Confusion my ex girlfriend.. Any answers is appreciated

[Matt10]

Ill try and keep it short. And with any help guys of truly like that

 

So me and my girlfriend of almost 4 years , lived together for 1 during college. We're both 23

 

Couple weekends ago we got into an argument where it made me in the heat of the moment say I was going to end it ( mind you I was angry) anyways when this happens she poured her heart out for me saying I can't believe I wasted 3 and half years on you and that I truly loved you and cared for you and please delete me from everything (Facebook, twitter, phone) and when she said all this to me awoke me because she was showing the strength of love she had for me. So after that we seemed good obviously little awkward after. We met for lunch couple days after . I kissed her goodbye and she got angry I didn't give a good one lol. So few days later the Friday she didnt talk much that day till I texted her and she stated that" this was stupid we don't hang out or communicate like we use to" mind you I was in a rut last little bit because of home life. So she ended it that night. This became the confusing part. She's been stubborn ever since. Iv seen her a cour Facebook messages taking about the good times and how she poured her heart out for me and she said this wasnt a lie and she meant it.

 

She just didnt think things were changing but I was little angered that she never brought it up which I think is right. So few days ago I sent her a truly nice Facebook message and ended it with a few pictures of us and a few love quotes and the deactivated Facebook and in followed her from twitter. She messaged me 4 hours after she read the message and said "did you delete Facebook" I didnt respond because she wasnt always responding to my messages and I was getting upset by it.

 

It's been 2 weeks since the break up. I know she still loves me . But what is she thinking honestly. She's being stubborn and I can tell, and I feel like she's forcing herself to stick to her guns on this because I feel she's scared to try and make the change.

 

And the reason why we broke up was because of communication and I know that's big obviously. And she said that she thought her feelings had changed ? But how in that quick of time. So I said when she told me that I was like is this all based on because of communication and not seening eachother and she said yes . To me it could change and be fixed.

 

As we'll she told me to delete her from everything when I had the heat of the moment time. But yet she hadn't deleted me from Facebook twitter or phone and has all our pictures on Facebook still.

 

Just too say iv gone almost 3 days with no facebook and contact.

 

What is she thinking guys or what is going on . I feel like she's forcing herself and is she still thinking of me ? I know the love is still there as well we did meet up to kinda get closure for me and it was almost like she was about to cry and when I said I know you still loved me she looked sad but in a good way

 

Let me know. Thanks your all awesome

[It-is-what-it-is.]

Oh for goodness sake.

 

Welcome by the way, and I am in a complete funk so please forgive my harshness in advance...

 

Do you remember in like second grade when you would write a note to a girl and say do you like me check the box (or whatever the equivalent in your life)? This kind of interaction is just like that.

 

IF you want to have a grown up relationship, the you both need to SPEAK to each other like mature adults.

 

This Facebook, twitter, text communication nonsense is what's wrong. (I have each if this by they way, they are just not my key communication method)

 

IF you want to mend this and get back together, YOU have to be the one to do it. You started it.

 

1. GO BUY FLOWERS.

2. Go to her house and give her the flowers and ask if she will come out with you.

3. Take her out someplace you know she likes where you can talk(park, coffee shop, restaurant)

4. Tell her you love her and were a jerk and stupid, and you never wanted to break up and you NEVER should have said it. And tell her that you two need to be closer and invest in each other and talk more.

5. Tell her you will even do counseling or read books or whatever to make it up to her if she will give it one more chance.

6. then do it.

Edited July 21, 2013 by It-is-what-it-is.
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[Matt10]

No no you weren't being harsh , I was just looking to see whats going on. She's being the non mature one

[It-is-what-it-is.]

No no you weren't being harsh , I was just looking to see whats going on. She's being the non mature one

 

I think you both are being immature. I do. No offense.

 

This is not a win lose type of thing. By winning, you lose. KWIM?

[mano]

She reacted after u talked about endin it n she never saw it coming. If u really want this girl. Then yes u need to go meet her. N confess how u feel. Convince her that u didnt mean what u said n then give her some time to herself.