Just started getting re-acquainted with this guy and he's a little too much...

[SarahKSunshine]

I used to live in the town I'm in now, but I moved away and came back after about 6 years. I knew this guy when I lived here before and kinda liked him, but nothing ever happened. Then I moved and forgot all about him until he popped up on Facebook one day. A few months after I moved back, messaged me and started talking about how cute and great I was and how nice I'd treat him if we were together, and I kinda went along with it not wanting to hurt his feelings. We haven't seen each other face to face since I moved back, just texting and Facebook messages. Now he talks about seeing me in real life and how he wants to take me on a date and how much he'd like to kiss me. And that's all he ever talks about! I try to change the subject and just chat like with a friend, but he won't! I had an old boyfriend who did this stuff and it's why we broke up, because he wouldn't give me any damn space! I don't know of this guy is just clingy via text and fine in real life or what? What do I do?

[Toddbt12y1]

His behavior is creepy. I mean, who off the bat...messages a girl, one that they have not seen in six years; and starts telling them how it'll be great if...they were together, etc. Then constantly text about kissing and dating. He is way into you. Way overboard. Way too creepy.

 

Tell him that you do not want to date right at this moment in life. You could be brutally honest. That his behavior is abrupt. That it comes off as creepy. That he sees this as more than what it actually is. Granted. He will not like it...but he'll get over it.

[SarahKSunshine]

His behavior is creepy. I mean, who off the bat...messages a girl, one that they have not seen in six years; and starts telling them how it'll be great if...they were together, etc. Then constantly text about kissing and dating. He is way into you. Way overboard. Way too creepy.

 

Tell him that you do not want to date right at this moment in life. You could be brutally honest. That his behavior is abrupt. That it comes off as creepy. That he sees this as more than what it actually is. Granted. He will not like it...but he'll get over it.

 

I've told him that his behavior is a little too much for me and he seemed to understand, but I've told him that before and after a few days he switched back to his creepy behavior. This is his last chance, if he can't respect my feelings on the issue than we have no business dating.

 

But thanks for the response, none of my friends seemed to think the situation was as weird as I found it.

[Lansing]

Are you planning to even meet up with him? Otherwise, what is the point of talking to him. He sounds like a "keyboard jockey". Trying to talk big but doesn't deliver. I think you should meet some guy in real life. He does sound creepy to me!

[SarahKSunshine]

Are you planning to even meet up with him? Otherwise, what is the point of talking to him. He sounds like a "keyboard jockey". Trying to talk big but doesn't deliver. I think you should meet some guy in real life. He does sound creepy to me!

We have meet in real life, it's just been 6 years and we go to the same community college. But, i think you're right, I should really keep on searching..