kaylan Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 And be honest with your answer and explanation. I ask this because Ive noticed some folks are not ok with dating someone whos dated outside their race in the past. Ive never met someone who personally espoused such feelings in person, but I have seen the topic come up on the internet A LOT. Be it forums, social media, or what have you. It appears to always been either White men, Asian men, or Black women. And from what Ive seen, it does appear that white guys have the most issues with this. The white dudes seem to either be insecure about whether the girl has a black sexual fetish or the guy may have racist feelings towards black men. The Asian man seems to be angry that so many Asian women date interracially (especially dating white guys). And the same goes for black women, who feel black men are turning their back on sisters. So Ive seen these groups of people claim that theyd never date someone who hasnt stuck by their race. I understand being insecure because their opposite gender racial counterparts do seen to date interracially more than other groups of people....but what I dont understand is when any of them throw around racist feelings. Ive always just dated who I liked, so I never could relate to their points of view. I dont care what culture or race a girl has dated, so long as she wasnt fetishizing anyone. Thats when Id raise my eyebrow. Im not too keen on being some girls first black guy as I feel like an experiment (been there, dont that). And Id also raise an eyebrow if a girl always dated guys like me and had weird things to say about other men. But for the most part, if a girls just dated who she is attracted to, race doesnt bother me. What say you?
Author kaylan Posted July 21, 2013 Author Posted July 21, 2013 Why should the thread be closed? I asked a legitimate question about a topic which matter a lot to some people
todreaminblue Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 I always thought....humans date humans.....so unless they have dated and made out with an orang u tan or an inanimate object like their remote to their television, i wouldnt have a problem with a human male dating another human female in their past....it is one race....the human race.....i have dated interracially......not that i see i that way ...i date the guy not his ethnicity...deb 4
ThaWholigan Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 It goes without saying that I would date a black girl who's dated white guys. Interracial dating has never been a point of contention for me the way it has with my parents. I have a preferences to women who are black and/or mixed/hispanic and Middle Eastern, but I have always been open to dating white and asian girls. I meet quite a few I'm attracted to. So it would make sense that a woman I date has a similar ideology to me. Race is not really high up on my list of preferences. 1
sillyanswer Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 I would and I have. I only date attractive women, and sometimes they don't have the same skin colour as me. 2
StayBeautiful Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 I'm not sure this would ever be an issue with men I date. I tend not to date men with racist tendencies, maybe that's why. And the reason for that is that my sisters husband is Asian, and my brothers ex wife is black. So, I wouldn't put up with having that kind of person around me. Haven't thought about it though. I find it hard to understand why someone would have an issue with it.
ltjg45 Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 Yeah, I would date who has did interracial dating in the past. After all, why would I care who she dated in the past? As long as she's heterosexual and we both are attracted to each other, IDGAF about the rest of the details unless he is still a current part of her life.
coffee Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 I've never dated outside my race, and never had the desire. I dated and married my husband who was married outside of our race. He also had a my stepson by his first wife. We have 2 sons together. His ex-wife and I get along well and refer to each other as wife-in-laws, and I love my step-son. She and my husband don't get along, but that has been ongoing since before I was in the picture. They were divorced for 2 years when we started dating, and she was very hostile toward me. I couldn't understand this, so I began having conversations with her about it. Before we knew it, we found out we really like each other. We raise our boys as if they each have 2 moms to obey. She has a lot of resentment because my husbands family does not accept her or her son. My husband and his family refer to her as 'the mistake'. I can understand her resentment. I talked to my mother-in-law about it, and she said that the family never accepted her because she always acted like she was above everybody, and that the family should be thankful that she lowered herself and married my husband. I can understand their resentment because sometimes I have to check her myself. Even though I can do it with love, they are unable to. My husband loves his son, and is hurt that his family doesn't love him like they love our sons. My step-son is a great kid, and I feel for him. I hope we can one day get to the point that we move past this. We're human, and humans sometimes grow.
Author kaylan Posted July 21, 2013 Author Posted July 21, 2013 IMO you don't care about the answers to this question, you did this for a specific reason. You know damn well that only a very rare person would be honest with you and tell you their true feeling on this subject. If they did you posters would jump on them like sharks in a feeding frenzy and label them the way most posters have in other threads on LS. People can't have opinions anymore unless they are similar to yours. Oh wah wah wah. I asked this question to see if any answers would be similar to the views I saw on another board I frequent. The people on that forum only got harped on if they gave a racist reasoning for their feelings. Like if they had something outright negative or stereotypical to say of someone. If a black woma said "Id prefer a brother who stuck by black women and the community" Id be somewhat understanding. If all she did was slander white women Id tell her to go kick rocks
Treasa Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 ......Will this create a paradox? Because I AM dating someone who's dated interracially, however, the interracial person is me, and I'm already dating him. Ugh, I feel like this is akin to typing Google into Google and having the internet blow up. 4
Author kaylan Posted July 21, 2013 Author Posted July 21, 2013 I personally like when guys have dated interracial since I only date white men, it means that they like black women I never understood people who only date outside their race. Ill admit this turned me off to a couple girls in my past (one was white, the other asian...both only dated black). And on your point, plenty of white guys date interracially but dont date black girls. So I wouldnt say dating interracially means anyone is exactly open to everyone.
Treasa Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 Also, most of the time I forget that Keith is black, and may have messed up a couple of household surveys... 1
MrCastle Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 I never understood people who only date outside their race. Ill admit this turned me off to a couple girls in my past (one was white, the other asian...both only dated black). And on your point, plenty of white guys date interracially but dont date black girls. So I wouldnt say dating interracially means anyone is exactly open to everyone. I've felt the same when I've seen hispanics, more specifically, Puerto Ricans like myself date almost exclusively white or black, and not their own. I don't let it bother me anymore. Their loss, not mine. If they're not attracted to their own race, nothing you can do. 1
sweetkiwi Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 ......Will this create a paradox? Because I AM dating someone who's dated interracially, however, the interracial person is me, and I'm already dating him. Ugh, I feel like this is akin to typing Google into Google and having the internet blow up. You are awesome I would date someone who has dated interracially. Of course. I already have and it was like Terasa's current situation. He was half Chinese, half Mexican, and my first love. 2
Treasa Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 You are awesome I would date someone who has dated interracially. Of course. I already have and it was like Terasa's current situation. He was half Chinese, half Mexican, and my first love. Right back at you, love. 2
sweetkiwi Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 Right back at you, love. So even if we're both "white" we can still date each other.....right? 1
BradJacobs Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 Hard to give a definitive answer for or against the topic when I have never faced that question. All of the women that I've dated were white and never dated outside their race. I just don't know.
sweetjasmine Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 What say you? No problem dating someone who has dated people of other races. Actually, I don't think I ever really noticed that my H has been in interracial relationships until you posted this thread. I mean, I knew but it never struck me that those relationships were interracial. They were just relationships, one of which resulted in my half-Asian stepdaughter being born. Personally, I find it even more irrelevant than the race of the person I'm with. I have some preferences as far as race goes, but it's weird to me to be concerned with the race of the people your partner has dated. Like, bizarre. I guess with the exception of those who fetishize other races. 1
coltsfan1 Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 I would not, but to each there own. Just not my cup of tea, however I do find women of all races attractive. Just prefer white women!
supaflyz Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 There is absolutely no problem with dating someone who dated out of their race in the past. I did it before.
BUENG1 Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 IMO you don't care about the answers to this question, you did this for a specific reason. You know damn well that only a very rare person would be honest with you and tell you their true feeling on this subject. If they did you posters would jump on them like sharks in a feeding frenzy and label them the way most posters have in other threads on LS. People can't have opinions anymore unless they are similar to yours. If you aren't comfortable with expressing your honest opinion because of whatever reason, then you can not give an opinion and everyone else can discuss the topic among themselves. Everything doesn't revolve around you, you know.
HokeyReligions Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 Being as I don't know the dating history of everyone I ever dated I may have dated someone who dated someone of a different race. Didnt bother me. I guess if it had ever been an issue I would have asked. Wait a sec. Ok I just ased my husband of 27 years if he had. It took him a few minutes but he did date outside our race a very long time ago. Hmmm. I never thought to ask him that question. Just goes to show that even after all these years there is always more to learn.
Treasa Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 So even if we're both "white" we can still date each other.....right? Oh hell yeah. Also, I'm learning Italian. 1
tomtucker Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 And be honest with your answer and explanation. I ask this because Ive noticed some folks are not ok with dating someone whos dated outside their race in the past. Ive never met someone who personally espoused such feelings in person, but I have seen the topic come up on the internet A LOT. Be it forums, social media, or what have you. It appears to always been either White men, Asian men, or Black women. And from what Ive seen, it does appear that white guys have the most issues with this. The white dudes seem to either be insecure about whether the girl has a black sexual fetish or the guy may have racist feelings towards black men. The Asian man seems to be angry that so many Asian women date interracially (especially dating white guys). And the same goes for black women, who feel black men are turning their back on sisters. So Ive seen these groups of people claim that theyd never date someone who hasnt stuck by their race. I understand being insecure because their opposite gender racial counterparts do seen to date interracially more than other groups of people....but what I dont understand is when any of them throw around racist feelings. Ive always just dated who I liked, so I never could relate to their points of view. I dont care what culture or race a girl has dated, so long as she wasnt fetishizing anyone. Thats when Id raise my eyebrow. Im not too keen on being some girls first black guy as I feel like an experiment (been there, dont that). And Id also raise an eyebrow if a girl always dated guys like me and had weird things to say about other men. But for the most part, if a girls just dated who she is attracted to, race doesnt bother me. What say you? I mostly date interracially since I don't really like white girls (though, if a hot one likes me, I'm down ). Also, nice little racist post you have here. If someone wrote this about black men, you would flip out and report it to the mods. 2
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