year long story..

[loveRight]

Long story short we met a yr ago..tried to make it work twice once in aug& again in nov...never offically got into a relationship..because he was going through personal issues wouldnt want to talk about it even tho i knew somthing was wrong and well he just kept on having these moments and he would ignore me so it was best to jst leave him alone..cannot get far when youre talking to a wall.

 

We..well I kept in contact with him through out the yr on holidays and his bday. Fast forward...another 7months to this summer. i hear from him and he sounds like a desperate puppy wanting to find a home asap, telling me how much he misses me and the way i am my smile blahblah. SO again we agree to hangout and he sounded completely different from before and his behavior was a bit different as well..more intense& loving. we start hanging out again..and he tells me that hes better now and HE tells me that the REASON we DIDNT WORKOUT WAS BECAUSE OF THE PROBLEMS HE WAS GOING THROUGH. But i find OUT he was in a RELATIONSHIP With some1 else for 3MNTHS...

 

Just this yr! who he introduced to his fam and vice versa and i mean u have to be serious about a person to introduce him/her to your family! right?! (he did introduce me to his grandparents). Exactly but i find out all of this information...AFTER agreeing to be his gf. He gave this long and intense speech about me and how amazing i am and the qualities i hold as a person..he would be very lucky to have me as his gf things like that. he also said that we should completely forget the past and move forward and just focus on us frm today on. BUT everything really started bothering me mentally &emotionally. YES i did fall for him the first day we met and i just couldnt get over him this entire time. so all of the frustration started building up on top of eachother to the point where i jst didnt know how to approach the situation and TALK to him about everything & how it was bothering me.

 

So i finally did and that did NOT go anywhere. things started going downhill frm there.. i mean who says we need to keep our arguements through the phone so the time we spend together in person is not spoiled? so the following week he actually attacks me with this long text about the way i am and how i tried to talk **** about him...trying to be a smartass and how thats not the type of gf he wants. ALL i was trying to do was communicate with him..and why he lied to me because he obviously had time for a gf..( and she was the type of girl he said he would never want to be in a relationship with) so that makes him a hypocrite right there. so anyways he said alot more things & the following day i wanted to talk to him about the things that were bothering me..

 

through text..so i sent him the text messages and i recieve NO RESPONSE for 24hrs. and so i txt him the nxt day nd he 1st of all tells me oh wow its the afternoon and finally u decide to txt me shows how much u care. he expects me to txt him goodmorning everyday but thats not the point so he ends up telling me that he doesnt like drama..and how i always have a problem with this& that. he just wants things to be normal. that makes no sense to me because i just wanted to clear the past so we could move on. is that wrong? its OKAY if he attacks me and speaks his mind but i cannot do the same? why is that? anyways so he kept on keeping himself as if hes just so incredible and im the one with the issues.

 

so everything really affected me i was angry with the entire situation..angry at myself for being so dumb and falling in love without clearing things up and rushing. i felt like the pressure of the relationship was on me and thats just not how it should be. so that afternoon i actually ended the relationship through txt and all i got frm him was a sad face..how pathetic? i feel very stupid right now that i waited a yr for this? anyways its been 3 days now and i havent heard from him. He was all talk and very very little action and i think iwas just fooled?

 

All i really wanted was to clear the past and be able to have a normal foundation to move forward with. if the situation was the other way around and i was in his place i would have taken that as part of my responsibility to clear things up with him because thats the least u can do for treating some1 that way.

Any thoughts and opinions? i appreciate it

Edited July 21, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[Newbie37]

I have been in a slightly similar situation myself so understand how you feel, the guy I hooked up with was in a relationship at the time but had decided it was long over before ending it in Dec last year or so I thought, I have reason to bel it was Feb wen they did finish, and not only that he now has a new gf who he got with pretty quick after we ended, and she has already met his family!!! I have questions I would love to ask him about, however I just feel he will continue to lie about it all the same as he has al along, I am still in contact with him although I am wondering why as I know the things he tells me are constant lies about where he has been etc and who with, its almost like he does not want to hurt me by telling the truth but does not realise it hurts more that he is lying!!! I have decided that asking him outright will cause me more hurt so will leave it, I think you need to decide if you can move on with your relationship and put the past to rest, its hard I know but it all depends on it you can see a future with him.

 

For me the lies he continues to tell just confirm how little he thinks of me and makes me realise what I meant to him

[loveRight]

i feel your pain! <3 its really sad that they just do not want to understand whats really going on and how their actions affect the person in front. i have thought about just "forgetting" but when you really think about it and having a future with that type of person only tells u they'll continue being the same way and situations will only get worse.

Best of luck to youu