Kat_luv Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 Last minute moving caused our sudden break up,it wasnt a nice ending and we havent talked since. He got into a "serious" relationship a month after and lasted about a little over 2 months, claimed to the whole world how amazing she is, couldnt ask for more, loves her then a week later dumps her then goes on to another relationship with a girl two weeks after. He told me when we started off as just friends how picky he was, that he had high standards, that he wasnt the kind of person to just get into a relationship for the sake of it. He only had one gf before me and they ended long before we were together. Could this be just him filling a void? Not wanting to be alone?
Talulah Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 Obliously those standars went out the window. It seems like he is, or maybe this is his way of dealing with it.
Philosoraptor Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 Everyone deals with the end of a relationship in their own way. Some spend time working internally and growing in order to move on. Others bounce around from person to person trying to move on through others but often just end up spreading their pain around.
xilver Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 It is his way of getting through it. He doesn't want to feel the pain of the breakup is what it sounds like to me. He sounds desperate and in a way it is sad.
Author Kat_luv Posted July 23, 2013 Author Posted July 23, 2013 Everyone deals with the end of a relationship in their own way. Some spend time working internally and growing in order to move on. Others bounce around from person to person trying to move on through others but often just end up spreading their pain around. He moved in with the first girl within weeks of dating and with the second girl he bought her a necklace just one week after meeting her then became exclusive one week after that. Before the break up with the first girl he wrote statuses about me that were really obvious,talking about being hurt etc. I honestly thought he would have tried to contact me but ended up being in a new relationship with that second girl. I know I shouldnt care anymore but it just seems so crazy to me and he changed so much, but then again I did too. I am moving on but on my own, I cant imagine being with someone else while im still not 110 percent over my ex.
aloneinaz Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 I think you hit it on the head. You really shouldn't care anymore what he does. People deal with break ups different ways. Some sit at home and cry about it for months having pity parties for themselves. Others come to the conclusion that the relationship is over and start dating right away. I don't buy into the whole "he's dating or in another relationship to avoid the break up pain".. That's total BS, plain and simple. If they were still stuck on their previous ex and were hurt, they wouldn't be capable of dating so quickly. My ex ended our relationship and the thought of dating again the first two weeks was horrifying to me. Then I got past the initial shock and pain and said the relationship was dead and I don't need to sit at home feeling bad when I can date and meet others.
crederer Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 He's not over you and is trying to replace you and not having a good time doing it. I did the same thing before. It feels good in the moment then when you have time to think you realize you got your head up your ass and feel even worse about everything. 1
Talulah Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 I think that it is pain that he has, but he can't come backto you because you know that you have broken up.
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