Why did my ex abuse me, but now his past girlfriends or new one?

[LotusFlowerB]

We were together for a year. All in that same year, he physically, emotionally, and verbally abused me, he's done things to me you'd never imagine. We met when I was 16, and he was 18, and he was my first real boyfriend, I lost my virginity to him and everything. I've always been meek, shy, vulnerable, and I never really had the best self esteem, he on the other hand, he was athletic, handsome, charming, and popular. I couldn't believe a guy like him would actually go after a girl like me, and I guess that's why I gave in to him so quickly. By the 4th month we were dating, he'd hit me for the first time due to him being jealous, and from then it just escalated.

 

The abuse was terrible and often, he continued to abuse me, he called me awful names,and had many ways of manipulating my mind, pretty much coerced me in to having an abortion when I got pregnant, he told me he’d kick me in my stomach, that he’d never want a kid with a dumbas*like me, and then he told me to commit suicide. He made me feel like less than an animal, and I was miserable in our relationship. The last straw for me was when I refused to give him my cell phone to pry and snoop through, so he beat me. I ended up getting 14 stitches because he bashed my forehead with my phone. Though I have ran into him sometime, we haven’t spoken since then. Now I am dating my best friend of 7 years, and he’s great to me, my ex is in a new relationship too, and he has a baby with this new girl. In the pictures I’ve seen, he looks so happy with his child and this girl, it just amazes me how he had so much hatred for me that he would say the things he did when I was pregnant, and how he praises this new girl so much, but acted like I was some disease to be ashamed of.

 

Even his ex-girlfriends, I know two of them, he never treated them so bad, hell they're still friends! When I was in the hospital, people at school found out quickly, many people supported me, but one of his ex-girlfriends actually got on facebook and basically said people needed to stop feeling sorry for me because I deserved everything I got, and that he abused me because I was a b*tch. I never did anything to him! I was all about pleasing him because I had no backbone, I was weak, and I was terrified of him. He treated me like a dog, he didn't treat his worst enemy as bad as he treated me, and I can honestly say he is probably the most evil human being I have ever met. I just don't understand, and now I cant help, but feel like I did deserve everything I got. It hurts so bad to think about it all again. What was it about me that made him so angry? What made him hate me so much? It's not that I want anybody in his life now to experience what I endured, but why me?

[Philosoraptor]

Be thankful that you got away from him and that you are with a great guy now. This pathetic loser doesn't deserve a bit of your thought or emotion. And sadly he will very likely do this to his current partner as that kind of behavior doesn't just go away. He may have done it to all of them but they were to ashamed to admit it.

 

I'd say just forget about this piece of garbage and enjoy all of the happiness this new guy is bringing into your life.