may_girl Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 I haven't spoken to my ex for over 2 months. He ignored my messages so I left it at that. He has made no attempt to contact me since. He is with the girl he left me for still as far as I am aware. Why do I have this urge to contact him? He is an idiot. I need talking out of this
JDPT Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 Fight the urge with all your strength and remain NC is for your own good. Your ex is moving on and so should you. Don't hurt yourself further by contacting him, start healing you deserve it. Reroute your thought towards the many great things that you have going for yourself. You are now liberated to do as you please to make wise decisions. Whatever you do don't give in to the urge. 1
supaflyz Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 Don't do it! You held up to 2 months. That is 1 more month than me:) I know it sucks having to think about him with a new gf. It also sucks having thoughts that he never love you, or that he got over you so soon. I had the same feelings and thoughts my friend. Stay strong. It will only set you back even more. At first I was just giving advice to other people. Now I know I must practice what I preach so I held up to a month so far. There are some bad days, but you will get over it. 2
Sneaky Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 Don't give in. He's an idiot and he does not deserve the ego boost. Time and space will help you but you have to keep at it and not give up. Do whatever it takes right now to get through this and don't give in; put on a movie or a show to take your mind off it, rant on this forum, do whatever you have to do but don't give him the satisfaction of knowing he is on your mind. Nothing good is going to come out of contacting him, I hope you stay strong. 2
omit Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 Its hard like going cold turkey, I'm in same position post here every time and any time you feel the urge to contact him. It wont help to contact him he will just ignore you and it will leave you wondering about stuff even more, treat your self holiday new shows new bag all three if you like. Another way of looking at it is if he acted the way he did and went to another woman was it really true love?
Ashlaria Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 What would you say to him? If you sent the text, what would it say? Then if he ignores it, how will you feel? If he responds telling you how he is very happy in his new life, please stop contacting him, how will you feel? I think at the end of it all we have to retain our dignity, sometimes it is all we have left. You need to stop thinking about it, if you want to say something, post it on the NC thread and move on, that's what I do. Good luck, I hope you find your peace
daftpunk Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 I can tell you from experience that it won't help your cause, in any way, shape, or form. Once upon a time I was foolish enough to believe that my ex and I's relationship was "different". That I could talk sense into her. Needless to say, I know now that no one's relationship is different. You can take our word for it or you can find out the hard way like I did. 2
aloneinaz Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 Focus your energy and attention on someone new in your life that wants you vs. someone who rejected you and moved on. You were able to meet you ex, why can't you meet someone new? Drive down that road vs. the road of looking pathetic, neady and weak..
Author may_girl Posted July 23, 2013 Author Posted July 23, 2013 thanks all. I did not contact him in the end, the one thing that was said that stopped me in particular was that he does not deserve the ego boost. why does he deserve to know I was thinking about him? He should think I have totally moved on and don't think about him anymore. thanks all, although I do get urges I now realise it's down to him to contact and beg, not me. I cannot be weak or pathetic.
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