He says he cares???

[Cottontail]

What or how should I act after a man I really love has told me he does care about me. We have a long history where we were friends and then began to develop deeper feelings for each other. But because of our (now ex friends) we couldn't have dated. At that time he started dating a girl. Who has now broken his heart. She turned out to be a bit crazy.

 

During the time he was dating her, it was too difficult for me to be around them so I distances myself. But since they have broken up, we have been seeing more of each other.

 

I asked him if he still had any feelings for me and his reply was that at the moment he is a bit messed up and doesn't have any feelings for anyone or anything but that I must not get him wrong and that he does care for me.

 

I really know that there is something truly special between us. But now I don't know how to act or what to do. I want this to progress into something. I just fear that if I push him, I'll ruin everything and I'm worried that if I do nothing he'll find someone else. Then I'll lose him again.

 

I don't think he is trying to patch things up with the ex. But now my mind is constantly racing about what he is doing. And why he is not jumping at the opportunity to date me. They have been broken up for a month now.

 

Am I being too worried? How often should I see him? Should I see him only when we with friends or should I arrange to see him alone?

 

He knows how I feel so I also don't want to be crazy stalker clingy but also not aloof and seem uninterested.

 

Also whats the guidelines about texting?

 

Help!! I have had a lot of daddy issues growing up and so I have never been good at judging a mans actions or how to appropriately react to them. I seem to become a different person when I really like a guy. I am scared of losing another man in my life. I have never had a serious relationship.

[New User]

A month isn't much time to recover from a relationship gone bad- depending on its length, intensity, and how it ended.

 

You are torturing yourself. I'd suggest that you lose yourself in other interests for a while; find something to take your mind off of him. It sounds like he has been fairly honest with you about what he is going through and you should count yourself lucky that he isn't using you for his emotional scratching post.

 

My guidelines on texting are pretty simple; I don't do it unless it's for one way communication (Pick up milk on the way home, be at the bar in ten minutes, etc). It seems to just be me these days, but I get very annoyed when people try to hold a conversation with me via text.