Spartan rikal Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 Okay some background information first. About a year ago my girlfriend of 4 years left me and i became a mess and didn't think i could ever find anyone like her again. Six months later i meet my current girlfriend and we clicked right away, shes had really bad boyfriends in the past that included beating her. It took three months worth of hanging out and seeing each other (only at weekends, we live a hour apart) before we put a label on it. It was going amazing she said she had never had a boyfriend like me. We would text each other 24/7 and ring each other for hours every night. We then decided to go on a holiday for a week, we have never spent that much time together and it ended in arguments about little things, where to eat etc. We wasn't used to seeing each other 24/7 and i think it got a bit much. Anyway a few weeks after the holiday she was acting off with me and later admitted to not feeling the same about us. we haven't had sex since the holiday or had a chance to be close to each other yet like we used to, we could spend hours in each others arms just talking all night. Because she wasn't feeling the same i said we could take little break and not speak for a few weeks so she can have space and she agreed. Half way through the two week i broke down and sent her a letter and flowers, she liked them but said i shouldn't have sent them as we are on a break with no contact. I then got it into my head she was going to leave me and i sent her mega long texts telling her how much i love her and miss her, i even cried as i thought it was over. I gave her too much attention and over did it with the boyfriend stuff which she wasn't used to. We decided to meet yesterday just for a hour to speak and i planned on just ending it to make it easier as i didn't want to be put through the same stuff as i did with my ex. We spoke and she said she loves me still, she doesn't want us to split up and didn't want to regret it in a few months if we did, she said i looked good and missed the good times before the holiday. She seemed as confused as i am. She now says she wants to go back a step to how it was at the beginning before we put a label on it. Im just so confused, any advice would be great. Has anyone been through a similar situation. What do you think i should do? Has anyone ever wanted space from their partner and it worked? Ive been going out of my mind thinking of loads of different scenarios of what could happen and what shes thinking. I dont want to lose her.
Woop1337 Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 It's over. Women dont go on breaks with guys they like. I know it's easier said than done. But take the loss and move on.
Author Spartan rikal Posted July 21, 2013 Author Posted July 21, 2013 But i dont understand why she didnt want to break up. Thats the reason im so confused. Yesterday when we met just before she left she kissed me.
Woop1337 Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 I don't know man. Why do some women want to keep in touch and be friendly with men they've already rejected? Only she knows the answer. It's not ur job to figure out. so do the right thing and face the music and move on.
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