HarleyBrown2 Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 (edited) My ex gf of 14 months dumped me saying her heart said one thing, head another and that we would just go round in circles if we stayed together, but that she wants to keep me in her life and doesn't want to lose me... I tired to do the whole friendship thing but it was to hard, because she would still be affectionate and I believe she played games to get attention etc.. So I had to go NC... She text several times saying she missed me, did I want to meet up and a few hello's, then some stuff on FB, I ignored all... Anyway I was/am doing really well with moving on, but then 5 weeks into NC we happen to be on a course together... The chances of being on the same course is like 1 in 500!! I freaked out massively at the idea of seeing her, but I was actually fine (yaaaay NC really does help you heal and move on) she was really nice, but then slipped back into her old habits of trying to make me jealous (only little remarks, butninknew what she was up to), then moving on to talking about when we were together, and then after I didn't give her the response she wanted she turned moody and snappy, at which point it ticked that this is one of the reasons we didnt work out... Her attitude, so I didn't react l, I just carried on! She then said 3 x I bet you're glad you're not with me anymore etc, to which I didn't answer instead I just carried on with what I was doing... We then spoke at the end of the day about NC continuing, but I said I reckon I'll be able to be in contact soon because I'm making progress, she said she'd leave me alone because I never reply anyway... But then I got a text late that night saying hello... To which I ignored.... Just wondering if anyone can make sense of this situation because I for one can't!! I previously posted updates on my sitch if you need a better understanding, but this is where I'm at!! Thanks guys/gals Edited July 23, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs
theonlyjuan Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 Sounds like another dumper who just assumes you can be friends right away. Why do they find it so hard to accept things will be different after. I hate the whole I dumped you but I still want u in my life and will use you when I need you. Might be the mood I'm in lately but sod her! Go NC until you want to talk She sounds young and immature
JDPT Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 She does this for her own personal satisfaction and uses you as a crutch in the process. Remain NC as stated, there were reasons for the break up and it looks like you are way past those.
Author HarleyBrown2 Posted July 22, 2013 Author Posted July 22, 2013 Thanks guys... It's quite clear she's just playing games or needs me to feed her ego, but luckily I'm in a better place and have learnt to be stronger!! Maybe one day i'll want her in my life as a friend, but for now, I'm focusing on moving onwards and up!
crederer Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 Your post sounds quite similar to what I've been going through for the last 4 months.
Author HarleyBrown2 Posted July 23, 2013 Author Posted July 23, 2013 Your post sounds quite similar to what I've been going through for the last 4 months. Hey Crederer, I feel for you as you say you're going through the same thing, it's a pretty heart breaking situation, having to learn to move on from someone you love, but know its not right to be with them also... What happened to you?!
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