Jcishere1993 Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 Is this weird. I have low self esteem because one girl rejected me but that's about it. I'm Always low and depressed and no1 likes me. I've done awful things in my past but that's it. What do I do to get a gf?
coffeebean201 Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 Have you tried counselling in the past and did it help? Some people respond best when speaking to a person/therapist face2face rather than reading stuff in a forum. ...? may be worth considering:) 1
New User Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 Is this weird. I have low self esteem because one girl rejected me but that's about it. I'm Always low and depressed and no1 likes me. I've done awful things in my past but that's it. What do I do to get a gf? It's certainly unusual. Weird is kind of a loaded term. Low self-esteem because one girl rejected you? I don't even know how many times I've been shot down and I think I'm a hell of a guy. Your self worth isn't defined by what people think of you- it certainly isn't defined by some chick who didn't want to date you. What else do you have going on in your life? What are you good at? What are you working towards for the future? The answers to these questions should have far more of an impact on what you think of yourself than some random chick not wanting to date you. Also- what kind of awful things? Are we talking about torturing baby bunnies here or did you say something mean to the kid that rides the short bus? I may be wrong, but I suspect that the awful things that you are talking about are not really that awful.
ChessPieceFace Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 37 and never had one. Feel better? Also, be glad you're not this guy: http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=RpN59m8u54Y
charlietheginger Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 37 and never had one. Feel better? Also, be glad you're not this guy: Husband Films His Wife Throwing A Tantrum When He Says No To Her! - YouTube Wow makes me glad im single. My exwife acted like that When she was drunk big hissy fits. its better to.be in no relationship then a bad relationship
dasein Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 Approach enough women and you will get a GF eventually. It's a mathematical near-certainty, and starting out, a game of large numbers. Good luck.
BeholdtheMan Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 Approach enough women and you will get a GF eventually. It's a mathematical near-certainty, and starting out, a game of large numbers. Good luck.Don't blindly approach hundreds of women... Work on yourself, improve your appearance, your confidence, your conversation skills. It's not just a numbers game. It's a self-improvement game 1
dasein Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 No one said anything about "blindly," and the best way to improve ones results with women is in fact to approach a whole bunch of em.
Sanctionne Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 I didn't have a bf until I was almost 21 and I am actually very glad that I waited. Believe me, it's not the most attractive thing to hear a guy talk about how he started dating when he was 12 yrs old. You're young. You have plenty of time to date Just focus on yourself. Never let not having a gf make you think less of yourself. For me, it takes a very special person to catch my attn. At least I have standards. Never settle just because you're lonely. The right person will come along and you will be glad that you waited.
sillyanswer Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 Is this weird. No, that's perfectly normal. I have low self esteem because one girl rejected me but that's about it. Well, being rejected by women is also perfectly normal. It would be really arrogant to think that they're all going to say "yes", wouldn't it? So, on that note, get over it! I'm Always low and depressed and no1 likes me. I've done awful things in my past but that's it. What do I do to get a gf? If you actually have depression or think you might have, go and see your doctor. Having depression is very common (!) but without being able to manage it it can really screw up other areas of your life. Why is this linked to your question? because happy people get gfs (sometimes). 1
BeholdtheMan Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 No one said anything about "blindly," and the best way to improve ones results with women is in fact to approach a whole bunch of em.OK that's nice Since you didn't mention it, I want to make it clear that increasing the number of women you approach without working on basic self-improvement isn't the most efficient use of time. You'll get better results if you do both
therhythm Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 No, that's perfectly normal. Well, being rejected by women is also perfectly normal. It would be really arrogant to think that they're all going to say "yes", wouldn't it? So, on that note, get over it! If you actually have depression or think you might have, go and see your doctor. Having depression is very common (!) but without being able to manage it it can really screw up other areas of your life. Why is this linked to your question? because happy people get gfs (sometimes). Forget all the other comments or the links to videos where women are having an hysteric attack... that is not a good way to understand the world and feeling better because someone has it worse is not a good advise either. Please read the quoted post... it is the only post so far that is actually trying to help you! You need to get help, you are depressed. Being rejected by women is part of the game... I have been rejected many times too... I just take it as extra experience... without rejection getting a girlfriend would not be as rewarding
xXCountryXx Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 24 and never had a long standing girlfriend. 3 months max. Just means you haven't found the right person. Don't worry.
Author Jcishere1993 Posted July 27, 2013 Author Posted July 27, 2013 (edited) <Similar threads merged by moderation> I'm 20 male never had a gf, and I feel rejected by everybody, why? I feel miserable everyday because no1 likese and I don't even know why Edited July 27, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
OwlSoul Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 Well, there is no information about you provided. So it is impossible to tell what freaks the girls out. 1
Author Jcishere1993 Posted July 27, 2013 Author Posted July 27, 2013 I don't know what freaks them out, Im just being myself
soccerrprp Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 I don't know what freaks them out, Im just being myself If you want some help then you need to give us something to work on. You haven't shared anything of substance. What does "being myself" mean? There are many factors and you haven't given us anything to ponder over... Looks, height, weight, personality type, pics, etc.
Author Jcishere1993 Posted July 27, 2013 Author Posted July 27, 2013 Well I've been called ugly alot and I've been mean to girls but that's about it but I mostly get called unattractive or friend zoned
Eddie Edirol Posted July 27, 2013 Posted July 27, 2013 Because you dont know what youre doing when you talk to women.
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