Tantrumboy Posted October 27, 2004 Posted October 27, 2004 hey guys..i just had my first date with the girl that i am actively pursuing and who is pretty awesome and all..anyway the first date was pretty so-so, it was abt an hour and a half, with lots and lots of talk on throwaway topics and uncontrollable laughing in the middle...intersped with questions from her side 'like who cooks for me' (i just naively think, its to know if i am single or not) and all.. the part that i am most confused abt is by the end of the date i started to tune-out even though i like the girl very much..i was very very tired from my day job..and not a lot of talk actually happened at the end which was capped off with a very lame handshake goodbye..and no talk of a second date 'just a see u online'... i just wanta know from u guys that what shld i do next...follow up immediately ?...give it some time ? or wait for her to showup online b4 i make my next move... ANY, i mean ANy advice will be appreciated..and thanks a million.
hulavie Posted October 27, 2004 Posted October 27, 2004 How about giving her a call two days after and tell her you enjoyed your time with her the other day and ask if she would like to do that again sometime? If she asks about noticing you were a bit 'off' towards the end, maybe you could briefly explain that you enjoyed every bit and would have loved to stay out longer if only you weren't tired from a long day at work.....
Majik45 Posted October 27, 2004 Posted October 27, 2004 If you have an e-mail address, I'd e-mail her right now and tell her you had a good time and would like to do it again sometime. Then you could make arrangements or whatever the next time she's online.
Author Tantrumboy Posted October 27, 2004 Author Posted October 27, 2004 that sounds like a reasonable thing to do...but i kinda dont know how she feels after the first date, i would LOVE to go out to another one...but i dread rejection to the max... i guess i will take the risk and ask her out tomorrow..give her some time between the first date. what say u ?
Majik45 Posted October 27, 2004 Posted October 27, 2004 You'll never know how she feels unless you talk to her and ask her out again. I had the worst feeling after the first date with my current girlfriend. I thought it went horribly, but all my anguish was for nothing...we are so happy together now.
hulavie Posted October 27, 2004 Posted October 27, 2004 but i kinda dont know how she feels after the first date, i would LOVE to go out to another one...but i dread rejection to the max... don't come out too strong when asking her out on the second date..... "just in case" not sure if this helps.... try suggesting an activity that interests both of you where you invite her to join you eg. "Hey, this new movie looks good. Wanna join me?" or "I've been meaning to try out the new flavours in that new ice cream parlour" what i mean to say is that..... just dont ask "when are we going out again?" and leave her to answer that.... am i making sense? if i dont, i ask that you pardon me.... as the sun is about to rise soon and i have not slept a single wink yet
Diva Posted October 27, 2004 Posted October 27, 2004 I agree with choosing a more active date. Takes the pressure off having to make all that small talk and if you can find an activity you both enjoy it helps make for a more enjoyable time.
tinkerbell25 Posted October 29, 2004 Posted October 29, 2004 i'd email her and tell her you had a good time and say you were tired, and a little off at the end, so she knows it was not her. then, suggest a date, like hulavie said, suggest and actual thing instead of putting her on the spot and making her come up with something! Tinkerbell
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