ktcp2 Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 Day 4 post break up and I'm having the worst time. I don't find comfort in anything. I can't eat. I can't sleep. Barely any energy to get out of bed. Still in disbelief that this is happening to me again, by the same guy and in the very same way. I know the facts and exactly who he is now, yet I am still thinking about him, loving him, missing him, and wishing he would come back. I never got over him the first time around even though I played it well that I did. With all those feelings still, it made it so easy to give him another chance. I wanted it to work out so bad even though in the back of my mind I was terrified he would do it to me again...and well...he did I don't know how to cope through this and how to get past it this time. Hurting so bad...
Nicoleiia Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 I have been there before. It sucks, but the pain will go away eventually. Just try to keep yourself busy and make sure your activities are self-promoting and not destructive. But yea, it will be painful for a while, but then it will get better guaranteed. Just remember to stay NC and do not fall for any of his breadcrumbs if they should come your way.
daftpunk Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 Cry until your eyes are dry. Scream until your voice is hoarse. Run until your legs can't carry you another step further. Then grab hold of your resolve and don't let go until it bleeds... And never look back.
Author ktcp2 Posted July 22, 2013 Author Posted July 22, 2013 The hardest part is having to go through it all over again. And even with all my effort last time, I still never got over him. I'm afraid of that now. That even if I go on, I'll never forget and never get over him, that I'll always feel empty without him
petall Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 You'll never forget him but you will get over it. Whenever you find yourself thinking about him, think of all his bad points instead. Right now, you are still clinging on to the good memories of him. I have this down to a tee now. I switch over to negative thoughts instead. It's hard but you have to do it. Take it from one day to the next, don't think any further into the future. In the meantime, strict NC.
JDPT Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 Your wounds hurt so much because they still are very fresh. It's time to start healing. This person has let you down for the second time, how many more of these do you think you can handle? It's time to move on. There are certain times in life when you need to do what's best for you and you only.
Author ktcp2 Posted July 23, 2013 Author Posted July 23, 2013 Thank you everyone for the advice. I know that it will just take time but I feel like time has stopped No matter what I do, I cannot get him out of my mind. I have made no contact with him and do not plan on it but I do keep checking my phone with hope that he may reach out to me even if I know it is for the best he doesn't. ugh...emotions are everywhere!
forgetmenot75 Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 no, don't cry because you'll feel drained. you can do nothing. Just keep breathing, but don't cry.
aloneinaz Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 If it makes you feel better, my ex GF broke up with me THREE times this year. I got her back after a couple of weeks the first two times but said FU the third. I'm 7 weeks NC. I'm so pissed at myself for going back to her so many times. As you know, it sucks each time they end it. So, don't buy a third round of him breaking up with you. Go through the pain of this break up. You know it's going to suck for a bit but you'll pull out of it. You need to get in your head that your relationship (like mine) was toxic and not good for your health. Lord knows, mine wasn't. While its normal to still miss the ex, time and distance from them in NC helps you heal quickly. Keep posting.. I promise, it gets easier.
reddragon588 Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 I was there just a few short weeks ago. It sucks. Give yourself a couple days. I think after four days, you've given yourself enough time. Now you need to force yourself to move. Tomorrow, I suggest going to the gym. For me, working out allowed me to get away from the negative sad self-talk and channel all my anger and sadness into working out. When I'm done working out, I feel sooo much better. Eat something comforting, maybe some soup or a light sandwich. You will feel better once you start moving. Find victories in doing the small things like that.
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