LME Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 (edited) I saw my ex yesterday for the first time since the breakup. We had talked about being friends but that is not what i want, i mean maybe one day we can be friends but like wayyyyyyy down the road and he is moving in 2 months anyway. I thought we broke up because of lack of communication issues, but it turns out that he was not communicating with me because he did not have strong feelings for me. He basically admitted that for the past 5-6 months he saw me as a friend and kept me around because he did not want to be lonely. This def helped me get closure and I understand it's nothing I did, our feelings just are not mutual. Now i feel like I can move on, and i know i won't have a problem meeting new people etc, and I myself am about to move to a new city in another week. I still feel very lied to and led on that he kept me around for that long and he did not have romantic feelings for me, he sure was a good actor. There was no yelling or anything, I left on good terms with him and i dont have ill feelings towards him. Just basically told him I can't try to hang out with him as a friend right now because it's not what i want and i would always just be hoping for more. It still sucks and he was my first love but i will be ok. everything happens for a reason and time will heal and one day i am sure i will forget about him completely. I deleted all our texts, pics from my phone, and unfriended him on facebook, I don't need to see things that remind me of him anymore, it will just hinder the moving on process. Edited July 21, 2013 by LME 1
JDPT Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 You my friend are doing ALL the right things, I'm proud of you. I'm glad this "meeting" worked in your favor, got a few things out your chest and managed to walk away without any new wounds. Maintain this positive outlook and you will be fully healed in no time.
Author LME Posted July 21, 2013 Author Posted July 21, 2013 thanks! and thanks for the advice youve given me. we got lunch and it was friendly/normal. But i just couldnt walk away and be like ohh ok well maybe we can meet up again in a few weeks, i know a friendship right now is not in the cards. So i just was vulnerable and told him what i had been feeling and got the answers i have been looking for. It sucks but life goes on and life does not always work out how you think it will. I'm only 22 so i have a lot of time to grow and i've def learned from this relationship and im looking forward to the future
aloneinaz Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 Glad you feel resolution to the end of that relationship. I also agree that you're doing the right things in cutting contact and moving forward. One thing though, you can't be sure he was telling you the WHOLE truth. I wouldn't take his word at face value when he says he just was keeping you around to not be lonely. That's BS.. If he didn't like you or your company, he would of broke up with you 6 months ago. His feelings may have lessened but as a guy, there's no way I'd hang around a gal that didn't do it for me at some level.
Author LME Posted July 21, 2013 Author Posted July 21, 2013 Glad you feel resolution to the end of that relationship. I also agree that you're doing the right things in cutting contact and moving forward. One thing though, you can't be sure he was telling you the WHOLE truth. I wouldn't take his word at face value when he says he just was keeping you around to not be lonely. That's BS.. If he didn't like you or your company, he would of broke up with you 6 months ago. His feelings may have lessened but as a guy, there's no way I'd hang around a gal that didn't do it for me at some level. yeah......that is what confused me the most because if you have no feelings for me idk howww you could stand being around me,etc. but whatever, can't change that now. you are right though
Echo000 Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 good for you. try and make sure your mind doesnt run with unwanted thoughts. find peace in whatever closure you found, and hold onto it when you go through a rough patch (which inevitably happens from time to time).
Author LME Posted July 22, 2013 Author Posted July 22, 2013 i will. i know i will still have those tough moments. i had 1 today, but mainly because there are other emotional things going on in my life as well right now so its just kind of a lot to deal with at one time.
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