He's over me and it hurts so much

[Emma1234]

Hey everyone, you may have heard my story before but basically my ex broke up a two year relationship to find himself. I have never experienced so much hurt in my whole life, he was everything to me.

 

I'm struggling with guilt because sometimes I would get really moody with him, pain because I keep imagining him meeting someone new and loving her and just general depression.

 

I am seeing a counsiller for this but the pain is just getting worse.

 

It has been 2 months 2 weeks since the break up, I did the whole month no contact but then text him after 30 days, it was nice, we caught up etc. but he seemed oblivious to the pain he had put me through and seemed to be happily moving on with his life. He has also changed so much, he just spoke and moaned about his problems the whole time and pictures of him on fb just seem cocky and arrogant which is the impression he is giving me.

 

When will this pain go away and how? I don't feel like I'll ever move on and it hurts so much that he obviously has, I also saw yesterday that he has deleted all photos and albums of me off his fb account which just made me want to curl up and die as he has obviously got over me.

 

Please please give me words of advice or just anything because I just cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel

 

Emma

[theonlyjuan]

Tell yourself a few times a day that's its over and move on.

 

Find a hobby or do something your passionate about. It's really all about putting your effort and mind to something else. It won't block thoughts out completely but as time goes by it will get easier.

 

 

Just find out what u enjoy and what you want to do that makes you happy, then do it!

 

 

Exercise helps.

 

 

Just because he seems like he is moving on, it doesn't mean he never thinks of you. I am moving on well and to my ex I probably look like I've never been better. I still think of her, she don't know that. I'm sure she thinks about me too.

 

 

You need to stop worrying about what he thinks and what he's doing. Concentrate on yourself, you will be happier in the long run

[TheInfamousCookie]

Hey everyone, you may have heard my story before but basically my ex broke up a two year relationship to find himself. I have never experienced so much hurt in my whole life, he was everything to me.

 

I'm struggling with guilt because sometimes I would get really moody with him, pain because I keep imagining him meeting someone new and loving her and just general depression.

 

I am seeing a counsiller for this but the pain is just getting worse.

 

It has been 2 months 2 weeks since the break up, I did the whole month no contact but then text him after 30 days, it was nice, we caught up etc. but he seemed oblivious to the pain he had put me through and seemed to be happily moving on with his life. He has also changed so much, he just spoke and moaned about his problems the whole time and pictures of him on fb just seem cocky and arrogant which is the impression he is giving me.

 

When will this pain go away and how? I don't feel like I'll ever move on and it hurts so much that he obviously has, I also saw yesterday that he has deleted all photos and albums of me off his fb account which just made me want to curl up and die as he has obviously got over me.

 

Please please give me words of advice or just anything because I just cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel

 

Emma

 

Hey I know what you're going through. I broke up with my ex a year ago and we had been dating for a good 4-5 years. When we broke up, I was devastated, because I thought we had been getting married and what not. He didn't talk to me, respond to my texts, pick up my calls. He removed me from facebook and blocked me. I didnt know what to do.

 

I would start crying randomly b/c I felt like I wouldn't find someone like him and that who would want someone like ME. The first four months were horrible. And then slowly, I started moving on. Right now, I am in the most amazing relationship ever. This guy and I have been dating for 3 months and it's amazing. I can't believe thatI have a relationship like this, especially since I believed I would never have anything like this. Trust me, it gets better.

 

If you want to talk, I'm here for you. Just ping me

[Dread Pirate Roberts]

Hey everyone, you may have heard my story before but basically my ex broke up a two year relationship to find himself. I have never experienced so much hurt in my whole life, he was everything to me.

 

I'm struggling with guilt because sometimes I would get really moody with him, pain because I keep imagining him meeting someone new and loving her and just general depression.

 

I am seeing a counsiller for this but the pain is just getting worse.

 

It has been 2 months 2 weeks since the break up, I did the whole month no contact but then text him after 30 days, it was nice, we caught up etc. but he seemed oblivious to the pain he had put me through and seemed to be happily moving on with his life. He has also changed so much, he just spoke and moaned about his problems the whole time and pictures of him on fb just seem cocky and arrogant which is the impression he is giving me.

 

When will this pain go away and how? I don't feel like I'll ever move on and it hurts so much that he obviously has, I also saw yesterday that he has deleted all photos and albums of me off his fb account which just made me want to curl up and die as he has obviously got over me.

 

Please please give me words of advice or just anything because I just cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel

 

Emma

 

Sounds like me and my ex. She was very insecure and told me she thought I'd leave her for a younger, prettier girl. She'd get very moody with me and misinterpret or completely flip my words and thoughts 180 degrees. Eventually, I got tired of it myself and we blew up on each other and she basically "changed" and needed time to become herself, or find herself.

 

We've never had no-contact though. I was her friend before and I'll be her friend after and I mean that. I've grown up a lot in the last 10 years and I wont shut someone out just because we had some kind of falling out. That and I know how lonely she is, because she doesn't make friends easily; she doesn't bond with people very often and her family isn't very touchy feely or emotionally supportive. She'd feel like I'd have abandoned her if I just stopped talking to her altogether and it would just solidify the idea in her head that people don't really care about her.

 

She says she has moved on, though I'm not quite sure if that's true. I love her to death and she will always be in my heart, even if I meet someone new. I've moved on in the sense that there's no sense in trying to reconcile that relationship and I don't want to be with someone who doesn't want me, either.

 

When will the pain go away? Good question. It's different for everyone. Took me at least 6 months to not be so bothered by it and at least a year before I started to consider dating, or looking again. I'm not gonna use the time heals all wounds thing as you already know that. Just work on yourself, take a break, enjoy yourself and your friends and family.