Talulah Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 So as my Day 1..something of NC approaches, there is a quote that just popped into my head about breaking-up and getting back together. It's from famous He's Just Not into You book. One of the chapter's that was titled "He's Just that Not Into You" if he is breaking up with you. As Greg went on giving you the hard cold truth about the break-up and what you should do, there was a real life story at the end of the chapter. I don't remember the quote exactly, but it had to do with a couple that he knew. Who were together for something like three years and then, they broke up. All of their friends took it very hard. After about five years, they "bumped'' into each other, decided that neither could live without the otherand are now married. But he made the point that during the time that they were apart, there were not phone calls, e-mails, et cetera. They did "not torture each other with phone calls, and did not check up on each another." They just split up, grew on their own, and then got back together. And this is the point that I really liked, they let each other go, grew on their own and then much later decided that they both got to a point where they could be together. After each break-up, no matter how bad it was, I ALWAYS think of this quote. I have not gotten back together with any of my exes from the past, but I feel that this has always helped me to move on. I'm no trying to give anyone hope, but I that it helps you in some way with NC.
mano Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 I hope it does. Especially for ones personal growth. 1
Author Talulah Posted July 23, 2013 Author Posted July 23, 2013 Some days are good and some days are bad. I have an urge to unblock him, just to see if we will talk. But I know that I should not.
Author Talulah Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 I feel so rejected today, I wish we could still talk...I feel like I try to be strong all day and then , twice a days I start to feel rejected and lonely...I hate that it has to be like this:(:(
jesse93 Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 hey, i just want you to know that you're not alone. i dated my girlfriend for almost 4 years and she broke up with me about 2 days ago, it is very hard not try and contact someone who meant a lot to you. But the only thing that has been helping me is talking to my family.. theyre the only thing pushing me forward right now (i have no friends whatsoever do to depression and anxiety) every moment i'm not distracting myself with something else i'm so close to unblocking her on facebook or even looking at her instagram to see if shes doing well with out me and its only been 2 days! gah, but just know that if you unblock him you are going to end up being hurt even more making it 10x harder for you to truly move on. just know that this feeling doesn't last for ever and eventually you will move on and find someone new. Sometimes you just have to let go of a person completely. i can't say i won't try and contact her because it gets so hard and i haven't blocked her completely yet... ( i deleted her phone number from my phone blocked her and all her friends i had added on facebook and blocked her on skype) but yet i still have her on KIK its so hard for me not to open the app and pour my heart out, but i know that she will respond with something that will hurt my heart even more. she is stronger than me so i have to fight this. You can do, keep your head up and ALWAYS try to distract yourself with something else.
Author Talulah Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 hey, i just want you to know that you're not alone. i dated my girlfriend for almost 4 years and she broke up with me about 2 days ago, it is very hard not try and contact someone who meant a lot to you. But the only thing that has been helping me is talking to my family.. theyre the only thing pushing me forward right now (i have no friends whatsoever do to depression and anxiety) every moment i'm not distracting myself with something else i'm so close to unblocking her on facebook or even looking at her instagram to see if shes doing well with out me and its only been 2 days! gah, but just know that if you unblock him you are going to end up being hurt even more making it 10x harder for you to truly move on. just know that this feeling doesn't last for ever and eventually you will move on and find someone new. Sometimes you just have to let go of a person completely. i can't say i won't try and contact her because it gets so hard and i haven't blocked her completely yet... ( i deleted her phone number from my phone blocked her and all her friends i had added on facebook and blocked her on skype) but yet i still have her on KIK its so hard for me not to open the app and pour my heart out, but i know that she will respond with something that will hurt my heart even more. she is stronger than me so i have to fight this. You can do, keep your head up and ALWAYS try to distract yourself with something else. Thank you Jesse! And I am so sorry that happened to you. I don't really have anything that I want to talk to him about. I'm realizing that even if we had a chance in the duture, I wouldn't take it now. I think that I'm coming to terms with the fact that he is so selfish and that I was juat a liability to him. And that I never want to talk to him again. But, I'm also at a place where I can start to enjoy my own company and be at piece. I just want to let go. I hope you feel better Jesse and thank you:D
jesse93 Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 Thank you Jesse! And I am so sorry that happened to you. I don't really have anything that I want to talk to him about. I'm realizing that even if we had a chance in the duture, I wouldn't take it now. I think that I'm coming to terms with the fact that he is so selfish and that I was juat a liability to him. And that I never want to talk to him again. But, I'm also at a place where I can start to enjoy my own company and be at piece. I just want to let go. I hope you feel better Jesse and thank you:D i'm happy to hear that. if you ever fall back down again just remember what you said right here and use it to fight those feelings, sometimes letting go is the only choice there is good luck and thank you.
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