flowery Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 I've started dating a very interesting guy. He's very adventurous and likes challenges alot. He's also smart, I felt a great connection with him from the start. He is also sort of a bad guy, had many girls and vey short relationships and told me that I'm different and wants me in his future. He started pursuing me and seemed very interested in having a serious relationship with me. He told me that sex is very important to him, but I told him that I'm a virgin and he said he won't pressure me and that appreciates me more because is hard to find such girls in our times. For some time we had wonderful time together, but all of the sudden he started to behave badly. I mean, I presented him to my girlfriends and he started to comunicate with them via facebook alot, my girlfriends told me that hes not flirting, just talking about stuff, like how are doing?, but I get very jealous. I don't understand why he feels the need to contact them so much. Yesterday I got very jealous and told him that this behavour was inappropriate and he replied that he doesnt see anything strange in this and he's not flirting with them, so why do I worry so much? we had a fight, and later I felt bad and contacted him am we reconciliated. Then we went out with his friends and one of my girlfriends ( the reason of our fight ) and he started to tease me about my jealousy and gave her much attention ( I don't know if to see my reaction or for him is natural to do that ). I know that he enjoys to see me jealous from his reactions. He is also very very jealous and becomes very suspicious when I'm not at home or with friends. Always asks me with who I am, where. I just don't get him, why is he behaving like that? He presented me to alot of his friends and they know about me before he presented me to them. Today he didn't contact me at all, all day and this is very strange for me. I also feel him a little distant. I don't know what to expect. 1
Treasa Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 He sounds controlling and manipulative. Regardless of your jealousy, he's taking amusement in calling you out on it and trying to make you feel worse. I'd be done with him. 2
Tinie Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 He sounds controlling and manipulative. Regardless of your jealousy, he's taking amusement in calling you out on it and trying to make you feel worse. I'd be done with him. ^^^THIS^^^ Let's add immature to the list as well. That's not something a man would do. 2
Author flowery Posted July 22, 2013 Author Posted July 22, 2013 Today I broke up with him, I told him that I don't see respect and feelings in our relationship and it's over. He only replied: ok. 5
whitneyrose Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 I'm just gonna say, he sounds like a piece of...well you know. I'm glad you broke it off with him. Just reading that reminded me of my ex because he used to act that way and please be glad you didn't make any more of a serious commitment to this dude. He sounds like he needs to be put back in his place tbh. 1
ChatroomHero Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 I think threads like these are why "nice guys" complain about how being nice hurts them. This guy obviously treated the OP like dirt and she was still hesitant to dismiss him and wasn't sure if she should continue to see him or not. Someone who treats women respectfully has a hard time understanding how a woman would spend one more minute considering a guy like that or even feel the need to post here about it and it's hard to understand why she doesn't do the slow fade to torture him. 1
Author flowery Posted July 23, 2013 Author Posted July 23, 2013 He contacted me again today. Asked how I'm doing and stuff like that. He behaved like things weren't awkward at all. We are both 19. Now I don't know what to do, I'm so angry with him because he is behaving like this, but also I feel pity for him because he had so many problems ( a friend died, he had a car accident, had a fight with someone, had some serious problems at school and problems with his mother ) all that only in the last month. I know it sounds like he's really toxic, but I wonder how would I behave if I had so many problems. 1
therhythm Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 A loser will make you jealous of other women a keeper will make other women jealous of you 1
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