Confused_Soul_23 Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 Been split up now for around 7/8 weeks. Still in love with her but I'm moving on now. Not getting breadcrumbs anymore and we have stopped speaking. I have been meeting other girls who are better than my ex in every way. Playing lots of football,tennis going the gym, seeing my friends, going out on nights out. Just generally keeping busy. I know what my ex is like and she will end up getting in touch, only 2 weeks ago she was telling me how much she missed me. It will probably set me back if she does as I have accepted it is over now after her wanting to meet a couple of times then cancelling. I wanted to just get an idea of where everyone else is at, i.e how long since break up and how long no contact and if they have tried contacting you.
Author Confused_Soul_23 Posted July 23, 2013 Author Posted July 23, 2013 So no one else is in NC and split up with an ex? :lmao::lmao:
lukekarts Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 3 weeks broken up, 9 days of no contact, and feel like I want to die approximately 50% of the time. There, happy now?! lol
Montana 1968 Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 I'm on 1 week NC too, we can do this..... we need to be strong. Go Us.
Fell4ItHard Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 Well I had a relapse. I was 8 days down with NC but messed up and made contact so now I have to start all over again and I am soo pi***d off, there are no words. Broken up a little over 2.5 weeks
Hoaks Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 19 days nc. have not tried to contact her. Hurts like hell. And I know she wont contact me because I got very close to knowing the truth about her. She does not want a confrontation about it.
Talulah Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 About 2 weeks NC. We live in different countries. Communicared twice after he left. I have days when I miss him like hell. But, then there are days where I cannot stand thinking of his self-centered girl-like self. Im making good progress. Friends really help.
Allen101 Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 About 10 days break up and 3 days NC so far. I want to text her all the time but i know ill just end up more pissed off and depressed. LETS DO THIS GUYS AND GALS! Keep up with NC 1
Author Confused_Soul_23 Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 Good to hear from others in the same boat. Most of you seem to be earlier on in the process. I made the mistake of getting back in touch after a couple of weeks NC shortly after we split. We did talk and I though she was coming round saying she misses me and wished she was with me on a trip we went on earlier in the year. Arranged to meet only for her to bail on the day. NC is the way forward. No matter what they say do not reply, it will only set you back. The only time you reply is if they come begging for you back otherwise they are just checking they can pull on your heartstrings when they feel like it! Keep it up guys!!! 8/9 days now for me
jesse93 Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 well i've made no progress so far.. but it has been 2 days since break up and 2 days NC im not sure if i will make it long its so hard already not texting her but the only thing that i tell myself is that if i text her i know she either A. wont text back or B. she is going to say something that will break my heart even more. she is much stronger than i am emotionally and mentally. but i just wanna say congrats to you and everyone else just keep to it man, you can do this all of us can. stay strong and keep your head up. 1
Author Confused_Soul_23 Posted July 27, 2013 Author Posted July 27, 2013 Only reason I haven't contacted her is because I deleted her number. Really struggling today. Can't stop thinking about her. Think it might be because I am hungover. I don't look forward to weekends anymore. My friends are all in relationships bar one and he's going to work away in a months time. Things seem to be getting harder rather than easier
theonlyjuan Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 Saturdays suck! Too much free time to think. If you manage better during weekdays just hang on it will soon be Monday. Before you know it months will have passed. I find it easy Sunday - Friday Saturday sucks I feel most down then. Most my friends know my ex so I haven't really been out with them like I normally would. I need to find a new circle of friends. Find things to do that will take up your time and distract you 1
aloneinaz Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 Take it one day at a time. It does get easier the more no contact you have. 1
Author Confused_Soul_23 Posted July 28, 2013 Author Posted July 28, 2013 Yeh I have done that. Like I say in the week it's fine I keep myself busy playing football and going to the gym but on weekends my friends are always with their girlfriends etc. Feeling just as low today. I think she might be seeing someone else too, even though she said only a couple of weeks back that she missed me. We split up because she wasn't sure if she wanted a relationship, why would you date if you didn't want a relationship? I'm only guessing she is seeing someone. Not 100% sure just a few things this weekend has gave me the impression. 1
groupergirl Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 Yeh I have done that. Like I say in the week it's fine I keep myself busy playing football and going to the gym but on weekends my friends are always with their girlfriends etc. Feeling just as low today. I think she might be seeing someone else too, even though she said only a couple of weeks back that she missed me. We split up because she wasn't sure if she wanted a relationship, why would you date if you didn't want a relationship? I'm only guessing she is seeing someone. Not 100% sure just a few things this weekend has gave me the impression. I sure understand, the weekends kinda suck. I love the weeks because I have a really hard job and stay very busy. I love Monday mornings. I know I need to get busy and motivated, I figure I will get back into the groove, it has been 2 months, my boyfriend told everyone we broke up because we couldn't get along but the whole time he was arguing with me so I would break up because he already had a girlfriend. All I know is I cannot break the NC. Not going to, as much as I want to I am not breaking it. My saving grace is he doesn't not believe in Facebook, so only his new girlfriend is on it. He will not allow his pictures on it. That is my only saving grace right now. Wishing everyone here the best of what is left of this weekend. Get Busy people - including myself. No more worries.
Author Confused_Soul_23 Posted August 5, 2013 Author Posted August 5, 2013 Tonight reality has finally sunk in and it's hit me hard. The woman I love seems to be moving on. Not seen her for two months and not spoke for three weeks. Something has clicked tonight and has made me realise she is gone forever. I feel like such an idiot for being so good to her. Literally would of taken a bullet for her. It's another one of life's learning curves. I thought I understood women, I thought wrong. Word of advice guys never get into a relationship with someone who has not long got out of a LTR because it will never work. The guy she was with before me treated her like dirt and cheated on her then left her. I treated her like a princess gave her everything a women wants only for it to come to a crashing end. Looks like I picked up all the pieces and put them back together only to be thrown away with once ready. I've decided to bite the bullet and start a new life in another country. Life is too short to stay in one place.
LostInTheWild Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 That kind of thing happens sometimes. Please don't let that make you think all women are like that. Continue to be good to the women in your life and I promise you will see good results. Be choosy with who gets your best side and make sure you're not going to be anyone's rebound. Life IS too short to spend in one place. See the world.
bob the brave Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Sorry that **** happens. That is sad, for both of you. People can selfish and always want what they don't have instead of simply being grateful for what they do. Good luck in your adventure, but remeber, women are pretty much the same the world over.
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