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I dated this girl for several months in the summer and then broke up because of a combination of stupid things we did with each other on this one date. She said the next time she wanted to see me was 3 weeks later. 3 weeks came by and I never called her to setup anything but she called and was upset that I wasn't doing anything.

 

I didn't feel like doing anything because while I was apologizing earlier on for the way I was acting yet she never owned up on any part of what went wrong except "That's how I am" kind of speech.

 

We eventually did meet up and it was basically a chat session which seemed okay, then I tried to hangout with her a week later but she was ignoring my calls. A week after that she called (after I left voicemails telling her that she's playing the ignore game on me) and wanted to meet up and eventually made plans to see her the next week.

 

We hung out and made love later on (This will be the second time I have seen her in two months after breakup.) A couple days later I asked her out again and she told me that she has a busy week and she has to see what's going on for the next couple of days.

 

All I ask for is a couple hours, why's she making it so formal and making me second in line? I have to admit that getting dates from her is like pulling teeth.

 

I'm frustrated and getting tired.

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So lose her. That's your only feasible option based on her utter inconsistencies. She's simply playing games.

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yeah, it seems to me like shes playing head games, trying to play hard to get. i just wish people would not make things so complicated. UGH

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Maybe she is budy, then again maybe not.... is that a hint?

 

Whatever it is.... sure doesn't sound good. You have been trying to ask her out and she keeps turning you down. If you stop that, and just wait for say..... erm...... two weeks to a month, do you think she'll call you when she has a few hours to spare?

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Originally posted by hulavie

Maybe she is budy, then again maybe not.... is that a hint?

 

Whatever it is.... sure doesn't sound good. You have been trying to ask her out and she keeps turning you down. If you stop that, and just wait for say..... erm...... two weeks to a month, do you think she'll call you when she has a few hours to spare?

 

That's exactly what happens. When I ignore her, a week or two later she wants to be around me, and everything seems all sweet till I try to get another date. We were dating week by week normally before we broke up. I even asked her what does she want when I saw her recently, and she tries to change the subject. It's so weird cause the next day I called her after seeing her she seemed quite happy, now recently she seems "busy" , wtf.

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Goodness gracious..... now it really sounds like she's playing head games with you.....

 

I stick to my previous suggestion..... wait!

 

And let her call you..... if she ever does :rolleyes:

 

That's when I think you should sit her down and talk about all these past cat and mouse games. Make her say what she wants and you decide if that's what you want too and willing to give.

 

Good luck.

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Move on to someone who will be HAPPY to hear from you, EXCITED to go on a date with you, and not flip flop like that. That's just annoying. Life is too short for dealing with crap. HA! Dunno if its games but its definitely not stable. Easy for me to say move on, I know, but I would do it while it is still early in the game, the longer this goes on the harder it will be to end it later.

 

Good luck!

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She may be interested in you, but only somewhat. A girl that is truly interested would make time for you. However, this only applies if this is early in the relationship. Seems like she is partially punishing you for past bad deeds and it isn't a good way either. However, you seem flexible to her needs while she isn't to you.

 

Since she seems to only make time when it's convenient only for her and she sounds like she's inflexible.

 

I'd just ignore, look for other girls. Even the prettiest girls aren't worth it if they have a manipulative streak.

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