Diesel Posted October 26, 2004 Posted October 26, 2004 I don't know what's wrong with me. I'm very confused My girlfriend doesnt like me to touch her at all , but I do it and she get annoyed something like : Me : So ? She : So What ? Me : Give me a kiss She : Ok *Kissed* Me : *Starts toucing her* She : No , Stop it . Me : Why ? dont you love me ? She :I do but i dont like this kinda stuff Me : But if we love eachothers what's wrong doing it ? Ok , I'll stop touching her if she thinks it's Wrong but sometimes i feel like she doesnt love me that's why she dont allow me to touch her. Also we fight alot about this , everytime i meet her in school , we fight over this. I just wants to know what's wrong with her ? does she loves me ? and is it Ok to fight with your girlfriend ? I just want her to be mine ( I dont know ) What's wrong with me ? I was really acting weird today at school i went to her and said what's wrong with you ? why do you stop me from toucing you. I'm confused!
Pocky Posted October 26, 2004 Posted October 26, 2004 You two need to sit down and discuss what type of touching is acceptable and comfortable for both of you. You don't automatically get to touch someone any way you want just because you love them or they love you. Ask her what makes her uncomfortable and why. Once you understand why she feels that way, then maybe two can become more comfortable with each other.
fredrolin Posted October 26, 2004 Posted October 26, 2004 Originally posted by Pocky You two need to sit down and discuss what type of touching is acceptable and comfortable for both of you. Are you kidding with this advice? This kid is obviously a horny teenager that does not know what love is. What do you expect; Me: sit down She: OK Me: I what to touch your boobies...is that ok? She: no Me: don't you love me? She: yes Me: if you loved me you would let me touch them. She: quiet, U-Pick live is on.
Conqueror224 Posted October 26, 2004 Posted October 26, 2004 first off fredrolin that was a great reply and second yeah i kinda agree with both of the 2 replies. You should talk it out but you should also not touch her in places she wouldn't like to be touched anyway and last you shouldn't use the word love becuase I doubt that you feel that strongly about her and vice versa.
suggestions2004 Posted October 26, 2004 Posted October 26, 2004 Is she religious? Some guys do get confused if their girlfriend really loves them or not, but that has nothing to do with love at all. Maybe that's all she wants to do is kiss, she might be scared too.
melnmojave Posted October 29, 2004 Posted October 29, 2004 There is some missing info - like how old you guys are. Sounds like you guys are in highschool. If this is the case, the fact that your girl wont let you touch her is because she is not ready for that yet, not because she doesnt like you. guys are ready for sex much sooner than most girls are (based on my value system). If you really like her, you need to respect her obvious boundaries. she has already told you what they are - kiss but dont touch.....if your fighting about this - you need to stop because you are being pushy and not respecting her feelings. What fun would it be if she is only doing it to keep you from being a jerk? dont you want her to want to on her own terms and when she is comfortable with more physical contact. You need to learn now that you cant force, coerce, harass women into submission. Recipe for disaster!!! just relax....things will take their course, and if they dont, at least you can say you were a gentlmen.....
bluetuesday Posted October 29, 2004 Posted October 29, 2004 diesel - you're 15. is this the girl you've posted about before who told you she doesn't want to have sex until she's married? give her a break. if you love her stop trying to impose YOUR time scale on how quickly things move on between you. she's clearly uncomfortable. be a gentleman and back off.
melnmojave Posted October 29, 2004 Posted October 29, 2004 just as an FYI, Rape is defined as non-consensual sex. that means when someone says no, and you proceed anyway - you could go to jail for rape. This happens ALL the time. Rape doesnt have to be by physical force. all it takes is for someone to say they didnt want to, you knew it and did it anyway. You must respect peoples boundaries. Not trying to sound like a jerk, but you sound like a good candidate for the pokey if you dont learn to keep control of your uh-desires combined with having anger toward the person who is not giving you what you want.... A girl either will or wont let you touch them. if it's a wont situation and you want one that will, you better move on..... and by the way, there is nothing wrong with you, it's just girls in your age group are not ready for that kind of stuff yet - and that is perfectly normal as it is normal for you to want it..........and not get it. its the same for most of the other guys in school too even though they probably make up stories to the contrary. dont buy into it.
EC Posted October 29, 2004 Posted October 29, 2004 Just because she loves you does not give you the right to feel her up. Your 15! Don't force her and I hope she tells her dad so he can open a can of whoop A$$ and you. If you want to touch something touch your own a$$.
UCFKevin Posted October 29, 2004 Posted October 29, 2004 My opinion: If you can't get into a movie that shows two people doing what you want to do, you shouldn't do it. She should wear a shirt that says "Under 17 not admitted." teehee
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