tkozi1 Posted October 27, 2004 Posted October 27, 2004 Hi all. I've been seeing this girl for about 3 months. Things have been ok, but i feel she has become to dependant on me. She lives in a different city an hour away and she is not mentally all there (meaning she has to take meds). One night i told her had to leave so i could take my mom to Dr appt. in the morning and she started to cry. This is getting to be to much for me to handle. I want to let her go, but I'm afraid of what she might do.any advice would be appreciated...thanks....BTW, the 3 months is 2 months online and 1 month in person.
hulavie Posted October 27, 2004 Posted October 27, 2004 LOL. You said it yourself that she is not "mentally all there" What exactly is she going through anyway? 2 months online, one month in person...... she can't possibly expect you to marry her. Better say goodbye to this one before feelings get any deeper. I don't understand why she would cry when you want to take your mom to the doc. That's just plain silly. If that's related to her 'condition' I think she needs more professional help, seriously. You can't be staying in this relationship just because you feel sorry for her.... that's not right.
sami Posted October 27, 2004 Posted October 27, 2004 I don't agree with you on this. They may work it out though.
suggestions2004 Posted October 27, 2004 Posted October 27, 2004 yeah I don't agree with the first comment either. I've been with a guy that was on meds in the beginning of our relationship and it was hard to cope with our relationship and put him in reality. But we been together now for 1 1/2 years and it's got a whole lot better it just requires alot of time and patience. If you are willing to help her and spend alot of time on basic things like helping her realizing that it's normal for you to take your mom to the doctors then you should stay with her. she might really be a golden person that's perfect for you in the long run.
ltomlinson81 Posted October 27, 2004 Posted October 27, 2004 I agree with the first comment completely. The stress of trying to deal with this difficult situation and taking care of this person you have only known for a short while will be too much of a stress to build an actual solid relationship.
hulavie Posted October 27, 2004 Posted October 27, 2004 Maybe I should have made references like this in my first reply...... Originally posted by tkozi1 One night i told her had to leave so i could take my mom to Dr appt. in the morning and she started to cry. This is getting to be to much for me to handle. Better say goodbye to this one before feelings get any deeper. I don't understand why she would cry when you want to take your mom to the doc. That's just plain silly. If that's related to her 'condition' I think she needs more professional help, seriously. Originally posted by tkozi1 This is getting to be to much for me to handle. I want to let her go, but I'm afraid of what she might do.any advice would be appreciated...thanks....BTW, the 3 months is 2 months online and 1 month in person. You can't be staying in this relationship just because you feel sorry for her.... that's not right __________________________________________________________ tkozi1, what we do here is give you our two cents worth. The decision is your in the end. Anyhow, you did not elaborate much on the whole scenario... Good luck bro.
Author tkozi1 Posted October 28, 2004 Author Posted October 28, 2004 OK...She's divorced with three kids not living with her, on disability, living with girlfriend and her brother and boyfriend. Me...I'm divorced, no kids, and taking care of my mother (she just had spine surgery....titanium rods in spine). The other thing is she wont put forth an effort to make decisions. It's "Whatever you want". That can be ok, but have a mind too. I've pretty much decided to let her go, but kind of afraid to. One of the meds shes on is for depression. With the way she responded to me needing to leave to go back home, I'd be afraid of what she could possibly do to herself. Any suggestions of an easy let down would be appreciated. By the way......Thanks to all who responded. It helped me out.
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