desperategirl Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 Hey all, I separated from my spouse at the beginning of the year. I started NC after I felt it was the only way forward, and it definitely helped the healing process. I am now in a position of feeling very much over the marriage (it hasn't been long, but I think I did most of the suffering in the last couple of years of the relationship). I found some of his stuff today, and also am planning to send divorce forms to him, about which I wanted to give him a heads-up, as I feel like it would be unpleasant to receive the forms without any warning. I also need his address. I tried to call, but got no answer, so I sent a very civil text message. No response as yet. I feel like while the relationship is definitely over, I am in a place where I'd like to not necessarily be friends, but I'd like to be able to say, send him something he'd find funny now and again. I guess I don't harbour any more negativity or longing, and find it hard to imagaine that I will never have any contact with someone who I spent most of my adult life with. Is this something anyone else has felt. I suppose his lack of response means maybe he just wants out forever. This would make me sad, but I have heard he's still very angry in general, whereas I feel less angry in general since the split. The split was mutual.
hayewils Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 I would say there is really no reason to contact him now to say you've got divorce papers coming. You've come this far, its something you say is mutual. Why let him know.. He will find out, just let it happen and let it be. 1
Author desperategirl Posted July 21, 2013 Author Posted July 21, 2013 I would say there is really no reason to contact him now to say you've got divorce papers coming. You've come this far, its something you say is mutual. Why let him know.. He will find out, just let it happen and let it be. 100% right, a moment of weakness I guess. The damage is done now with the missed call and the text. I guess maybe more of it is about me not wanting to never talk again for the rest of our lives. I feel ready: maybe he doesn't, maybe he never will.
RAN65 Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 100% right, a moment of weakness I guess. The damage is done now with the missed call and the text. I guess maybe more of it is about me not wanting to never talk again for the rest of our lives. I feel ready: maybe he doesn't, maybe he never will. May be he is NC with you as you have been for the past 6 months ?
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