CptSaveAho Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 I'd say the bold in the bottom quote is 100% PUA. Anyone else think so? betas love alphas..... keep attacking, maybe one day it will click in and you will get it... for your sake and them woman you find... i hope it does
CptSaveAho Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 No they do not! Haha they love real dudes there is a difference funny how dudes say what girls like read the post again...
SJC2008 Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 betas love alphas..... keep attacking, maybe one day it will click in and you will get it... for your sake and them woman you find... i hope it does You asked for it it's not an attack. The last time a woman flaked on me, it was the day before saying she fell ill and my response to her was "Ok". Well she contacted me a few days later and rescheduled. I didn't spit some bozo line or act like she was missing out on a "real" man 1
CptSaveAho Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 context of my response is perfect for the ops situation reread the original post then that quote again stop comparing apples and oranges
SJC2008 Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 You got the right idea But 2 flakes feel free to stand your ground Absoloutely. He just thinks that anyone who doesn't date how he does is a loser. 1
Lansing Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 Did you delete the email explaining her "headspace" or just the contact from her saying she would contact you again. Curious to hear her explanation but I am guessing it goes beyond this one incident. I imagine she disrespected you in other ways too at some point or was this just the start of it?
MissBee Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 (edited) Girl I had been dating for over a month - seemed everything was going smoothly. She was a great girl - really kind, honest, sincere and we got along great. We had plans for Saturday night. I had to come back into town to meet her. So I just get back in, having left my friends back who wanted me to stay, and I get a text saying that a friend of hers was leaving town tomorrow and she wanted to spend the evening with him. Suggests we reschedule. At first I was like, ok, let me find out a bit more - so I called her, and got her VM. That annoyed me as I was thinking really? A text message? I text her back and ask her if she realizes I just drove all the way back to hang with her - and it's not like I can make alternative plans at this point. Her response was - she's really sorry and she knows shes a total a**hole. That's it. I asked her just to be honest and say what's the real story here. No response. I mean, at this point, it's done. I don't want to deal with her, but I am genuinely hurt - not so much by the cancellation, but by the means it was done. I don't know, guess just wondering if I am justified in feeling the way I do and if I am right just to write this person off. I feel you. That was rude of her. I absolutely hate flakiness and I really wouldn't have done that, especially knowing you were driving in to town to see me. How long did she know her friend would only be in town for a night? She couldn't have let you know earlier? I'd find a way to fit both of you in or at the least, I'd call you and explain the situation versus just a casual text then say "Yes I know I'm an a-hole." RUDE! If you were just down the street, fine, maybe it would be less of a big deal to cancel last minute, but if you're coming from out of town....rude, rude, rude! It does seem fishy and she doesn't seem genuinely bothered by it, so I see no problems if you decide her attitude is a dealbreaker. Edited July 23, 2013 by MissBee 1
Author morbot_k Posted July 23, 2013 Author Posted July 23, 2013 I feel you. That was rude of her. I absolutely hate flakiness and I really wouldn't have done that, especially knowing you were driving in to town to see me. How long did she know her friend would only be in town for a night? She couldn't have let you know earlier? I'd find a way to fit both of you in or at the least, I'd call you and explain the situation versus just a casual text then say "Yes I know I'm an a-hole." RUDE! If you were just down the street, fine, maybe it would be less of a big deal to cancel last minute, but if you're coming from out of town....rude, rude, rude! It does seem fishy and she doesn't seem genuinely bothered by it, so I see no problems if you decide her attitude is a dealbreaker. Yeah, I am not pissed anymore. Probably says something that I don't feel all that hurt about it. In hindsight, I didn't show much enthusiasm or interest the last week - and women are pretty good at reading me. I don't think she's a bad person at all. I think she has a few things to learn, but at the end of the day - we probably both knew we were not compatible. It was rude of her, still, I don't hold a grudge and just needed to vent that night more than anything. 1
phineas Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 context of my response is perfect for the ops situation reread the original post then that quote again stop comparing apples and oranges Response is Beta. a real alpha would of ignored her & called up her friends & slept with them. Because being an alpha, all her friends naturally want you.
Imajerk17 Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 (edited) Interesting viewpoints by a couple of you here. So, let me get this straight: A woman rudely cancels plans with a man last-minute for a sketchy reason, the guy gets upset about that and expresses it, and it is the *guy's* fault? No. SG, you know (or at least I would be astounded if you *didn't* know) that a woman breaking plans with the guy she is dating, breaking those plans last-minute via text, after the guy drove all that way, so that she can hang out with *another guy* instead, is a defining and VERY disrespectful move on the woman's part. And that the guy blown off will usually be pissed. Even after one month in, when they might not yet be serious. Switch the genders around and it's just as much a defining move. "She couldn't win in this situation"?? Well, for starters she could have called the OP the night before and asked to reschedule. She then could have hung out with her friend (and handle anything between her and her friend that she didn't want to explain to the OP at that time). CptSaveAho, for those of us over 22, it is rude of EITHER gender to suddenly break plans. See, we actually have other things happening in our life that we need to reschedule to hang out with someone. Our time is valuable. At any rate, I don't think having 3 women who blew you off "still circling back" quite constitutes dating success. I'm all for taking responsibility, and that includes taking responsibility for people in your dating life losing interest. BUT it's on the other person to handle their end too. Edited July 23, 2013 by Imajerk17
Sanman Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 The OP dated a girl for a month, she blew him off, he got pissed and came to LS to vent. He then made the decision to call it quits with her. In any place in the world, a completely normal reality that is not a big deal. On LS, a giant discussion on why this may be his fault and that he may be too beta, etc. Now, there are a bunch of people that care more about the topic than the OP. Got to love this place.
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