mtspoohbear Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 My ex boyfriend and I dated about 4 years ago, we were very young (15,16) we dated for about a year and was very serious. We both had big problems with relationships, we were very controlling and jealous of each other. For about the first half of the relationship it was amazing and fun, and then we both ruined it by being all about each other and no one else. It was stupid. Then he broke up with me but we were still talking and talking about getting back together, and then on his birthday (Halloween night) he slept with a girl that he always told me he would never sleep with, and since then I can't trust him. He went away for a while and I moved 4 hours anyway and I now have a baby that was with a different guy and her father isn't in the picture and its not that I want a father for her right now anyways it's just we were each others first love. He seems he has changed now after 4 years, but I was very suicidal after our break up and I had a hard time dealing with it, went to the hospital a couple times for over dosing, and I know I won't ever do that again because I love my daughter more than anything and she will always come first to me. I also feel he only wants sex with me because I was his first and I am just not ready to have sex with anyone. I'm not sure whether to give him a second chance or not. I love him so much he is the only guy I can be my complete self around and he loves me for me and always has. My parents hate him though for putting me through all that but I wish they could at least get to know him again and forget the past and if he screws up in the future then they can hate him for that. What should I do?
ddspike21 Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 Obviously its up to you to make the right choice, but if he is the only guy you can be your complete self around then why not? just lay down some ground rules first so you dont fall into the same traps as your previous relationship, you have to start fresh.
along60years Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 I think it unwise to be with anyone you cannot trust. That being said, you have to make this decision based on what is best for you, not based on a fantasy and not based on anyone else's opinions. It is not a decision to be taken lightly and both of you should be prepared to put a substantial amount of work into the relationship to rebuild and make sure you get off on the right foot with the best possible chance for a successful relationship. Have you discussed that and is he prepared or does he just want to jump back in?
Author mtspoohbear Posted July 21, 2013 Author Posted July 21, 2013 I think he kind of wants to jump right in and I want to take things slow and he said he did to but then last night it didn't seem like it. All he wants to talk about is sex and stuff and he talks about if my family starts a fight with him he will stick up for himself and fight them and they aren't even the physical fighting type. He made me so mad about that. He wants me to go stay with his family in a very small house with my baby and he has 5 people staying there with 8 dogs in a small house and my baby isn't use to that or anything. She's only met his mother 1 time when she was very young and can't remember and he gets mad at me for not going to see him. I mean right now it doesn't seem like he has grown up very much since he can't understand I can't do that because its not the best for my daughter.
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