JDPT Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 (edited) I had a decent day yesterday. I surprisingly did not feel the pain I've been feeling since she dumped me roughly 3 months ago. I went to my cousin's birthday party and had a pretty good time, I was amazed at not feeling depressed having people around me with their significant others. However, I had a dream last night that of course brought me back to square one. I dreamt that my ex was walking inside a hotel and a few minutes later I saw someone I knew walking right in. It's interesting because a month or so ago I had this feeling that my ex may have contacted him no or vice versa, clue why. This guy was at my brother's wedding last year with his girlfriend and his girlfriend and my ex exchanged numbers. They happened to live in the state where my ex used to live. Am I just being paranoid? are these thoughts I'm having a little too far fetched? This guy I refer to is a complete creep, he cheats on his now wife with anything that has a pulse and I'm thinking he contacted my ex. Anyways this is what has me feeling a little depressed today, to think that I was doing so good just yesterday and this dream ruined it all for me. Edited July 22, 2013 by JDPT
Chi townD Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 It happens, dude. It's called the rollercoaster of emotions. A lot of highs and lows. You just have to ride it out.
headsashed Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 Don't take it to heart, you will be up and down for a while but soon enough there will be more ups than downs, then eventually its all ups
Author JDPT Posted July 22, 2013 Author Posted July 22, 2013 I thought yesterday was a new beginning for me. I didn't feel down or this excruciating pain that wrings the life out of me. I wanted to take advantage of that positive momentum but of course the thought of her haunts me and ****ing ruins it for me.
Ashlaria Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 Hey JDPT, My Dad always told me that our dreams are just strange manifestations of our day. Things that happen to us or we think about during the day get jumbled up and that is what we dream about. You went to a party, you probably remembered the party where this creepy guy and his gf met up and exchanged phone numbers with your ex. Then when you went to sleep, it all jumbled up and became something else. You have probably been thinking about her moving on and being with another man, so that fits the hotel scenario, Reading your posts I thought you were doing well. You give sound advice to others, give yourself a break and let go of this one. I hope you find your peace. 1
Author JDPT Posted July 22, 2013 Author Posted July 22, 2013 Hey JDPT, My Dad always told me that our dreams are just strange manifestations of our day. Things that happen to us or we think about during the day get jumbled up and that is what we dream about. You went to a party, you probably remembered the party where this creepy guy and his gf met up and exchanged phone numbers with your ex. Then when you went to sleep, it all jumbled up and became something else. You have probably been thinking about her moving on and being with another man, so that fits the hotel scenario, Reading your posts I thought you were doing well. You give sound advice to others, give yourself a break and let go of this one. I hope you find your peace. What you wrote makes so much sense. I guess our brains have a way to intertwining thoughts, memories (good or bad) and past experiences and somehow generate a cohesive scenarios. Your post and explanation has absolutely made me fee better, as if the dream makes better sense. This rollercoaster is definitely a rough ride but as stated I just need to hang tight and ride this one out because I'm sure there will be more down the road. I should practice what I preach more often, I'm certain I would be in a better place.
iouaname Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 You have to train your brain to not let these experiences bother you so much. I know that it's hard, but there are so many things that will remind you of your ex or set off some sort of emotion, so you need to train your brain to dismiss these things and not let it consume you. If you're having a happy day - it's because of the way you are thinking. If the next day ends up being depressing, again, it's because of the way you are thinking. You have to convince your brain that you're happy. It takes time and some practice but in my experience, the best way to not feel miserable all of the time is to stop and dismiss the pain as soon as you begin to feel it, otherwise it will just grow and grow throughout the day.
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