confused_friend Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 Hello guys and girls, I have/had a really good friend who I know for about 3 years .. we were very close and connected really well with each other.. I never knew when I started liking him much more than a friend and ultimately falling for him.. I told him my fellings fot him some months ago though I was quite sure he liked me only as a friend.. he told me the same thing and I asked for some time off him to get over and accept things as they r.. we were not in touch for about 2 months.. we started talking again but nothing felt like before from his end..I thought he wud always be a friend as he was, but to my surprise he started ignoring me and even.being quite rude to me.. it did hurt me a lot but i just acted normal to him..this might also be because he has also entered a new phase of life some months ago after graduating frm college abd moving to a new job.. his priorities have changed but I never imagined that our friendship could also change acoording to his life's priorities.. I never rly want to confront him or talk to him directly abt such changes in his behaviour because I do not want to force anything upon him or make him conscious abt anything.. just want things to be natural.. I also do not text him/whataspp as much now since it feels like I am the only one taking efforts to preserve the friendship.. We met yesterday after abt 4 mnths.. my beliefs were true.. he did mention his.priorities being changed and he is not able to connect with friends as bfore.. I was hurt to hear this.. even more when he did not even bother to text to ask me if I had reached home(he usually did) especially yesterday after I tripped off on the road and my shoe broke .. but he had offered to come along with me to get a new one..I told him to carry on since e had to meet aome other frnds too.. Just seems like everything has changed so much in so less time.. I rly dnt expect anything frm him apart frm just being the way he was.. but seems that even thia is too much for him.. Any advice is appreciated!!!
darkmoon Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 "he did not even bother to text to ask me if I had reached home(he usually did) especially yesterday after I tripped off on the road and my shoe broke"...you are expecting a big friendship, nobody is obligated to be there for somebody
Author confused_friend Posted July 23, 2013 Author Posted July 23, 2013 Hmm maybe your right.. I probably need to lower my expectations or even better keep none!!
darkmoon Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 Hmm maybe your right.. I probably need to lower my expectations or even better keep none!! I really just choose very nice friends, people to believe in, obviously sweet natured, the other kind are not so good, I have been hurt too
Author confused_friend Posted July 24, 2013 Author Posted July 24, 2013 What surprises me is that he was not like that at all.. an extremely sweet natured and a very nice and humble person is what I thought of him when we became friends.. though I would still say that he's a rly nice guy I am not able to comprehend what made his behaviour change so drastically.. anyways, I think time and priorities can just change anything and everything to any extent!!! Even the best of friendships probably 1
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