Author Layzie1207 Posted October 30, 2004 Author Posted October 30, 2004 i hope i can learn to do that effectively, i also hope that my ex acts on any impulses she has if she has feelings for me again. i am also scared taht she is only 18 and all these stories are about older couples, we were together all through high school and broke up 1 week into college, do you think that makes any difference about her feelings? i also dont think she has a "fear of commitment" or anything like that.
YogaGirl Posted October 30, 2004 Posted October 30, 2004 I don't think her being 18 makes any difference. She will never forget you and I am sure she is thinking of you. I am so sorry you are having to learn this now but what we are saying is true. In my experience, it works to tell her that you don't want her to leave but you want what is best for her. Then you work on you and establishing a life. If she comes back to you, you are ready. If you spiral down to the depths of despair, you lose your effectiveness with her and everything else. When it comes to love, true love, it is all about wanting what is best for the other person. Then you let go so that she can figure what is best. It doesn't matter if you are 18 or 30; the principle is the same. She has already started forgiving you for everything. If you have been sincere with your apologies and she is a good person, she is receptive to your concern for her. I hope you can sleep tonight.
Author Layzie1207 Posted October 30, 2004 Author Posted October 30, 2004 i really havent gotten a good heartfelt apology in, and that kills me and i dont want to talk to her. the funny thing is i start to cry/laugh whenever i read about somebody talking about whether its true love or not becuase everytime i hear how your supposed to feel about a true love and how i feel it makes me know that i really do love her as much as i think i do. i sent her an email talking about how i do love her as much as i say i said i did even though i was crazy, and other stuff about how i was going to let go of her and move on, which deep down i look back and dont really mean. the only reason she wanted me to move on is because i was killing myself living the way i was. i know this sounds stupid, but i just wish after reading these books and talking on the forums, i wish that i could like hook my brain up to hers and just show her how i feel about her so she can see how sorry i am and know what is right and wrong now and show her how much i love her. its hard not knowing what shes feeling.
holler21 Posted October 31, 2004 Posted October 31, 2004 hey layzie1207, omg i know what ur feeling so can empathise a bit, shes 18, how old ru? same age? we all know u love her sooo much and would do nething (almost) to get back with her, thats okay, and its okay to tell someone u love them cos u/they mite not be here 2morrow my advice to u is to do what im doin right now with my bf, even tho its very upsetting, i panicked all weekend cos he hadnt sent me a text and then there pops up a text on my fone 2nite, but since the day after he dumped me, ive avoided talking bout 'us' and jus asked how one another is doing, and now im gna meet him 2mora nite but as were goin out clubbing ive told him to leave the chat bout 'us' till later on in the week, 2mora nite its gna be very hard seeing him but im gna try not to show that im upset even tho i am inside, and jus get back to some normaility with him, im just gona see what happens 2mora night but trying not to fink bout it too much! so if ur able to see her, i fink u should soon and talk face-to-face and forget the emails cos they do nothing dont waste ur time emailing her and killing urself over it, meet up with her if u can, and tell her how u feel, but dont make decisions for her, be grateful that at least shes in ur life and have some hope that things will work out for both of u, cos its hope that we need to cling on in life to get us through, even if its jus a speck of it.....take care "tell me ur dreams, and il tell u what they mean, cos we live, we love and we learn"
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