jesse93 Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 hello, i'm new here my sister told me to come here if i needed some advice or just needed to vent my feelings so here i am today my girlfriend of 4 years decided to break up with me, and i'm not prepared for the pain to come.. but i guess when are you ever prepared? The reason she broke up with me is because she said i don't have my life together.. she said she wants a man who has a job and is able to go to school at the same time or a man who is hard working, I currently suffer from depression and i don't have any friends because i lost them a couple years ago due to my anxiety. Me and my girlfriend met online and we started talking and it became to the point where we both felt a strong feeling for each other so i asked her out and she said yes, it was a great relationship until 2 years later my life started taking a downward slope and anxiety hit me i wasn't use to it so i locked myself inside my house and i started having panic attacks over every small thing, and after that i fell into a depression and it came to a point where i lost all my friends and all i had was my Long distance relationship. she supported me in every way but today she decided to end it.. she said that i ruined her opportunity to be with a guy that she had met at her work because she was with me.. that really hurts to hear.. i really need some advice on how i can get over this i'm going to start going to the gym to get my mind off of it but what else can i do? how do you guys manage to go without trying to talk with your ex or trying to contact her.. because its only been a few hours and i already feel so eager to text her and pour my heart out. but i know i can't i know thats not the thing to do i have to fight this.. but at the same time its so hard. also do any of you have tips to fall asleep? Going to bed is the worst for me because thats when i think about her the most thats when all the memories come and play over in my mind again and again, does anyone here have some tips to keep your mind busy before bed some how? i'm sorry this is long i could really use some advice. and i'd appreciate any you give me. its so hard to let go of someone you became so close to even if it was long distance.. oh and if you're wondering we never got the chance to meet in person, because her father hardly let her leave the house i feel like i wasted her time like what we had wasn't even real and we just dragged on a relationship to the point where it had to end but i really do feel that i loved her and i could use some advice thank you for taking the time to read this if you do.
MidwestUSA Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 Without addressing your relationship woes, I'll say that your plan to go to the gym is the right first step. Hit it HARD. You'll sleep better, your anxiety and depression will lessen. Get a personal trainer and hit it! And maybe see a doctor, or therapist, to get a handle on that anxiety/ depression. If you don't, you'll find yourself locked up in that house forever. Do you have a fear of going out in public? I wish you lots of luck.
Author jesse93 Posted July 23, 2013 Author Posted July 23, 2013 Without addressing your relationship woes, I'll say that your plan to go to the gym is the right first step. Hit it HARD. You'll sleep better, your anxiety and depression will lessen. Get a personal trainer and hit it! And maybe see a doctor, or therapist, to get a handle on that anxiety/ depression. If you don't, you'll find yourself locked up in that house forever. Do you have a fear of going out in public? I wish you lots of luck. hey, thanks for taking the time to respond. and i'm going to try and hit it hard i'm not really sure where to start when working out though? maybe i should find a personal trainer, and i decided to also call a therapist about my anxiety and depression so i'm going to do that today i'm not really scared to go into public i would say but my anxiety will rise when i'm in closed spaces it seems and i feel i cant get out like movie theaters restaurants but its come to the point where i'd rather stay inside then even try to go out and about because i know i'll have a panic attack. thanks for your advice, i will try to keep it up to date if anyone is curious on my progress. i miss her and want to text her but i know i can't and its hard knowing that.
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