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This past summer I've experienced something I never thought I would ever experience. Men rejecting sex.

 

I am in my early 20's so I'm very sexual and really enjoy sex. I was talking to these 2 guys from Tinder. They were 5-7 years older than me, extremely attractive, and successful. I'm currently in college. Tinder is mostly for hookups so I decided I wouldn't mind just hooking up.

 

One of the guys I've talked to for months before we met because I was at school. After 3 months of texting, we finally met. Our texts were incredibly sexual and very flirty. We've met up twice and we've fooled around yet when it comes to having sex, he freaks out and says he wants to take things slow or "just put the tip in." Haven't seen him since.

 

The second guy and I hang out. Once again, we have a great hookup. Our texts are sexual and all he talks about is the great sex we're gonna have. While hooking up in bed he says "I can't believe you only had sex with 4 guys. I've had sex with so many girls and I don't think I want my number to get higher." He said that an hour after texting me how badly he wanted to have sex. We never text again.

 

So I had two sex rejections in one summer. Usually at college I've had the best looking athletes and guys at parties approach me. This is absolutely bizzare. Could it be that they're older and feel bad having sex with a younger girl? Guilt?I've done EVERYTHING but sex with them. Would having sex make things that much different?

 

Please send thoughts and advice.

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Well I'm male (34), and a lot of times I prefer just a BJ/HJ than intercourse, specially if there is no feelings! If you provided that to them, guys lot of times would just prefer that, it is a lot less work. I've had a FWB once that 99% all we had was oral sex. So don't stress too much about it.

 

But when I'm into a girl, then I would definitely want to please her etc.

therhythm Established Member

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Mmmm believe it or not... it may be that they were in a relationship or that they just didn't want to have sex with you or they just were not attracted to you... ;)

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hppr Established Member

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Eh, Tinder.com didn't work for **** for me when I tried it and most of the local profiles were fakes to boot. As for these guys if you want to weed out the wussy/goofy types meet up with them early, like after a week at the most. Someplace public where if you want to leave quickly you can without drawing attention. Coffee shop, maybe some college sports bar, whatever. If they seem cool have a couple more meetings and then get down to business.

Lansing Established Member

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Is it possible that they were expecting something else physically or just weren't into you?

phineas Established Member

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I've turned it down quite a bit.

But mostly because I could smell the stage 5 clinger on them. :eek:

therhythm Established Member

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I've turned it down quite a bit.

But mostly because I could smell the stage 5 clinger on them. :eek:

 

It is actually funny how much entitlement some people have here... so just because I am a man I can't reject sex? :lmao::lmao::lmao:

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TigerCub Established Member

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It is actually funny how much entitlement some people have here... so just because I am a man I can't reject sex? :lmao::lmao::lmao:

 

You better not reject it when I visit Amsterdam ;):laugh:

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therhythm Established Member

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You better not reject it when I visit Amsterdam ;):laugh:

 

So when is your plain flying to Amsterdam? :p:):bunny::bunny:

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Els Established Member

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It is actually funny how much entitlement some people have here... so just because I am a man I can't reject sex? :lmao::lmao::lmao:

 

I've noticed that there are some folks who think that there are only two reasons a guy would turn down sex with a woman:

 

1) He's gay

2) He has ED

 

:rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:

 

Seriously, that's as bad as some of the people who think the only reason women want men is as ATMs...

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therhythm Established Member

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I've noticed that there are some folks who think that there are only two reasons a guy would turn down sex with a woman:

 

1) He's gay

2) He has ED

 

:rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:

 

Seriously, that's as bad as some of the people who think the only reason women want men is as ATMs...

 

Ahh Elswyth... it is so refreshing to read most of your posts! :bunny::bunny::bunny:

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will1988 Established Member

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As others have said, could it be that you are not as attractive as you look in your profile pics? Like maybe you take too many myspace angles and or use old younger photos of yourself? Could it also be that they sense that you are clingy or needy? I will reject sex outright if I get the smallest hint that you are clingy, crazy, skanky etc... Also, could that be it? Do you give off a skank vibe? Lastly, they could be in relationships or married, and fantasized about cheating but when the time came their concsious kicked in and they got cold feet. I am not labeling you any of these things... but there is a missing part of this puzzle that you are with holding from us.

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Robert Established Member

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Thread starter, if you would like your thread reopened then alert on my post and we will do so.

 

Thanks

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