thezappa Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 Hi all, I was friends with a guy for 2 years whom I had met in college. We get along so well and he was always the "nice guy" About 3 months ago we went to visit a mutual friend on a weekend get together. Needless to say we ended up together(not sex) and started dating. I actually never liked him in that way till the weekend and he is also the first guy I've actually liked a lot since my last relationship nearly 3 years ago. We spent a lot of time together, told each other everything, went on many dates, meet each others friends and family and it was all very exciting with promises for future weekend breaks etc. We hadn't become official yet but he started to bring it up. We went out one night and everything was great until the next morning, we went to get breakfast and he just comes out with the dreaded "I don't want a relationship". We decided to take it slower as we had been spending so much time together and just be friends. Needless to say that didn't work out and we went back to same old routine of being in a relationship without actually being in a relationship. The talk came up again by text this time and I said be a man and say it to my face. We meet up and we talked. At this point I knew it was over and we are both upset because we can't even be friends. Now this is the most upsetting bit, he tells me "I realize I do want a relationship...but not with you". I felt like I had been stabbed in the chest. If a guy I had only known for 3 months said that to me I would a little upset but I have known him and been friends with him for 2 years so this cut me up deeply. Anyway to cut it short I left and we said our goodbyes and the last thing he said was he was angry and disappointed. I just can't understand where it went wrong, he really really liked me and was always so nice but he turns around and says something so cruel to me. I would never ever say that to someone even if I felt that way. I can't get over the pain of it, I can't stop thinking of it and him and it cuts me deeply every time to the point where I feel i'm slipping into depression again. How can I stop thinking about it? Thank you, TheZappa
Leigh 87 Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 He really really likes you. He just isn't falling head over heals in love with you. A lot of guys tend to really really like a girl. ... without falling in love with them. This happens all the time. Don't think too much about it. He just really liked you; yet without having very strong romantic feelings for you. It really is that simple. Now you go and find a guy who does fall for you enough to have a relationship with you. 1
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