds vs just making a move (because that can get akward fast). It isn't like she is some friend of mine that I secretly have a crush on, but it isn't some random girl either. So that kind of leaves me with why I posted. I am not sure if there is any decent chance for this to turn into more, or if she just sees me as some old aquaintance that you ended up becoming good friends with down the line (maybe more so because we go to the same college together now that she just transfered there). I'm not sure if there is anything particular I should do to hint that I might be interested in more than friends or if I have to just let it play itself out. Of course there is the other option that there is little to no chance this could work. So, what does everyone think?
hulavie Posted October 27, 2004 Posted October 27, 2004 uh oh..... let's see...... Our families are still aquaintences of sorts as well. I have realized from talking that we have quite a bit in common and there is a possibility I would be interested in dating her.[/quote] I see your worry..... if it doesn't turn out well, you two will still be seeing each other at family gatherings etc. I'm not sure if there is anything particular I should do to hint that I might be interested in more than friends or if I have to just let it play itself out. Of course there is the other option that there is little to no chance this could work List down what you like about her. Is all that enough to justify your intentions of going a long way with her.... do you think the things you have in common will draw you to have a closer relationship with her? That's still not enough to know if she's interested to have a deeper relationship with you. That only she can answer. Is it possible for the two of you to talk this out. IMO you two get along great as friends, and both families know each other well, if the feelings between the two of you are mutual....... great!
Author gd1039 Posted October 29, 2004 Author Posted October 29, 2004 Thanks for the tips. I need to pour over what you said some more, but I am still trying to feel this whole thing out. I had a really fun conversation with her yesterday which is a plus in my book though. The thing that has got me going back and forth right now is just the situation of having known her before and knowing her family. I would see her parents around from time to time and say hi maybe a short chat and that was it. I haven't seen them recently, but it seems weird with "so now I like your daughter" (obviously I wouldn't just say that). It just feels a little strange because I had known her at one point in the past under totally different circumstances than I do now... I don't worry too much about seeing any of them if things don't go well. I mean if I came on super strong and she was like "Woah we are just friends!" then it would be akward. That is not how I am going to approach this though, so worse case is we dated and break up and then there is only the usual akwardn ess of any ex. The thing I wonder about is actually if things go good. It just seems strange because our families used to be pretty good friends, then we drifted but are still aquaintences, and now I could be back in the picture but as a BF. Any thoughts?
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