Talulah Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 It hasn't been a month since he has left, about two weeks since we've spoken and now he seems like a distant memory. I blocked him from Skype and e-mail. I have my weak moment and GOD they hurt! I still love him. I want to see him again, but I want him to come to me. So confused. Today was a good day though
aloneinaz Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 NC does work. I'm 7 weeks now of strict NC since she ended it. She seems like a stranger to me now. I've been dating for a month and am seeing someone I really like right now. This has also really been key for me to move on and put the ex in the rear view mirror. Time and NC are the keys to getting over it. I'd also say dating or spending time with the opposite sex helps as well. Do I still think of my ex? Yes, but all I think of when I think of her was what a nasty, vindictive, angry, unhappy with her life, snappy, short, stressed out and a bitch she turned out to be. It's hard to miss a person like this and I remind myself that the person I fell in love with was in her words "on her best behavior" during that time. I'm still shocked that I got rejected (first time ever) but I don't miss walking around on egg shells and wondering what her moods were going to be like hour to hour.. I miss her kids terribly but not her.
theonlyjuan Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 He probably think you have forgotten him. It's hard, give it time anayze u could be friends one day. NC is hard at first but memories do start to fade. Only problem I had was I kept imagining that she was so much better than she is.
aloneinaz Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 I'm afraid that he forgot me:lmao: Trust me, they don't forget about us that easily. That's just your heart and mind playing tricks on you. Stay NC for YOU and for you to heal. Relationships run their course and we have to move on to new ones. I've had relationships with women that I didn't even love. I still think of them 20 years later on occasion. Our exe's can't turn off a switch after a couple of weeks or a few months. Even if there in a new relationship. It's too fresh. Things, shows, songs on the radio, places will remind them of us. It won't make them necessarily want us back but it will keep us in their minds. The key point you need to get to is to NOT CARE if he thinks of you or not. He's not in your life anymore and you'll get to that stage.
Author Talulah Posted July 21, 2013 Author Posted July 21, 2013 He probably think you have forgotten him. It's hard, give it time anayze u could be friends one day. NC is hard at first but memories do start to fade. Only problem I had was I kept imagining that she was so much better than she is. Yea, I do put him on a pedestal but then I knock him down. Maybe we will be friends, or maybe not.
Author Talulah Posted July 21, 2013 Author Posted July 21, 2013 Trust me, they don't forget about us that easily. That's just your heart and mind playing tricks on you. Stay NC for YOU and for you to heal. Relationships run their course and we have to move on to new ones. I've had relationships with women that I didn't even love. I still think of them 20 years later on occasion. Our exe's can't turn off a switch after a couple of weeks or a few months. Even if there in a new relationship. It's too fresh. Things, shows, songs on the radio, places will remind them of us. It won't make them necessarily want us back but it will keep us in their minds. The key point you need to get to is to NOT CARE if he thinks of you or not. He's not in your life anymore and you'll get to that stage. 50% there. I feel bad cutting him out but for now, it's the best. I am moving to another country to do a course, which he is doing right now. Then, I finsh the course and go home, while he will go teach in another country. Lots of transition. So, it's best for now. Then, once he and I settle into routine, then maybe we can have contact. But till then...it's NC.
mano Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 Happy for u dear. Keep it up. N stick to it. I am glad to know u have already progressed so much within a fortnight.
Author Talulah Posted July 21, 2013 Author Posted July 21, 2013 Happy for u dear. Keep it up. N stick to it. I am glad to know u have already progressed so much within a fortnight. Thank you Mano! I feel like I am making much progress. I have been able to look at the bad things very well, I have some moments when I feel incredibly sad. I don't like the fact that it's been almost two weeks since he last e-mailed me. But whatever, I hope that he is healing too. He probably needs it as well.
Author Talulah Posted July 22, 2013 Author Posted July 22, 2013 I actually don't care if he is healing....why are people SOOOO petty and mean when they break-up with you??? what's the point? does it make them feel better? Last time I broke up with someone, I didn't cuss them out, did not 'forget to send them e-mails', or did other petty things. Maybe because my self esteem is high enough? ahhhh.....some people are just a serious waste of human space:mad:
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